With Tom never staying faithful to Daisy, and Daisy never ending her relationship with Tom in response, the dysfunctional nature of their relationship comes to light. For Tom, his need to gratify his ego prevents himself from stopping the number of extramarital affairs he has. For Daisy, her low self-esteem born from the social stigma of women at the time, leads her to stay with a man she knows is no longer truthful to her. While those psychological disorders may lead to a defective relationship, other issues such as a fear in commitment in both of them may also lead to their relationship maintaining itself. While ego gratification may explain some of the actions Buchanan performs, his extramarital affairs may actually stem from a fear in
Daisy Buchanan uses her need for attention and people to adore her most likely to cover up her fear of isolation. From the beginning Daisy has virtually been alone. Her husband Tom was not even there for the birth of their only daughter. “Well, she was less than an hour old and Tom was God knows where. I woke up out of the ether with an utterly abandoned
So, Tom is able to continue his relationship with Daisy, even though he had no interest in her at the beginning, by moving her away from Gatsby. Therefore, it can be seen that due to his wealth, Tom is able to be careless and dangerous with his actions since he does little to stop the affair between Daisy and Gatsby, abuses Myrtle and cheats on Daisy. However, while Tom uses his money to continue his careless and dangerous action, Daisy uses her money to stay irresponsible with her actions.
Daisy throughout the novel was part of a failing marriage, specifically her husband affair with Myrtle. In the beginning of the novel, Daisy did not know she had an option to get out of her marriage, and could live a happier life with Gatsby. When Daisy first learned of Tom’s affair, she seemed embarrassed not for him but herself, considering this was not the first time Tom has had an affair and
The Great Gatsby is considered to be a great American novel full of hope, deceit, wealth, and love. Daisy Buchanan is a beautiful and charming young woman who can steal a man’s attention through a mere glance. Throughout the novel, she is placed on a pedestal, as if her every wish were Gatsby’s command. Her inner beauty and grace are short-lived, however, as Scott Fitzgerald reveals her materialistic character. Her reprehensible activities lead to devastating consequences that affect the lives of every character. I intend to show that Daisy, careless and self-absorbed, was never worthy of Jay Gatsby’s love, for she was the very cause of his death.
He likes Daisy not for true love but rather for a possession-type relationship. He cheats on her and is proud of it. When with Daisy, he rarely acts romantic because he is always preoccupied with his greed. He doesn't strive for her love because he knows his wealth will keep her with him. He has a very realistic approach on life. He sees things as they are. This allows Tom to stay happy and rarely be disappointed.
Tom’s infidelity in his marriage clearly expresses his views about his wife, Daisy. In seeking an affair, he conveys that Daisy is deficient and not worthy of devotion. Daisy knows of his affairs, but because of the time period and their social class, she is helpless to do anything. As a woman in the 20th century, it would destroy Daisy to divorce Tom, even though the entirety of New York knows about Tom’s affair.
Daisy is actually a very weak person. This is probably due to all the physical and mental abuse she has suffered by her husband. She allows him to have complete control over her and order her around as if she were a small child. In a way, she seems to like that Tom is in control because she never has the burden of making decisions. Because of Tom?s finances, Daisy never is in need of anything. She likes living a life of luxury and appears to be quite happy with her situation. While she may not like the concept of her husband cheating on her, she would never consider leaving him or getting a divorce because of what society would think of her. It is Daisy herself that chooses to remain in a loveless marriage.
This is a sign of immorality. Tom Buchanan is an arrogant and ignorant character throughout the novel. His wealth and power allows him to be as immoral as he is. Tom uses Mr. Wilson’s wife as a mistress the he uses only for physical pleasure. Mr. Wilson does not know that he is in a position of being cheated on.
First of all, The Buchanans, are having many problems and are very unsatisfied with their lives. Daisy is not happy with her relationship with Tom. We do not find this out till the end of the book that she is in love with Gatsby. Daisy is also unsatisfied with Tom's actions. He was not at the hospital when her daughter was born , and he continuously leaves her alone to go on with other mistresses. Daisy is so disgusted with him, she finds him revolting after being embarrassed by him everywhere she goes. Tom is also unsatisfied with his relationship, in the book Jordan Baker says “ That’s Tom’s girl on the telephone, ”(Fitzgerald 116). Throughout the book Tom has been cheating on Daisy with mistresses, the main one being Myrtle. The fact that Tom is cheating in the first place shows he is not the happiest with Daisy. Daisy knows on the phone Myrtle is sometimes on the other line, leading her to fall for Gatsby harder. Both Daisy and Tom do not have those true feelings for one another, leading for both to be unhappy and unsatisfied in their own marriage. Being this unhappy, causes for other people to think they had chances with both Tom and Daisy and for those significant others, to be out for mostly Tom but Daisy as well. The amount of anger that comes from how unsatisfied they are leads, to Myrtle and Gatsby both being
Like all the relationships in this novel Daisy and Tom Buchanan’s marriage is not what most would call a successful one. Did both of them achieve what they wanted? Yes, Tom got the beautiful wife of his dreams and Daisy got a very wealthy and powerful husband. The marriage was very beneficial for the both of them. They used each other to get what they truly wanted which was not true
Tom Buchanan is a man who has achieved any achievement you could possibly ask for by the age of twenty one. He has accomplished anything he wants to accomplish in his life, lots of awards, lots of money, a beautiful wife a child, he has worked long, hard and honestly for what he has, however, he has what to live for now? While that is very impressive and something he will remember the rest of his life, it can also be depressing.In consequence, Tom wants to find some excitement in life or simply something to do to fill a empty space in his life, that person is Myrtle Wilson. Although Tom seems to be a respectful gentlemen, we learn that he has little respect for women. When Nick visits Tom and Daisy’s house for the first time, Jordan tells Nick in private, “‘You mean to say you don't know?" said Miss Baker, honestly surprised. "I thought everybody knew." "I don't." "Why−." she said hesitantly,
Daisy, on the other hand, seems at first as though she truly does love and care for her husband. While Tom keeps himself at a distance in both relationships, Daisy seems to possess an outright need for his company. This is supported by Jordan’s recollection of Daisy’s behavior towards Tom after marrying him: “If he left the room for a minute she’d look around uneasily and say: ‘Where’s Tome gone?’ and wear the most abstracted expression until she saw him coming in the door. She used to sit on the sand with his head in her lap by the hour, rubbing her fingers over his eyes and looking at him with unfathomable delight” (Fitzgerald, 76-77). That being said, there are in fact several signs that point toward Daisy not loving her husband at all. Perhaps the most notable is her behavior just before her and Tom’s wedding ceremony, when she is found “lying on her bed as lovely as the June night in her flowered dress – and as drunk as a monkey. She had a bottle of Sauterne in one hand and [Gatsby’s] letter in the other” (76). Daisy goes so far as to even momentarily call off the marriage altogether, ordering the bridesmaids to “tell ‘em all Daisy’s change’ her mine. Say: ‘Daisy’s change’ her mine!’” (76). Why, then, does she marry Tom after all and seem so in love with him afterwards? People usually seek out partners who will make them happy, protect them from that which they fear, etc. What does Daisy fear? She
Tom takes advantage of this situation and manipulates Daisy to completely depend on him. Daisy has spent her whole life being used to someone telling her what to do, and her relationship with Tom is no different. Even right after they got married, “If he left the room for a minute she’d look around uneasily and say: ‘‘Where’s Tom gone?’ and wear the most abstract expression until she saw him coming in the door” (77). Daisy relies solely on Tom and is “uneasy” without him around. Her dependence on Tom reflects not only his hyper masculinity, but how little he cares about Daisy. Despite this, he knows Daisy will never leave him, and pushes their marriage to the brink by having multiple affairs.
Daisy Buchanan has a similar lifestyle to Tom, she’s wealthy ‘voice is full of money’ and always wore ‘white’ symbolising her purity and wealth. However as a woman of a higher class, there not much she can do in her ‘shallow life’, as she has the money but doesn’t know how to plan events ‘what do people plan?’. This shows that she is not content with her knowledge and understanding of life therefore even with money she isn’t ‘happy’. This leads her to ‘have an affair’ with an ex-lover whom she so adored before she married Tom ‘I did love him once – But I loved you too’. In the novel, Daisy only every seeks true love when she’s with Gatsby but ‘a rich girls don’t marry poor boys’, so due to this social difference between them, she knows the only place she will ever have security is with Tom. Tom describes their affair as a ‘presumptuous little flirtation’ because to Daisy, she knew she was never going to marry Gatsby but to Gatsby it was just never
Tom drained Daisy of all her independence the instant they tied the knot and agreed to conform to a typical marriage. He takes advantage of this situation and not only abuses his control over Daisy, but manipulates her to completely depend on him. Daisy has always been used to someone telling her what to do, and her relationship with Tom is no different. She is not a whole person without him to the point where even, “If he left the room for a minute she’d look around uneasily and say: ‘‘Where’s Tom gone?’ and wear the most abstract expression until she