Most times you hear of parents telling their kids to try to be the best they can be. It’s not often you hear kids talk about their parents telling them to be just enough. What is the best advice for parents to give to their kids? To shoot for the stars or to shoot low? I believe that parents should tell their kids to try to reach for their dreams, no matter how impossible they seem.
In A Hope in the Unseen, Phillip’s father advises his kids to set attainable goals so they can have some security. The advice that Phillip’s father gives him and his siblings does have it strengths. As his father says, it does allow for some security in knowing their future. It also doesn’t set up for possible disappointment if their goals are not met.
Though the “shoot low” strategy has it’s strengths, there are weaknesses to it. For starters, it limits kids in what they’re able to do in their future. It also doesn’t give kids a chance to be the best they can be. Just because some goals seem way out there, and may be extremely difficult to reach,
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Cedric was given nearly the same deck of cards as Phillip. The only difference was Cedric’s will to succeed and Cedric’s mother making sure that he knew he could do it. If Phillip’s father did what Cedric’s mother did, maybe Phillip would have done the same as Cedric. Maybe he would have tried in school, gone to college, and could have reached his full potential.
Although I strongly believe that parents should tell their kids to shoot for the starts and try their best, whether or not parents decide to tell their kids to shoot low is their choice. In the case, parents are like pet keepers and their kids are like birds. So as a parent, they can either be the wind underneath their kids wings, or they can be the one to cut their wings so their kids can only fly so
One might even be so bold as to say that having kids play to adult standards is irresponsible as a parent. You can’t make the comparison between your child’s ability to that of Babe Ruth. Even instilling this mentality as a kind of aspiration serves only to pressure a child, not build up self esteem. When noting the fact that your child’s total muscle mass probably equates to that of a professional’s right leg it becomes glaringly clear that perhaps something ought to be reconsidered. I agree completely with Statsky that the standards parents and coaches force upon the children they are meant to inspire and motivate are more often than not both unattainable and far more detrimental to a child’s physical and mental health than we realize.
Will-power and determination plays a major role when it comes to people accomplishing goals and performing the tasks they are given. When a person possesses these two qualities they are motivated, focused, will not give up easily, determined along with many other things. The word determination is defined as, “the act of coming to a decision or of fixing or settling a purpose.” Will-power is, “the strength or will to carry out one’s decisions, wishes, or plans.” In the short story A Worn Path by Eudora Welty, the main character Phoenix carried out the meaning of these two words throughout the whole story. She had experienced many road blocks during her journey, but she did not let them stop her from reaching
Indeed, from this article we recognize that the children will gain success when everybody encourages their effort and shouldn’t emphasize inborn talent. Effort counts more than innate ability.
Julie Lythcott-Haims explains to us all what a perfect child is; straight A student, fabulous test scores, gets homework done without parents asking them to do it… She has the right idea, the right mindset of a parent, every parent wants their child to succeed in life. The way that parents are parenting their children is messing them up. They don’t have a chance to become themselves, they are too focused on whether they did good on that test that they were stressing about for a week, they are too worried about getting the best grade to be able to get accepted into the biggest name colleges around. The parents become too consumed with hovering over their children making sure that they are doing flawlessly in school, the parents are directing their every single move they make. The children then began to think that their parents love comes from the good grades. Then they start making this checklist; Good grades, what they want to be when they grow up, get accepted into good colleges, great SAT scores, the right GPA, the jock of the sports team.
During Sharon M. Drapers childhood years, they were very successful because of her parents. Her parents encouraged her and her siblings to study, work hard, and as a result they could reach any goal they set for themselves. As encouraging as her parent were, they would set standards for each child and push them to be the best they could be. Her parents taught her that every opportunity you get you take because you never know what the future holds for many cases. In the educational aspects “For her parents education was precious commodity”. (SharonDraper1) Ever since the time
The first way Philip demonstrates that you have to work hard to get toward your goal, is when he asks his coach about trying out for the track team, which ends negatively. In the book, Philip wants to try out for the track team, but he got a D on his mid-term exam in English
In turn, this teaches them the valuable lesson that “hard work can lead to success” (Source F). Confidence is not handed to a kid, but it is built and earned through their failure and success. This constant drive for excellence leads to the significant improvement of the child and gives him/her the opportunity to take their life into their own hands and make their own decisions about their focus and efforts. Some may say that opportunities and success in life are all based on luck. However, reality strangely seems to display that the harder one works, the more luck that individual will seem to have.
Things Not Seen is written by Andrew Clements. The Genre of the book is non-fiction. The setting of the book is in Detroit. The weather time is winter. The time Bobby, the person who got invisible got invisible was a morning.
When I was little I always thought that I was better at things than everyone but when I grew up I found out that you can win but you have to lose to be the best that you can. Carol Dweck a psychology professor once said, “Kids respond positively to praise: they enjoy hearing that they’re talented, smart, and so on. But after such praise of their innate abilities, they collapse at the first experience of difficulty.” I agree with what she said but I believe that you don’t have to praise a kid that much to where they’re at the point to where the can’t try harder later in their
The television series Lost portrays constant struggles for power as the survivors of a plane crash must now survive upon an Island with no hope of rescue. The survivors must learn to live and work together. The work of Thomas Hobbes and Georg Hegel both help to explain the effects of social power and why it is held by some and not others. Hobbes (1651) helps to explain the social contract that was created to keep the peace among the survivors while Hegel (1977) explains the lord and bondsman relationship between the two leading characters. Individually Hobbes and Hegel describe the power relations of the Lost characters well but when used in combination they illuminate the relationships more efficiently. This allows for the differences and similarities between the two theorists to become clear, showing that one alone cannot explain all aspects of a situation.
“Everyone's life, no matter how unremarkable, has a singular tragic encounter after which everything that really matters will happen,” or so believes the protagonist of Robyn Schneider’s The Beginning of Everything, Ezra Faulkner. Numerous characters in the novel are hit with unimaginable tragedies. However, the one character who struggles the most with their tragedy is Ezra. Although, with the help and continued support from his various peers at a time when his entire world is crashing down on top of him, he overcomes his challenges and in the end, he becomes a much stronger individual while also discovering his true self. This boy demonstrates his growth in several ways. He overcomes his belief that
Although in the present time we leave high school and we have a greater knowledge than most other people in the world that live outside the U.S., but somehow we still feel so insecure because we have still not been properly prepared for the world that lies ahead. The us is so packed full of people with the skills that are required for the job that we desire and if we have not been properly prepared the job will be given to someone who has been. So many parents believe starting at a young age with their children will help them to become the best possible person that they can be. They achieve this by pushing them to prepare for things like college not and not to wait, they expect lots of things from them so that they know that they are expected to do great things. Other parents do not push their kids but rather let them make decision on their own, they let them live there own life, and hopefully gain the motivation to become something great. This raises great controversy over whether parents and teachers should push kids to become more than they themselves believe that they can be. I believe that
Like many parents and coaches, the goal of putting their kids in sports is to win medals, make the traveling team, or even win the city championship. Daniel Gould says “We’re starting kids too young, we’re specializing them too early and we’re sending them into competition before they’re ready.” Most parents today intervene too soon, it is hard for parents to watch their kid fail, so they will do everything and anything to help them get better. Parents should know what is expected of them when they enroll their children.
Hope grew up fascinated with the study of trees and plants as she watched her father , who was a scientist, work long hours in his laboratory. While, her mother had to end the beginning of her career because she did not have enough time, money or as many opportunities as men. However, Hope was also able to grow and learn from them because she viewed both sides. “He taught me that there is no shame in breaking something, only in not being able to fix it-- My mother believed that there was a right way and wrong way to do everything, and that doing it wrong meant doing it over” (Jahren 8-14). What Hope’s mother and father were trying to present is that if you fail at something, at least learn something from it. Thus, her parents had a major influence in her life.
If the parents have not achieved much based on their own standards, and/or the standards of others, then they may expect their children to follow on similar paths and are not anticipating great successes from them. The parents see their children as not having the ability to perform great accomplishments. This idea applies to teachers as well. Teachers do not always expect equal performances from every student. They might believe that a student that comes from a family with a higher income will learn more and be more successful in school, and this might show. Kids can tell from tone of voice and body language2 whether or not a teacher or parent expects great things from them, and the students usually live up to whatever expectations are put on them. “It has long been understood that expectations influence achievement. When teachers and parents believe that a child will do well, the child usually does better than when he is thought to be incapable.”3