A long distance relationship is a thought that makes most couples cringe. The thought of being miles upon miles away is something that can make people question the strength of their relationship. However, this trend of long distance is something that is becoming more and more common with the advancement of technology such as video chatting sources like Facetime or Skype. This trend is something I’ve personally noticed many college students, especially freshmen, experiencing. They have their high school sweetheart that is suddenly moving miles away to another college. They do not know how to handle it but, of course, they try and make it work. I am much like all these people except I never had the experience of living close to my significant other. We’ve always been miles apart, seven hundred and seventy-eight to be exact. And even though it has its hard times, it always seems worth it when we’re together. I am by no means an expert, but I am hoping that through my experiences, I can inspire someone to try and make it work. What I’ve figured out is how important communication is. It is so important to communicate everything. If something he or she does makes you uncomfortable, let him know. If he says the sweetest thing in the world to you and it makes your heart melt, let him know. By keeping things bottled up in your head, its just going to make you frustrated, upset, and most likely, hurt. Long distance relationships are so complicated. There is no set formula to them.
The least they can do is try to continue their relationship with long distance. It has been reported that, “75% of college students at some point have been in a long distance relationship,” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). In addition, “25% to 50% of college students are in a long distance relationship at any given time” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). Couples that identify with the idea that there is no hurt in trying, find that it might not be so bad after all. Although abruptly severing ties is not the appropriate response to a grand separation to come, leaving one another with the idea that both parties are on the exact same page is not a wise path to take either. A couple does not just simply come to an unspoken consensus about what is expected of each other. It is important for them to sit down and “engage in open and honest communication about the separation and discuss what each wants from the relationship” (Penn State Behrend: “Long Distance Relationships” 1). At the end of the day, miles are temporary, yet relationships don't have to be.
I learned from this class that a long distance relationship should have theses four important values like observation, needs, feeling, and request. Since, most of the long distance relationships might not be able to meet frequently,so communication is one of the most significant thing for couples to sustaining their long distance relationships. Furthermore, even if the relationship is not a long distance one still it is very important what both of you value and would like to have a clear picture about the relationship.
I feel that we should communicate in person. You can get more detail in person or notice how that person is feeling which you don’t get so much detail over the phone. Plus the internet has had a lot of bad things happen on it over the past few years on email or just social media. Then there is also lots of arguments that start over the internet.
Family seems to be a big topic in manys books but even bigger on the web and through cyberspace. Perry Patetic in his excerpt argues that our highly mobile and growing society is creating a lack of relationship with family and friends. The author supports his argument by first explaining how easy it is to just move away. He continues by explaining how far we do travel when we do move away and by what mode of transportation. The authors purpose is to persuade the audience to not travel far from family and stay relatively close so that relationships can be kept, preserved, and maintained. The author establishes a sincere tone for families. The authors argument is invalid because we are in the age of online technology and services that allow us to see family from afar and cherish the few moments that we get in person.
Getting the family together for the holidays may be a little harder when they are 1000 miles apart. Perry Patetic in his passage, claims that it is too easy to move away from the friends and family of our past, this creates a loss in friendship and or relationships. Patetic supports his argument by first explaining why people are able to move so far away. He continues by comparing the differences between a close relationship to a long distance relationship. The authors purpose is to point-out the struggle of a long distance relationship in order to change one’s opinion on the topic. The author displays a sincere tone for the newer generation.
Two clichés: Absence makes the heart grow fonder and Out of sight, out of mind. Which one of these two conflicting views is closer to the reality? As it turns out, it does not really matter that much since long distance relationships (LDR) suffer from exactly the same strengths and weaknesses as proximal relationships. Whether two people are going to have fulfilling relationship does not only depend on their geographical closeness. What matters is quality, not quantity. According to one expert on LDRs, "the majority of studies that have been done show no greater risk of an LDR breaking up than any other relationship (Guldner, 2004, p. 6)." An LDR relationship has the same likelihood of
People tend to stray away from long distance relationships because it’s difficult to stay together when you’re far apart. People can now strengthen their long distance relationship through social media. It is easier to stay connected and you can even talk to one another every day. Another example is with people you might not see every day. I still keep in good contact with my exchange partner from Germany using Facebook and WhatsApp. We haven’t seen each other for a whole year now and we still speak as if neither of us left each other’s
The little things I crave to share with her in person are now shared through text messaging. This proves to be difficult due to our different time zones. There is a three-hour time difference. Normally when she is just waking up I am having my lunch. By this point, the excitement I previously contained is no longer there. I never understood the difficulty of long distance relationships. However, now I understand how challenging it is to maintain a relationship where one individual is in a different time zone.
Well, my boyfriend and I took that phrase literally when the first clicked thrusts us into an ongoing long-distance relationship. This story highlights key elements that test the bonds of our relationship. Factors such as: southern values, addiction, risks of Internet dating, coming-out, unforgettable flaws, racism, and the motif of music plays a major role for both of us. Those factors are just a few of countless others that turn an online relationship into reality. While reading this story, you hopefully be experiencing more than the basic emotions. You would experience: discomfort, guiltiness, adoration, and many other emotions. Those emotions
Having a boyfriend that lives an hour away would not be a big deal to some people, but I am taking eighteen credits and Theo is taking fourteen credits. While taking fourteen credits, Theo is also working between forty to fifty hours a week so that he can pay for his college. Many of the statistics that I 've read have stated “learning to communicate in a distance milieu, interpreting the tone of their boyfriend 's voice, compensating for their lack of contexts, working harder at communication, and committing themselves to the extra efforts
Before the birth of technology and social media, people approached their significant others face-to face. They encountered their future wives or husbands at schools, malls, markets, libraries or at any physical places. Everyone came to know others by recognizing their real faces, hearing their real voice, and understanding their real personalities. However, as the trend of using technological devices and social media continues to increase, most people prefer sitting behind their screens to search for their romantic partners. They encounter their potential lovers on social media such as Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. According to Janet Buder,
Some might say that distance ruins families and strong relationships, but does it really. As Patetic claims, “We tend to lack the close supportive relationship that people in former generation enjoyed.” Which is forming friends and families that moving and living far from each other can and might break that connection you once had with someone. However, it is not the distance that breaks families connections it is the people. They have a decision to stay connected after moving, or they can simply not
In a study done with hundreds of college students, they were asked what relationships were most important to them. 47% answered romantic partner, 36% answered a friendship, and 14% answered a family member. (Adler, 302) From this study, you can conclude that most of our relationships that mean the most are our romantic relationships, but why? Romantic relationships are the most complicated because intimacy, gender, culture, and social media. In friendships you worry about types of friendships, gender, and social media. In family relationships there are patterns of communication, effective communication, and creating a family through good communication.
[Long distance relationships are very risky, does not mean it is impossible. Simple change of your lifestyle and attitude can help you to have a happy ever after. In fact, the biggest challenge for couples is less chances to see each other. To strengthen your relationship, let’s begin with creating trust with your partner.]
Communication is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship; just like a flower needs sun and water to stay alive, a relationship needs will and endearment. Lack of will leads to a spiraling world of misunderstanding and pain. Today, the common teenager’s world revolves around Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. Their brain craves to see what others are doing making them lose focus on what they were supposed to do. Today it is all about subtweeting relationship problems or texting complaints to friends. There is no confrontation or talking to the other person to tell them how you feel, leading to the main cause of lack of communication in relationships.