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Adult children of alcoholics have many characteristics that reveal that they have had an alcoholic in the family and have suffered because of it. Adult children of alcoholics have very good control over their feelings and behavior. Adult children of alcoholics try to control the feelings and behavior of others as well. The reason they do this is because they are afraid. They are not afraid of wanting to hurt themselves or others, but they fear if they let go of some control their lives will become worse and they will not be able to handle and control situations. The following are characteristics of adult children of alcoholics; fear of emotions or feelings, avoidance of conflict, a high burden of responsibility and constant approval seeking, …show more content…

Participants in alcohol anonymous follow the twelve step program, a set of steps to achieve abstinence from alcohol and achieve and maintain sobriety. The first step is 1)We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. This step is admitting that you are completely powerless over alcohol or substances and that you are unable to handle your addiction by yourself. The second step is 2) We Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. This step is about putting your faith into your higher power that they can help you and you are able to get better and live a normal life again. The third step is 3) We Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. This step is about completely turning your life over to your higher power and letting your higher power control and save your life. The fourth step is 4) Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. The fourth step is about doing soul searching and writing about things such as your self esteem,resentments, personal relationships, pride, fears, and emotional security. The fifth step is 5) Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Essentially the fifth step is simply a confession of personal wrong-doings. The sixth step is 6)We …show more content…

Experts that teach or study forgiveness have made it clear that when you forgive someone, one does not fret over or deny the seriousness of an offense against you or your person. Choosing to forgive takes a weight off your back and lets you move on with your life. Choosing not to forgive can leave you stuck and is very unhealthy. Though you should forgive, you should never forget. Though forgiveness can be a factor in fixing a damaged relationship, it does not obligate you to make up with the person or people who had harmed you. Some of the things that can get in the way of forgiveness are pride, pain, and anger. If you have been severely hurt by someone it makes it extremely hard to forgive them. When your encompassed by anger it is also hard to forgive with all the anger directed at the person. The most important thing is to learn how to forgive yourself. If you can not forgive yourself you can not ever move on. People make mistake and people do things they shouldn't have done, but that is life. If you make a mistake and can not forgive yourself you will be unable to move on in

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