Analysis Of Relational Unions And Connections

Although many books have been written about communication and connection in relationships, there has been a book that addresses precisely this wonderful process as has James C. Petersen in his book: Why Don’t We Listen Better? And it is precisely the way in which the parts he divided the book that takes the reader to a better understanding of what the personal relationships connections through communications are concerned.

Television psychologists and pop culture self-help gurus tell us that marriage is hard work; marriage is compromise; marriage is a choice between being right, and being happy. All of these statements are true. What these experts don’t tell us, however, is that marriage is also about putting on blinders, or looking on the bright side, or one of a hundred other trite phrases to explain the art of self-deception. In marriage, there are times when we may find it necessary to look the other way from our spouse’s faults or indiscretions, in the interest of self-preservation. For if we examine these problems too closely, our darkest, most secret fears may come true. Therefore, it can seem easier to focus on the positive. In her poem “Surprise,” Jane Kenyon uses denial, selective perception, and fear of betrayal to illustrate the self-deception that can occur in marriage.

Society continues to misrepresent the benefits of being in a loyal relationship by relaying a negative message of a false sense of happiness. Through movies and sitcoms such as “If loving you is Wrong,” individual’s attention gives prominence into the life of deception as a source of entertainment. Alex (Brad) and Marci (Randle) live as neighbors in a small suburb town. The couples often spend a great deal of time together. While Marci and Brad are away working, Alex and Randal become more than neighboring friends. Alex as a homemaker and Randal as a psychologist they have more than enough time to entertain each other. The act of deceitfulness in their marriage causes a spiral effect for both couples in this sitcom. However, these sources

Campral: Generic name is acamprosate. This oral medication works with behavioral changes and counseling to reinstate the chemical balance in the brain of an alcohol-reliant individual. However, it is not expected to be beneficial if the individual has not stopped drinking or experienced detoxification as well as addiction to other substances (Procyshyn, 2015). Campral does not go through hepatic metabolism but is excreted as unaffected drug through the kidneys. As a result, its half-life is about 20-33 hours with a negligible protein binding. When taken with food, Campral Cmax and AUC are decreased by about 42% and 23%, respectively; nonetheless, no dose adjustment is necessary and the drug may be given with meals (Drugs, 2017).

The book is structured around the Relationship Attachment Model, which was created by the author 20 years ago. It “portrays the different forces that create bonds in relationship” and it consists of “five fundamental dynamics, which are the depth to which you know, trust, rely on, have a commitment to and have sexual involvement with” (22). Each of these dynamics provides a unique contribution to the development of a relationship. According to the author, the key of building relationships (by using RAM) is to “keep a balance among the five relationship dynamics”. Whenever the dynamics shift, a person might experiences the feelings of being “unsafe in a relationship, hurt, mistrust and confusion” (24). This model was clearly based on some of the core relational communication theories such as Uncertainty Reduction (URT) and Social Penetration (SPT), as well as it follows Knapp’s staircase model in advising at how one should progress on the staircase and implications of going too fast.

One of the largest reasons that couples in the US get divorced is because one member of the couple commits infidelity with an outside member. Infidelity includes being unfaithful to your spouse or leaving your spouse to be with another more desired partner (Amato & Previti, 2003). When it comes to infidelity, more often than not one spouse will cite the other as having been the offender than themselves (Austin Institute, 2014). Reports from the Austin Institute

In “Sex, Lies and Conversation” Deborah Tannen argues that the problems of men and women in marriage are caused by a misunderstanding rather than lack of communication. Throughout the passage she discusses theses misunderstandings and reveals the solution to the problem.

In chapter 1, Levitt and Dubner describe how many people in different cultures and walks of life, which are otherwise inclined to be honest, find subtle ways of cheating to advance their position or increase monetary awards when incentives are strong enough. The authors define an incentive as “a means of urging people to do more of a good thing or less of a bad thing,” and identify three varieties of incentives. Economic incentives are those, which a person responds to in the marketplace. Social incentives motivate people to respond in a certain way because they care or are worried about how they will be viewed by others. Moral incentives appeal to a person’s sense of right versus wrong. Three case studies of the

Brown urges the reader to only be vulnerable with people who have earned your trust. She recommends that Floodlighters” work on “clarifying intentions, setting boundaries, and cultivating connection” (160). Oversharing leads to exactly what a person does no want: disconnection

Modern literature is known for questioning society and its various conventions. One question that these works often ask is, “What is real?” Some modern authors explore this question by placing their characters within self-constructed illusions that are later shattered by the introduction of reality. Marriages are frequently at the center of this theme, with one spouse crafting an illusory impression of the other. Modern literature demonstrates that a marriage built upon illusion will falter when exposed to reality.

In emerging adulthood, many people experience the need to share their personal life with someone else. Erikson name for this crisis is intimacy versus isolation and emerging adults and many older adults know this feeling very well (Berger, 2014, p. 551). As emerging adults begin feeling the need for human connection, friendships and intimate relationships deepen for this reason (Berger, 2014, p. 551). As a senior in high school my friends became an extremely important part of my life, we told each other everything and the need for human connection was evident as I always wanted to be with my friends and share my personal life with them. I had, and currently have, the same 2 friends that I would confide in about boy problems, health

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed undefined, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous - Hebrews 23:4" is the most important principle humans must follow when entering marriage. "Infidelity is commonly understood as a violation of the marital disagreement, a betrayal of one's heart, and a threat to the marital bond." (Mao & Raguram, 2009). Infidelity is an act of disobedience to remain faithful to your partner. Although infidelity can be a source of personal satisfaction, it may also lead to marital disruption and divorce which will eventually destroy marriages and families.

Some males and females try to cash in by being greedy and choosing to get married for money; when they choose a partner that they can depend on for life. Most of victims are singers, self-employed businessmen/women, actresses, or elder rich singles. Although they may not be forced into the marriage, these wealthy persons are unaware of the ulterior motives of their partner. The effect of marrying only for love is the eventual unfold of the lies and deceits of the particular partner. Another effect is if that rich person loses their wealth, the outcome is all the same. Depending if the person lost wealth or the ‘victim’ finds out the true motive of the relationship they will most likely divorce this person and continue on their search for true love or money.

Mistresses could also be able to provide more time and attention to men because they are free from obligations of a wife. This is a vivid manifestation that in our contemporary society there is an existing primary and secondary relation as far as social interaction is concern. On the part of the mistress, this social interaction relationship is relatively brief, formal and impersonal. However, on the part of the wife, the primary relation is reflected in the spirit of the human values of affection, acceptance, compassion, understanding and respect. And these values are said to be essential to the interaction. Addressing that the only satisfaction obtained from the secondary relation is intrinsic is totally different from the satisfaction obtained from the primary relation which focuses on the qualities of an individual and that they are not interchangeable (Pleck, 1985). One point that must be emphasized is that love and sex are

In A. L. Evangelista & D. Perlman, Cambridge handbook of personal relationships. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press ISBN 0-521-82617-9