The formation of attachment begins at birth with the child forming some type or form of attachment with their parents or primary caregiver. Hopefully, the child is able to form a proper or secure attachment with their parent or primary caregivers because the attachment formed between the parents or primary caregiver acts the foundation for how well the child will be able to form attachments with others outside the immediate family (Gullone, Ollendick, King,2006).This is because the type or level of attachment the child was able to form with his or her parent generally predicts the type or level of attachment the child will form with others outside their intermediate family. However, as the individual interacts with the outside world more and …show more content…
For example, the attachment survey determined that one of my type of attachments is attachment-related avoidance, this is one area or aspect of the survey which I believe is very accurate. While I am a social person and I generally enjoy interacting with other people, however, there are limits and restrictions. For example, I prefer to interact and socialize with people or individuals who I already know. Therefore, it usually it rather difficult for me to meet new people because the new person usually has to make the first move and introduce themselves to me. Usually, after meeting someone new it takes me a while to open up and share the real me. When I interact with a new person I usually keep the topic we discuss regarding them or general things. Most of my friends describe me as someone who is very easy to open up, trust and share with, but who takes a while to do the same. There are also limits to how much or how long I am willing to interact with other people. As much as I like interacting with other people I like and need my alone time too. With that being said, when I reach my limit of socializing I want or need my alone time. I would often come home from school or work and just want to be alone in my room reading or listening to music on my iPod. Another area the survey was accurate in was the comment that dismissive are usually perceived as …show more content…
One method I have for interacting or socializing with individuals outside my group of family and friends is to look for individuals who appear to be similar to myself in traits, characteristics, and personality. For example, when I first started working at Wal-Mart I tended to avoid the other workers who were loud and outgoing. Instead, the first friend I made at Wal-Mart was a female who seemed to be shy, quiet and like to hang back from the other employees. After interacting with the female more, I was pleased to discover that we did in fact, have a lot of the same characteristics, traits, and a similar personality. According to Mercer and DeRosier (2010) selecting friends based on similarities is fairly common and generally relationships based on the two members’ similarities are more rewarding. I believe relationships between two people brought together by similarities are more rewarding because the two individuals in the relationship realize the other person will be more understanding and less likely to judge them harshly. For example, I did not experience a healthy or even normal childhood, with that being said, some of my best friends are those who have also experienced some type or aspect of trauma in their life. With these friends, I am usually more open and more willing to share the real Katie with them. For me to interact or socialize with an individual I
Attachment is an emotional bond that is created between one person to another across a life span. Attachment can be a connection between two individuals, but it is a bond that involves a regular contact with that person and also expressed distress when separated from that person. Also, attachment can play an important role during childhood, adolescent and romantic relationships. Attachment tends to be enduring and meaningful because it can last for a long time between people. However, being attached can motivate children to stay close to people that they love. Attachment can also help people build emotional bond between each others, that can have a secure base so that people can safely explore their environment. Although studies have shown that children who are securely attached can also develop an increase of independence and confidence. Meanwhile, children who are not securely attached can develop risks such as poor internal working models in life.
Attachment is described as an "affectionate reciprocal relationship between an individual and another individual." Much psychological research has been carried out into the types of attachments that infants form with their caregivers, and the results gained from these studies show how early attachments can affect children whether positively or negatively.
Over the years research has shown that attachment is critical to human development, and that in many ways early childhood attachments set up a framework for intimate relationships in adulthood. As they begin to develop an attachment with their caregivers infants go through several phases. The first phase is the asocial phase, which occurs during the first six weeks of an infant's life (Shaffer & Kipp, 2014). The second phase is the phase of indiscriminate attachments, which lasts until the infant is six or seven months old (Shaffer & Kipp, 2014). When infants are about seven to nine months of age they are go through what is called the specific attachment phase (Shaffer & Kipp, 2014). It is during this time that infants establish their initial genuine attachments (Shaffer & Kipp, 2014). The development of a secure attachment during this time is critical for, "… it promotes the development of exploratory behavior" (Shaffer & Kipp, 2014). Finally, during the phase of multiple attachments, in which infants are about nine to eighteen months old, they begin to develop attachments to multiple people (Shaffer & Kipp, 2014).
“ (The Strange Situation). Based on the results of the Strange Situation, Ainsworth and her colleague identified three types of attachment styles, a secure attachment which composed a majority of the children in the experiment, insecure avoidant and ambivalent/resistant. For a child who has secure attachment can be “able to freely explore when the mother is around, interacts with the stranger when the mother is present but not when she is absent, shows distress when the mother leaves and is happy to see the mother return” (Mary Ainsworth). For a child that exhibits that inhibits “Anxious-Resistant Insecure Attachment is anxious to explore and is wary of the stranger even when the mother is present, is extremely distressed when the mother leaves, but is ambivalent when the mother returns. He will stay close to the mother upon her return, but will show resentment by resisting the mother's attention and pushing her away.” and for the child who inhibits “an Anxious-Avoidant Insecure Attachment will avoid or ignore the mother and show little emotion when his mother leaves and upon her
Since I was young, my attachment style has influenced me to be cautious when meeting new people and to sit back and observe new situations instead of joining in. One of the biggest issues that I have due to my attachment style is my unwillingness to put myself on the line and reach out to someone who I want to have a relationship with. Having an ambivalent attachment style influence me to only feel secure with those who I have known for a while and feel comfortable being myself around. While this may not seem like a positive quality of my attachment style, I believe that having a few well developed relationships is far better than having a copious amount of casual friendships. Another aspect of my ambivalent attachment style is my distaste of conflict or confrontation. Having an aversion to confrontation makes confronting my friends about their faith or about issues in our relationships an arduous task. Although having an ambivalent attachment style is trying, I know that through continual faith in the Lord, I will be able to develop the relationships He has planned for my
Attachment behaviour according to Mary Ainsworth (1985; Ainsworth and Bell, 1974; Ainsworth et al., 1978) forms the groundings for all potential associations and this develops up to two years after the child is born. She also harmonized with Bowlby on the view that the attachment bonding occurred within the age of two years old. Approximately when the child is seven months old they become wary of strangers and unknown surroundings. This continue until the child is about two years old. The procedure Ainsworth (1969) investigated to measure if a child was securely or insecurely attached was the ‘strange situation paradigm’. This entailed a sequence of short partings and reunions. The child’s parent and a stranger took part in the
John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth were also two influential individuals who were interested in the phenomena of attachment. The attachment theory was the collaborative work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth who were influenced by the psychodynamic school of thought. They believed that early in life, strong bonds are usually formed to their caregivers, and the quality of those attachments determines the expectations one will maintain on one’s self and others (Nolan-Hoeksema, 2007). Both Bowlby and Ainsworth believed that there are several different forms of attachment in early development, however, the two main types are secure and insecure attachments (Gross, 2011). Children who form secure attachments tend to be more confident that their caregivers will be there when they need them (Nolan-Hoeksema, 2007). This confidence facilitates the courage to explore their environment, returning to their caregivers when needing comfort or care (Nolan-Hoeksema, 2007). As children continue to develop, they will go on to expect that their other relationships will be secure, thus seeking out positive, strong relationships with others (Nolan-Hoeksema, 2007).
Crittenden (1997) emphasised that; “interaction between maturation and current experience as underlying dynamic changes in attachment relationships, suggesting that periods of greater maturational change (e.g. during preschool) would be associated with changes in patterns of attachment. According to this view, rather than continuity, change in the quality of attachment relationships.”
Attachment refers to the specific, strong, long-term binds in human interpersonal relationship. When getting along with whom one form attachment with, one would feel secure and comforted. Though some said that the attachment was firstly formed in pregnancy, the main formation of attachment is mostly developed in infancy and early childhood (less than 5 years old). In the second half of the first year, infant would start to recognize and become attached to the familiar caregiver who always responds to their needs. When they feel insecure or alarmed, the attachment would be served as the behavioral stimulation which directs them to turn to the caregivers for protection and
The ambivalent attachment style is once that is prone to severe insecurities. One who possess this particular style struggles with feel loved, feeling secure in a relationship, and feeling secure in themselves. This person is always believing that others are better than them. They feel insecure, unlovable, and undesired. The style also comes with a fear of being abandoned or rejected. It is hard for this style of attachment to get over their fear of being alone. It’s a natural tendency. It makes it very hard to have a relationship while having this attachment style because you never feel good enough.
Attachment styles are ways people interact with themselves and with others. There are four types of attachment styles: secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. The different types are determined by the way the individual thinks of themselves and of others. The ambivalent attachment style has a poor view of self and elevated view of others.
Attachments are formed in the very earliest months and years of life. These have a significant influence on emotional development as well as providing a template for the child as he or she grows into adulthood.
Our earliest relationships in life can be deeply formative in shaping our development. Created by John Bowlby, attachment theory relates the importance of attachment in regards to personal development. According to Bowlby, attachment is the leading factor in our ability to form and maintain relationships as adults (Levy 2012, pg. 157). As human beings, we need to feel as if we belong (Cherry, 2016). We find this belongingness in our relationships and attachments. However, we differ in our ability to form such relationships. Some people may find creating relationships with people to be a fairly simple while others find relationships to be difficult or even anxiety producing. Though we each feel a need to belong, we differ in this ability. Some people struggle in relationships and other find anything relating to relationships to be simple. These differences in how we maintain and create relationships may be due to our early life experiences. Research on attachment theory suggests that our early-life relationships may be responsible, at least in part, for these differences in adult relationships (Fraley, 2010). Data proves that these different attachment styles have different effects on how an individual deals with relationships. Previous research has dialed in on different
Attachment is the foundation for a strong relationship between caregivers and children. Children usually become attached to the person who cares for them most often during their first year of life. There is secure and insecure attachment which can affect a child and their future.
Attachment theory is a concept that explores the importance of attachment in respect to direct development. “It is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space” (Bowlby, 1969; McLeod, 2009). It is the relationship that develops within the first year of the infant’s life between them and their caregiver. The theory also relates to the quality of the attachment that is shown in the behavior of the infant (Rieser-Danner, 2016). Attachment theory shows that infants need a close nurturing relationship with their caregiver in order to have a healthy relationship. Lack of response from the caregiver