Dating, Marriage, Divorce
Dating, marriage, and divorce are three very important topics that each have commands from God to us. This paper will cover the Godly view on the three, and how the worldly views contradict and harm the marriage bed. First of all, Christian dating compared to “normal” dating is very different and is viewed as strange to many people. God commands that dating is to be pure and free of sexual immorality. Nowadays, it is just about the opposite of that. Many people decide to live together while they are dating, perhaps to see if they can handle living together, or just because they don’t feel like waiting. Many decide to have sexual relations before marriage. Some do this to see if they have sexul chemistry, or just …show more content…
Genesis 2: 24 says, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” This is very clear passage that states how special marriage is, and what a blessing sex is inside of marriage. “It must be remembered that God has instructed us that the gift of sex has been given man in order to "help Him produce children" (Gen. 1: 28), express mutual love, receive the benefits of close companionship, and for mutual enjoyment. (Gen. 2: 18-24).” (Counseling Couples Contemplating Divorce)
God created Eve from Adam so he would not be alone and so he could be fruitful and increase in number, as in says in Genesis 1:28, “God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Just as Adam loved Eve, husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves the church, and wives are to submit themselves to their husbands. Ephesians 5:33 says, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” God clearly says that love
In a perfect world, most people imagine that it involves two loving adults, making a commitment to each other to be loyal, faithful, respectful, and truthful to each other. However, this isn’t a perfect world. Infidelity seems to be the root to many disastrous relationships. Infidelity occurs when the bond has been violated by one’s committed partner, who has gone outside the exclusive relationship. It is immoral and unethical. However, this is also a subjective feeling to this violation. In the Old Testament, adultery - having sex with someone other than one’s marital spouse - was a capital offense (Goode, 2015, p.216). However, there won’t be much investigating on the religious background adultery/infidelity because the focus will be on the human heterosexual monogamous relationships. This will also be in the perspective and approach from a constructionist. From a constructionist perspective, the goal is to answer the following questions: what makes infidelity deviant; how is it constructed to be deviant to the social norm; and what provokes one to be unfaithful to his/her partner?
In the first section the author explains the purpose of dating. He does this by first explaining that it is not about finding a soul mate or someone who they can spend eternity with. He goes into detail why this form of thinking is wrong and selfish. The issue of God’s purpose is dealt with in dating and how God uses relationships to grow us. To find out if a person is ready for dating he uses FAQs in the dating process. He adds that one should “look around for another Christ – follower who share our heart, interest, life objectives, background, parenting style, and vision for the family.” Deal, R. L. (2012, pg. 44). Lastly this section goes on to deal with death and divorce and deals with the question, is the healing ever over? This is done by
When looking at pre-marital sex, traditional Christian teachings of the bible suggest that sex is only for married couples and hetro-sexual couples. For example, Timothy 5:2: ‘As a Christian man, if you are not married to her, then she is your sister whom you must treat "with absolute purity." Similarly in 2
The beginning of the Bible is Genesis. The Gospel of Genesis tells the story of God making heaven and earth creation and making us. Through the story of our ancestors Adam and Eve, I will talk about the creation of the majors. Jesus said that the marriage of Adam and Eve in Genesis was the right order of creation (Matthew 19: 4-5). In Genesis 18, He believed that it was essential for Adam to have a partner which motivated God to create Eve. This means that God is not designed to live alone. God created humans to be social animals, that is, to depend on each other and live in society. I think this is the man and woman order and the reason God planned for our lives. One-on-one
The Father is the source of all that exists, and He gives us two great commandments by which all should live by. Love the Lord your God with all thine heart and love our neighbors as ourselves. God created every person in His image and that he created relationships to be between one man and one woman. God uses marriage as a metaphor for His relationship with us. Marriage is designed to be monogamous, it is a covenant made before God that two people are committing to spend the rest of their lives
His will is that a man might leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and that the two become one flesh (Mark 10:6–9). In this union, sexuality finds its God-appointed meaning, whether in personal-physical unification, symbolic representation, sensual jubilation, or fruitful procreation.
There exists different references describing the relationship with the LORD, proclaiming, “Our Maker is our husband” (Isa 54:5), with the acknowledgement of “marriage” being mentioned various times by the Prophets. This relationship cultivated during the Israelites years of journey into the wilderness, drastically developing into an intense rapport with God that previously had become suppressed and dormant. They recognized an ongoing, loving sexual reality that could be worshipped and understood for its true identity; whereby, fundamentally becoming an adoring relationship of God to relate to. Emphatically, it became evident one of the reasons the Jewish people develop into being ‘the chosen people of God,’ (Deu 7:6) transpires due to their acquiring divine knowledge and realization of human’s original sexual relationship with their Maker. Conceivably, this connection with God became what Adam and Eve had turned away from in the beginning, by allowing their eyes to focus on bodily lust and not the sexual illumination of
Second, God’s institution of marriage presupposes, “Two persons of the opposite sex.” After creating Adam and Eve, God proclaimed in Genesis 1:24 that, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” While the term “one flesh” refers to sexual intimacy and union, the theology behind the phrase is deeper. Genesis 1:24 begins with “Therefore”, implying what was once taken out of a man will be reunited back into the man. Therefore, the marriage or the union of one flesh is not a mere commitment between two persons or a biological intercourse like some homosexuals argue. Furthermore, Jesus himself adhered to the normativity of heterosexual marriage in Genesis account as he spoke:
Lust is the leading cause of divorce, abortion, and breaks the sacred bond between a man and his wife, which ultimately leads to sin. According to the CDC (Center for Disease Control and Prevention) who provides data and statistics linked to abortion, “in 2011, 730,322 legal induced abortions were reported to CDC from 49 reporting areas.” Due to lust, premarital and unprotected sex are occurring more and more often causing unwanted pregnancies. In Hebrews 13:4 it states, “Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.” Sex in marriage is a gift from God and is a sacred bond between a man and his wife.
In the reading of “Why Get Married?” we learn several reasons for getting married. The first reason mentioned is sexual intercourse. Paul said that sexual intercourse signifies and seals a personal union. This requires a total and permanent partnership between man and woman to avoid fornication. Genesis 2:18 (NIV) says, “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” God wanted man to have a companion. In today's times, another reason for marriage is legal matters. In a court of law, a marriage certificate will protect both parties’ children, property, and income taxes, deaths, burials, inheritances, possible divorces, and other contingencies. Marriage also protects from third party intrusions
Marriage and proper sexual expression is intrinsically and ultimately linked to ‘kadosh’ meaning holiness. In Judaism holy things are set apart and made special and unique. When sex is reserved for marriage, it too is considered holy and a way of choosing life. Orthodox Jew Maurice Lamm in his book ‘The Jewish Way in Love and Marriage’, discusses how “sexual relations within the context of marriage have a value and life all of their own” allowing adherents to choose life that gives meaning and purpose. Further, the act of homosexuality in Judaism is believed to “diminish life”, and deny the root structure that Judaism wishes for all mankind, the family. Judaism affirms whatever enhances life, and it opposes or separates whatever represents death. God’s first act was the union of male and female and thus, male celibacy is a sin in Judaism. The consummation of their union is through sexual expression however, in the Torah, a man cannot have sexual
In the book of Genesis not only do we learn the creation story of the world and man, we learn the creation story of community and relationship. God created man to be in relationship with Him, then He created woman to be in relationship with man. Adam had no suitable helper therefore from man God created woman. Genesis 2:24 states, “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh” (NIV). From the first day of our creation we were created to have a desire to commune with God and with others, therefore, men and women are naturally drawn to each other with the desire for a relationship.
Have you ever been driving somewhere only to realize a short time later that your are lost. You stop and ask yourself the question of How did I get here? From the very beginning of time there has always been marriage. Marriage is first seen in the bible in Genesis 2:18, where God said that it is not good that man be alone. It is obvious because he put in in His word that God has always been about relationships and when he instituted the marriage of one man and one woman he believed that it was something that should last forever. Regardless of the intention that God had for marriage when he ordained it, too many people have made it to be something of a fad or a trend. Instead of making statements like lets give it the ole college try we are now saying things like lets give it the ole marriage try. One of the most unfortunate things that happens in our world today is the divorce of christian people. Christians of all people should be different, the bible says that we are to be set apart or different. If we are to be different then why is that Christian people are now on the front lines of statistics of divorce. Over the next few paragraphs we will examine some common problems that lead to divorce and why the church seems to be so involved in this statistic so much.
made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” God makes it clear that marriage is unity, and not separation.
My first source entitled “Christianity and Sexuality in the Early Modern World: Regulating Desire” by Merry Wiesner-Hank is useful for presenting an account of how sexuality and gender was discussed in Christianity’s New Testament bible. In the letters of Paul to Jesus, Paul warned against those who opposed marriage, and also suggested that widows and widowers do not remarry. “Along with discussing acceptable and unacceptable sexual activities, the letters of Paul introduce a gendered and sexualized metaphor for the Christian community: the bridge of Christ. Human marriage is equated with the union between Christ and church; husbands are admonished to love their wives as Christ loved the church; and wives to be subject to their husbands as the church is subject to Christ (Ephesians 5:21-33) (Wiesner-Hank, 27). This quote presented is very important – it provides a clear illustration of the difference in expectations from the different genders in marriage under the