Free-Range or Rage? Parents always fight to make sure their children are getting the best of life by always assuring they have what they need to have a set future, as well as never having to deal with the downs of life, but you can’t always prevent life to happen. In multiple articles, various parents express their individually unique parenting styles, which distinctly explain why their method works for them and how it can work for multiple parents by enforcing their beliefs and techniques, but the question still remains. What makes a good parent? Is it the morals they inflict on the child, is it the religious beliefs, or is it just a nature vs nurture instinct that allows you to make those decisions. In general it remains a set structure, …show more content…
Even if having a successfully, controlling, and demanding standard leads to good motives and a successful, set future, these kids are more likely to suffer from either depression or anxiety, because they never have a taste of what freedom and “go with the flow” development is. Always having everything set out in a certain plan with no back up is not just time consuming, but overwhelming. Still those who follow this does lead to the parental desired job, the child struggles to maintain happiness and/or have a miserable life. On the contrary, those raised with free-range parenting, tend to be happy kids and even lead to be happier …show more content…
Yes, something should be tweaked and maintain some parental involvement, but it shouldn’t be soul crushing. As well as allowing your kids to be autonomous and having them learn responsibility they also take this by handling mistakes on their own and develop strong survival skills and street-smarts. In the end you can try and look for the “best parenting book” out there and take its advice, but in reality no one knows your kids better than yourself. As Jennifer Senior quoted in her TED talk, “All these books well-intended…I do not see as help when I look at that shelf. I see anxiety.” (Senior, TED talk) In other words do what you feel is right, we were given our nature vs nuture instincts for a reason, so why not use
(Baumrind 1966). I have come to realize that my parents and grandparents had this same parenting style. I have realized that I am repeating the cycle and I must break the cycle because if I do not them my children will continue this same cycle as an authoritarian parent instead of an authoritative parent. I would never want to be a permissive parent. This parenting style you are not teaching your children structure. “There are not held accountable for their actions”. (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). As parents we must teach our children there are consequences for our actions. If you do not apply any boundaries or rules as they get older they will feel like the rules do not apply to them. “Permissive parents will cause their children to be dependent, immature, and misbehave frequently.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). I believe some parents are like this because they want to be their child’s friend. It is okay to be their friend but there must be some type of guidelines in place.
Being a responsible parent wanting your child with the best living environment and attending a great school for their education. Parents want to the foremost in their child’s best interest. Children do not know what necessary good is or bad for them. That is why it is as parent job to teach them as they growing up. Mold them right as a child therefore in their adult life most likely they will head down the right positive path. Even before the parent leaves the world they want to see their child being independent taking care of their self and doing well. This all will show the parent they did a splendid job as their father or mother. It is not an easy job being a parent and it does not come with an instruction book how to be one but, you can just do the best you can avoiding negative things around your child as much as possible.
All children are not raised the same exact way. There are many different parenting styles, ranging from authoritative to neglectful parenting. Along with those many different styles also come many different opinions on which ones are better or worse for children. Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell is a book that essentially looks into many factors that contribute to people's successes. In chapter four, Gladwell writes about how different parenting philosophies impact how successful the children will be when they are older. Gladwell claims that there are essentially only two main parenting philosophies, “concerted cultivation” and “accomplishment of natural growth” (Gladwell 104). Gladwell goes on to also claim that between those two parenting philosophies, children raised from concerted
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Raising a child is probably the most important thing a person will ever do in life. Yet we constantly hear stories of child abuse and neglect. What makes a good parent? Is it the money you earn? How about fancy schools? In liberal societies many people decide whether or not they wish to become parents. One of the key questions in making this decision is, what kind of parent will I be? Parenting skills range from excellent all the way to nonexistent. Do you think people with low parenting skills have the right to have children? This has been
Parenting is not one of the easiest jobs in the world to have; you either are responsible enough to parent or you're not responsible enough.You have to be able to raise a child from birth and teach he/she all the necessary tools to succeed in life. As said in The Blackwell Encyclopedia of Social Work, “Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood” (245). All parents will raise their children in different ways, whether they are very strict or they’re lenient, others can be easy going and strict depending on the situation and the way they group up will shape them into who they become as adults as shown in The Glass Castle with Jeannette Walls and her parents.
~My parenting practices and philosophy come from my experience as a child. I remember when I was young my parents didn’t really push me to succeed and learn new things. I want my child to explore and learn as much as she can. My parents were also lenient when it came to me getting in trouble which made me do worse things when I was older because I knew the consequences wouldn’t be so bad. That made me want to be a strict parent.
Parenting: from dressing, teaching, disciplining, to simply supporting a child, there are technically no right or wrong ways to provide care. Although there may not be a correct way, most, if not all, parents have been or will be criticized at some point because of their decisions in parenting. So what exactly makes someone good at parenting? A mother, father, or caregiver who exercises good parenting fosters a healthy relationship with the child, demonstrates and reciprocates respect, and reinforces responsibility.
Children that grew up with free range parenting seem to be more responsible and know how to confront the external world. They learned from their own experiences and that is what makes a person mature. Although, free range parents tend to be permissive, they make sure to prepare their children with a solid base of values, experiences and lessons so they know how to confront every situation. Also, one of the
Which parenting style will lead to a child becoming successful and stable in life? Many argue about the answer to this question. There are four main types of parenting styles. There’s authoritarian parenting which follows a set of strict rules and doesn’t necessarily nurture the child; apathetic towards their emotions, demanding a sort of blind obedience from the child. Authoritative parenting which takes a more moderate approach; setting high standards, nurtures, and responds to the child’s emotions. Permissive parenting which is reluctant to impose rules and standards, preferring to allow kids to regulate themselves. Finally, there’s the hands-off parenting in which the parent doesn’t involve themselves
What is good parenting style and how should parents act? Good parenting style shapes a child’s character and helps the child become a decent person of good manners. It is found that in order for this to occur parents must
There are many different parenting styles all over the world. Some parents may stay at home, while some work; some may be strict and have their children on an all organic diet and limited T.V time, while others might buy fast food every other night and let their kids run wild with imagination. Many mothers and fathers have different parenting styles and goals; but where do these underlying thoughts and actions come from? Sigmund Freud, a psychologist whose main work was dealing with psychoanalysis from the late 1800s to the early 1900s, would say it was from somewhere deep within the unconsciousness of these moms and dads. According to Freud (1915) the unconscious mind is the primary source of human behavior like an iceberg the most important part of your mind is the part you cannot see (Para 3). Meaning the unconscious part of your mind is the most important because it’s almost as if you do things unwillingly without knowing. The underlining emotions are the most important. I believe, parenting styles, actions, and goals, are all the unconscious mind of parents wanting to be better than their own mother and father; or imitating the same habits they have grew up with throughout their childhood.
How do you know if you are good parents for your children? Is there any easy way to understand if your parenting styles are appropriate? A BIG question with very few answers.
I believe that next thing any parent must not forget about is trust. Being consistent with your child is of paramount importance because that's how trust is supported. Being consistent is not changing the rules half way through the game. Being consistent is not promising rewards that kids will never see. Being consistent is not threatening punishment without carrying it through. From the very first day on Earth children put trust in their parents and it must not be betrayed because once it is, once children find out they have been lied to, you will have to literally put yourself out to win it back.
When children are young, it is typical to dislike and disagree with your parents. Children and teenagers often fail to recognize the good characteristics that their parents have and only focus on the negative attributes. As people mature and grow older, they start to recognize the impact that their parents had on their life. For each person, there are different fundamental characteristics that an ideal parent must have. Although no parent is perfect, I believe that a parent’s ability to discipline, teach, and respect their child’s expression creates the ideal parent.