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Gender Roles And Family Conflict

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Gender roles vary from family to family, and for my family, they are a combination of many different types. For my childhood, I was raised nontraditional in the sense of masculinity and femininity. I had Barbies©, Tonka Trucks©, kitchen sets, and legos. I was never told that Barbies© were only for girls and that Tonka Truck© were only for guys. From traditional to nontraditional roles, I have been raised to be my own and unique individual. When I was younger, I was raised in a very nontraditional, gender role home. My father and mother worked and my siblings and I, were sent to daycare. After a few year of my mother and father working, my mom decided to stop working to be a stay at home mom. A lot of this was due to work-family conflict, …show more content…

She would not ask my dad for help as she knew he would not be to please to have to stop his resting, unless dinner was done. If was not common for my dad to discipline us, unless my mother was busy handling another child. The most work my father would do, would be fixing the small things around the house or working with the things that he really enjoyed. As it is said, “what one gives to a relationship is experienced as a cost, and what one receives is experienced as a reward” (Balswick, 91). For my dad, his cost was working the hours that he did, and his reward was coming home and sitting in his chair, not having to take on the responsibilities house work and child care. My mother was huge in helping us, kids, with our homework and our needs. One thing different about my mom was that she was typically the one who enforced the discipline. She was adamant in make sure we knew what was tolerated and what was not. With the changes in gender roles, “the stakes are high, as the outcome of these decisions [affect] everything from the stability of marriage to the equality between men and women” (Cohen, 412). My parents are now divorced and part of that, I feel, is due to the fact that my parents had to different mindsets as to the gender roles in our family. My dad felt women should stay at home, cook clean, raise children and obey their husbands. Men were to work and provide the money that would put the food on the table.

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