His eaasy talk about the article 'How Boys Become Men,' by Jon Katz. I agree boys are forced to hide their emotions and men will act the same way as women if we treat them the same.

A boy longs for connection at the same time he feels the need to pull away, and this opens up an emotional divide. This struggle between his need for connection and his desire for autonomy finds different expression as a boy grows. But, regardless of their age, most boys are ill-prepared for the challenges along the road to becoming an emotionally healthy adult. Whatever role biology plays (and that role is by no means clear) in the ways boys are characteristically different from girls in their emotional expression, those differences are amplified by a culture that supports emotional development of girls and discourages it for boys. Stereotypical notions of masculine toughness deny a boy his emotional resources. We call this process,

Crying is something that everyone here does; it is a normal part of everybody’s life. However, many cultures believed that when a male cries, his tears were a sign of manliness. In the article “How boys become a men” Jon Katz gives some examples to explain why many man pressured to be tough, to act strong, and they would not allow to show their emotions, pain and fear. This article focuses on the lesson that boys learn from their young ages which effects their lives.

The article “How Boys Become Men” written by Jon Katz, gives a positive statement on how boys still haven’t change and are still growing up the same. Jon Katz, shares with us while walking his dog one day, he saw a boy get beaten by a group of older boys. While walking towards him, Katz asked if he was okay; the boy said yes and begun to swing like nothing happened. I believe that what Jon Katz states is true, because the fact is; boys are always going to think they’re the Alpha Male in every situation. For example: who can climb the highest Rock, who can make a bigger splash in the pool or who can maybe get a girlfriend first.

Men are treated vastly differently than women. For example, men are expected to not show their emotions. In “why men don’t last” by Natalie Angier, a Pulitzer Prize winning reporter, she described how even when men are young boys they have their emotions shamed out of them by their parents and their peers (Angier 1011). In “The War Against Boys” Christina Hoff Sommers, a writer of several books, wrote how men have it imprinted on them at a young age that showing your emotions is a sign of weakness. Men are also taught to be self-sufficient and not ask for help (Sommers 1061). For example, there were many times when I was in school but needed help. I never asked because I always wanted to think of myself as self-sufficient, that I did not need the help from my teacher and I could figure it out myself. Now, of course, I realize how dumb that was that there is no shame in asking for help,

This is also influenced to boys by their fathers when they are growing up. Kids see what is happening around them and they are like sponges once they see something they will soak it up. So when a father is being demanding to a mother then their kid is soaking it up and later on in life the kid will us it on any women that might enter his life. This is an example as of how young boys get the idea to be stronger than a women. Boys also might be the same way with their mom but the mom will see it and hopefully tell them that it’s not a good thing to do to a women. Kids are growing up and noticing what they are doing but still do not want to change their ways because they think it is

When men and boys are trying to show no emotion and appear dominant to their peers, nobody wins. Men are taught this from a young age, to grow up and be a “Man”. Which in society's terms means to have anger issues, treat women as an inferior, and to be over controlling of everything. That kind of toxic masculinity is a reason for many troubles in a multitude of peoples lives. “Little boys and Little girls start off emotionally equal...both boys and girls are like a stereotypical girl.” Society influences the way our boys behave. All though some boys may still behave this way; as a result of them just having a personality

“Friend stopped, stood still, and braed himself.. see I’m no chicken” (Katz 221). Male maturation is a very complex sophisticated process. In “How Boys Become Men” Jon Katz takes on the challenge and head ache of analyzing this process. He explains how learning one of the central ethics of the gender is experiencing pain rather than showing fear and emotion. We do so by taken on challenges because we feel obligated to in front of our friends in order to not look cowardly. How we demonstrate machismo and lack commitment, how we do whatever we can to fit into the society around us and are willing to do anything just to resemble coolness and absolutely no tolerability of getting pushed around. It called Guy Code, a set of

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As a boy grows into a man he faces the ever-raising mountain of masculinity. In regards to the occurrence, he finally reaches maturity he has no choice but in order to fight to retain his measly sense of manhood. He is not allowed to act feminine or else he’s not man enough, he can’t show his emotions, he has to hide that he can do anything a woman can do sans give birth. Boys grow up being told they are not allowed to cry and that they are supposed to be tough, that they are not able to be like girls and in the event that they are then they are not real boys. This concept is known as toxic masculinity, some people are not aware that men are being forced to suppress their emotions or even that toxic masculinity should be a topic that is

They adopt behaviors from the outside world, including television, magazines, and other media. As children grow, they stop or hide behaviors that are ridiculed, shamed, or punished. Some men are weaker than others and some are better than others at different tasks. Everyone has a different perspective on what is and what is not masculine enough for a male to do. They may not capture how they truly feel, how they behave, or how they define themselves.

A lot of males’ violent behavior and females’ complaisance can be accredited to family and institutional socialization. Parents usually raise boys on aggressive sports, such as hockey and football, which encourage violence. Girls, however, are generally brought up on "feminine" activities, dance and figure skating to name a few, which promote a gentle, polite nature. It is the rare parent that heeds their four-year-old son’s aspiration to be a ballet dancer by purchasing the child a pair of tights and a leotard. When a boy shows more interest in dolls than in trucks, his family may be distressed, and provoke him to reveal his "masculine" side. After striving for egalitarianism between the sexes for so many years, families still deter young girls from pursuits of hockey stardom, hoping to interest them in Pointe shoes. Displays of emotion by boys are often criticized for being "unmasculine", whereas emotional behavior in girls tends to be expected and accepted. As a result, boys tend to not only hide their feelings, but criticize friends for showing their emotions. Girls, on the other hand, encourage one another to express feelings and console one another naturally.

When boys are young they are told to toughen up or to stop acting like a girl when they are sad or want to cry. Michael Kimmel, author of “Bros Before Hos”: The Guy Code, discusses how there is a code guys are supposed to follow and how being taught natural behaviors, such as crying or talking about emotions, are wrong at a young age negatively impacts boys for their whole life. Emily Smith, the author of Life on the Island, talks about how a decrease in places that have a feeling of community increases the suicide rate among men. Everyone tells boys to act a certain way their father, coach, even people they don’t know, but this is not the only place they hear these negative statements. Television and magazine advertisements often depict men in an unrealistic way that feels unachievable and because of this young boys who view these ads feel negatively about themselves and because of the guy code they can’t share their feelings and emotions which can lead to depression or even suicide.

One of the most important things they can do is talk to their kids. Let them know that it’s okay to show emotion and that it doesn’t make them any less of a man if they do. However, not all young boys are willing to listen to their parents about this type of thing and take their advice, so it’s also a good idea for parents to contact friends of their young boy. Have them talk to him about the same thing because high school boys are much more likely to listen to their friends than their parents, but when both parents and friends try to help together, a true connection can be made. Whether the first idea is helpful or not, one of the best things for a parent to do is to take their kids to a health professional such as a psychiatrist. Let them have a few hours a week to talk to their young boys and help them, as it can work wonders often times. Kindlton and Thompson stated in their book, Raising Cain, “A boy distanced from genuine emotional interaction misses the opportunity for meaningful emotional growth” (Kindlton and Thompson 143). Young boys think it makes them less of a man, but showing emotions is essential for them to continue to grow up. Parents need to help their young adolescent boys because if they continue to be emotionally isolated, they are likely to experience depression and other similar problems during and/or after high

To submit, young men will never show signs of change their mentality and we ought to realize that .so men conceal their emotions in light of the fact that in patriarchal society they are not permitted to express them and folks have essential part to chatting with their young men and making a kid character at whatever point the young men do their guardians need to deal with them and they do however all the more so they feel that there is some individual more grounded than them and not going about as they

According to Kimmel, boys to become men they have to be though. They are taught that men don't show fear, and they are not supposed to cry. The way they are taught can affect their emotional lives and relationships with others. For example, a lot of boys don't talk to their sisters because they think that they are talking only about girly things, and in that way, they are losing connection with family members. Not only talking to their sisters but also sometimes boys avoid conversation with their mothers and prefer to talk to their