How I Was Affected By My Upbringing And Interactions With My Family And Friends

"When we’re dealing with the people in our family – no matter how annoying or gross they may be, no matter how self-inflicted their suffering may appear, no matter how afflicted they are with ignorance, prejudice or nose hairs – we give from the deepest parts of ourselves." ~ Author, Anne Lamott

My mother became depressed, my father became disabled, and my brother was skipping school. I continued going to school from eight until four, which was a big relief in my life because it made me forget the hard times. My grades slowly began to decline, as well as my motivation. I gave up many opportunities such as attending New York’s number one specialized high school. I recognized my mistakes and was able to identify my failure. School was not the only place where I lacked interest in because I also slowly started to push my friends away. As a young teenager, I did not think I would ever make it to college. I became frustrated at my parents because my life was ruined and it was all their fault.

I went back to Nevada to clear my head and my wife stayed behind in Florida, while there, I realized that I was a couple credits from receiving my high school diploma and was really upset, because I had always thought I graduated. My wife thought I should stay and finish my credits to get my diploma and she moved back with me while I struggled with the school work. I hadnt been in school for so long and it seemed so much harder facing the curriculum at my age then. I struggled and failed, but I kept getting back up and trying again and I did pass and received my high school diploma. This was very important to me because I didnt want to be just another bum on the street that didnt do anything with my life. I had big dreams and all though I had left them on the back burner for a while, they were still there inside me, just waiting for a chance to make them happen.

Later as an adolescent, I was an active member of my high school’s Girls Football team and Volleyball. I attend a post-secondary institution right after high school; I received my Medical Assistance Certification from Star Technical Institute in Whitehall, PA. I pursue my dreams of obtaining the education I had always desired and found a great job in the medical assistance field. Another event, which shifted my life forever, was accepting a marriage proposal at a young age and marrying in 1991. I made it clear from the beginning that my education was very important to me and marriage would not stand in the way of my pursuing post-secondary studies or even completing high school. When I announced my engagement due to my pregnancy I was, determine to complete all my studies to make a better life for my son. I became a mother in February 1991 and continued to work as a Manager for a retail store until my husband, who had been unemployed since our marriage, found work. When he secured employment, it gave me the financial flexibility to pursue my dream of attaining higher education, In July 1992. Working in the medical field, you gain so much knowledge and then transferring into the mortgage career, I gained lots of experience. My last job I went back to the medical field as that was the quickest job I can find in my area that was hiring. I was so nervous due to not knowing anyone and having to relearn everything all over

When I was six years old I moved from Colorado to New Mexico. At the end of my junior year of high school I found out that I was moving back to Colorado. I was full of emotions that made me hate the world. I had thought of every possibility on how to stay in nm and finish high school. At the time I was talking to a girl that I really liked and had a lot of very close friends. I wasn’t the kind of kid to go out and do things with people but during the second half of my junior year I made some friends that I started to do things with. It was as if I had finally made all my friends and found people who I wanted to be around but it was all being taken away from me. One of my brothers still lived in nm and my plan was to stay in nm with him and

My mind was racing with thoughts about how I hated my major and never wanted to study history in the first place, how I didn’t feel I was smart enough for the school or scholarships I had earned and how I just really wanted to leave and go back to Holland because I did not love the school I thought I loved. The next day I met my mom at Aquinas College and after even more tears I explained how I wanted to drop out. After filling out paperwork and packing my things I left with my mom to Holland feeling like a failure because I dropped out of college not even forty- eight hours after moving in. When we got home my mom made a big dinner to cheer me up and said these words that still give me so much hope, “Today is the start of your new life”. After that day I truly began my new life, since I had so much time on my hands I started volunteering at Herrick District Library, a place that I have always loved, once a week, began learning how to drive and found a major that I am truly passionate about. Ultimately, I started doing what made me happy and it has turned a situation that looked sad, confusing and hopeless into a land of new

I remember thinking when I got married at 20 years old, that I wanted to be the best wife I could be and everything else would fall into place when the time came. After my husband returned from his first and last deployment to Iraq -- no longer the same; he was mentally and physically broken -- caring for him became a larger priority than everything else. As I adjusted from being a wife to the sole caregiver of my husband, I placed more of my educational aspirations on hold. Again, I told myself that everything else would fall into place. When his younger brother had a life-changing accident, I took him into my home and cared for him and have continued to do so for the past eight years. After my husband and I had children, I started telling myself that I was going to be too old to ever go back to school; I instead focused on my kids’ educational futures. Eventually, I promised myself that I would go back to school, once my kids were in school – I kept that promise to

decision to return back to school and complete my degree at first was an overwhelming course of

My father made a pact with my uncle that if my father had a child and since my uncle was far more educated my uncle, Jorgen Brahe would raise me as his own. At first, I wanted to pursue Latin and Law, so my uncle sent me to the University of Leipzig, and that’s where I fell in love with astronomy. My family always ridiculed me for pursuing astronomy, but my uncle always supported me.

Working Full time and a young man’s social life, limited my time for college and also took away from my focus on schoolwork.

The experience of entering college focuses new attention on one’s attachment relationships, specifically the revision of attachment to parents

Many events dealing with violence led to me being put in a foster home for about a year, where I use to cry every day and night asking to be back with my mother. It took my mother a year to earn back her custody of me and just as I was getting used to stability my mom re-enlisted back into the Army and was sent back to Iraq. I moved to Connecticut with my aunt and my sister stayed in New Brunswick with her father's side of the family. My mother came back to the U.S, we were stationed at Fort Stewart, Georgia and eventually she left again. There were many places I have had to move and plenty of family members I barely knew that I was forced to stay with over the past seventeen years of my life, but when I moved to Somerset, New Jersey my life changed. I attend Franklin High School, where it is diverse, populous, exciting, and there are many clubs and activities to get involved in. The community of Franklin Township has such pride in where they are from and always come together as a unit for special events. I have never had a feeling of true unity or stability like I was able to experience when I came to Franklin High

During my mid-teens my family went through a lot of changes. My parents had separated and divorced,

As stated by Ginsburg and Salek (2015), college students may experience sadness, outrange or relief when they were being separated from their parents. The students may suffer from short term painful feelings and it took year/s back to normal. College students may react depending on their age, growth and how their parents handle the needs.

The Socialization of my life. This is how I become who I am. My early socialization has been a big role in my life along with my significant others, which includes my parents and friends. My defining moments in my life and the experiences I’ve faced. Also with the media's help I’ve become to understand the simple things. Over the past sixteen years I have learned to become the person i am today all because of socialization.