Interpersonal Communication Reflection

Deborah Tannen and William Lutz both discuss the difficulty of communicating. Their point of views may be different, but their conclusion is the same. Men and women have difficulties of communicating. Not because the two genders want to be complicated but simply because we don’t realize how or what we’re doing when it’s happening.

Over the course of history, men and women have been faced with a communication barrier that is still present today. The differing communication skills between men and women present challenges that can lead to foreseeable problems in relationships. These problems arise out of differing purposes, styles, traits, and emotions that accompany communication between the two sexes. Unless an understanding is reached, these barriers may never be broken down.

This article by Deborah Tannen, written in 1990, addresses the differences between the communication styles of men and women and some of the ensuing problems that arise from these divergent behaviors. The article asserts "that although men tend to talk more than women in public situations, they often talk less at home. And this pattern is wreaking havoc with marriage" (p. 474). Research indicates that a majority of women state a lack of communication as the reason for seeking divorce as compared to only a few of the men. With the divorce rate at 50 percent the author says there is a "virtual epidemic of failed conversation" (p. 474) in America.

The authors motivation for writing “Talk in the Intimate Relationship,” is “to see how male and female differences in conversational style can cause misunderstandings that lead to complementary schismogenesis- a mutually aggravating spiral, in close relationships.” (Tannen 28) Also, Tannen’s motivation for writing this article is to show us how men and women go about having different ways of talking things out, and the assumptions that they have and how they go about it. What the author wants us to think after we have read the text is, she wants us to realize how women are much more focused on involvement, and they listen for metamessages, whereas, men are more focused on independence.

My education from Creighton University has been quite helpful while at my internship this summer. The things that have stood out to me that I have learned while at this internship include seeing how relationships form, noticing racist and sexist things within the organization, figuring out how the communication within the organization, as well as understanding how my tone of voice can affect the way people perceive me on the phone.

Learning about the differences between communication styles among couple’s have had more successful sending and receiving of messages, both verbal and nonverbal. For example, a woman may communicate in a way that may have a meaning to her. However, a man receiving the message may interpret it totally differently than she intended due to their differences in their communication style. This can cause conflict between the couple and lead to further problems in the relationship.

From my understanding, professional communication, whether electronically or in person refers to the various forms of responding, writing, speaking and effective listening carried out both in and beyond a workplace. To me, it is the practice of oral, written and interpersonal communication that is complete, accurate and understandable to its audience. Doing this takes research, analysis and the mastering of the three interrelation elements of organization, language and design and illustration. According to professor Lim, one of the main components of this course is to read and write critically, present summaries and arguments using research and analysis and convey thoughts and ideas in a consistent manner. I can confidently say I have accomplished this by taking HIS263. The essay component of this course has allowed me to critically review several historic and scholarly articles and evaluate and summarize the information presented. As well as, make inferences and collect key information from the article

R: The member was fighting with his brother when I first entered the home. Member quickly begin to tell me what happens with I entered. He was upset because his brother hit him. The brother was asked to leave the room and the member quickly calmed down. The member did the check off the worksheet (Why do I get Angry?” He was to explaining why he checked off the things he checked. MHS told the member that there are not right or wrong answers. The member was concerned that he was not checking the right things. It appeared that the member was over analyzing the worksheet. The member wanted MHS to know he really has been trying not to fight with his brother or friends. During role play the member wanted to be the get violent when the scenario

1. I overheard a conversation between a couple, a boy and a girl who I assume are both freshmen. They had gone to highschool together and both came to Syracuse University, they’ve been together for about 2 years - I know this because I was with my friend while this was happening and she peripherally knew the girl in the relationship. In their conversation, the girlfriend complained about how they never see each other anymore, it’s even less than they saw each other in high school even though now they don’t have limitations like curfews and strict school/extracurricular activities to work around. He answered by saying he is very busy with classes and new clubs and it’s hard to find time to spend together. She retorted with the fact that he’s managed to find plenty of time to spend with his new friends, and that their bond should be a stress reliever, not adding more stress to their workloads and the new college environment. I believe that they were really talking about how college has already changed both of them - she clearly wants to continue the relationship and hold on to what they had in high school, whereas he is taking on this whole new world and discovering that there is a life outside of the confines of his hometown. I think that he wants to break up with her, and that’s why he’s only making excuses and defending himself, rather than working to find a solution to the problem. He’s just allowing the distance between him and his girlfriend to run its course until they

The other day I had brunch with a friend and got the opportunity to meet one of his colleague from New York. United by our continued struggle for in realizing women’s rights, equality and justice we often get into the most heated conversations and this gathering was no different, in between talks of clinical trials, dapivirine vaginal rings, PReP, feminism, freedom etc. The conversation gravitated towards our lives, how we navigate spaces and how deeply embedded harassment and rape culture is in our society.

1. Recently, a series of harsh conversations and disagreements have caused me to develop a very negative opinion of my manager and our relationship. Though we have also had positive interactions and have accomplished a great deal together, these negative meetings really stick front of mind. If I force myself to step back and consider the larger pattern over the past year and a half of working together, it is clear that he is a nice guy who cares about my development and wellbeing. I realize when I simmer down that he is critical of my work because he truly wants to prepare me for more responsibility, but it is hard to realize this when receiving extremely critical or blunt feedback. I definitely sulk for too long after negative conversations or missteps in our relationship, and in doing so, allow them to overshadow other times when he has been extremely supportive of my ideas and encouraging of my work. To combat this bias, I created a new “kudos” folder in my email. Each time I receive an encouraging message or note from him, I save it in that folder so I can reference the list after rough meetings where we may butt heads. Thus far, I believe this method is beginning to help me stay balanced by reminding me that my manager is pretty supportive, which should help me feel better about where I am at work.

Different ways of speaking are part of gender. As adults, men and women sometimes face difficulties in their communication with each other. Studies of communication show if a woman tells her husband about a problem, she will expect him to listen and offer sympathy. She may be annoyed when he simply tells her how to solve the problem. Similarly, a husband may be annoyed when his wife wants to stop and ask a stranger for directions to a park or restaurant. Unlike his wife, he would rather use a map and find his way by himself.

Thank you for contacting me Jasmine. While I am certainly sorry for your and all students' troubles I still must stress the importance of communication with instructors just as you are expected to do in the work place. You would never think of being a "no-call, no-show" at work and neither should you be so in your classes. Any thoughts I have of you are entirely the result of your lack of communicating with me and attempting to maintain a passing grade in the class. There is and old saying that "Silence is golden..." but not when it comes to business and school and your education is definitely business.

There have been many changes in this fast paced and competitive world and this leads to many challenges that we face in our day-to-day life. Also, communication being one of the most important aspect in this world, where it becomes necessary to express your thoughts and feelings, there are a lot of us who lack in understanding others and themselves. I am one of those people. Hence, I chose this unit to help me self develop learn ways to overcome my problems.

As mentioned in the previous answer, the five basic needs for communication (physical, relational, identity, spiritual, and instrumental)