Saying you are grown can mean nothing to a mother. If you are her child, you will always be her child no matter if you are 5 or 55. You always will have a special bond with your mother because she was really your first best friend. There will always be arguments and disagreements but at the end of the day, she will always be there if you need her. A touchy subject that you may hear about the most are mother-daughter relationships.
Some are good, some are horrid. Some mothers get along like a best friend would with their daughter, and some could step on them like a door mat. Mostly we can see that mothers always try to encourage the “right thing.” In the story “Girl” by Jamaica Kincaid we see a mother-daughter relationship that seems to be
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Maybe it is what she went through herself. She shows kind of an instant that girls will be judged on what they do as they start maturing and getting older. Some can make mistakes but that’s the point in having a good relationship with your mother to get through the hardships in life. I think Kincaid wrote the short story in the eyes of the relationship to show how a mother always thinks “she knows best.” When a girl is growing up, mothers need to realize they need to think of the time that they were in their shoes and just make sure she isn’t going to end up getting hurt. You have to have rules, but with those rules have to have the compromise. There needs to be a lot of talking and no down grading. I don’t think a mother should ever make a girl feel less of herself. It isn’t easy getting older. I think that a young girl always needs someone. Sometimes it may be the case that a mother is a single mother and she is doing everything on her own, and that can actually make it harder for both of them. It may make it harder for their relationship to stay positive as well in the long run. But through it all, I do think that a girl will always need her mother and there will always be a bond that she won’t be able to have with anyone
My mother is, to me, the best parent a kid could ask for. You’d be beyond lucky to have her as a parent, and I probably take her for granted a lot of the time, as most kids do. However, I know she plays a vital role in my entire family’s lives. Without her, we’d manage financially but not emotionally.
Finally, when her husband becomes angry and starts to scolds her, she chooses to endure it. Although she knows that her job is no less valuable than her husband’s job, she does not refute him. Her choice avoids many unnecessary quarrels between her and her husband. She is the first and only person to say, “I love you.” (Gilb,360) in the entire story. She loves her husband and her family deeply. According to a research in psychology today, Barton Goldsmith mentions that “Mothers are the emotional backbones of the family.” (Goldsmith, P6) Obviously, she provides the holding place for everyone’s feelings and does her best to keep them from being and getting hurt.
The most complex relationship a female will have is the one with her own mother. Because of this natural and special connection that exists between a mother and her
Most mothers and daughters have those typical mother-daughter talks. You can compare them to a rite of passage that continues for a period of time. The goal is to gain a closer bond between the two females. Every once in a while, a mother will sit down with her daughter and they will talk about anything. The topics can range from boys to advice or just describing your day. A mother isn 't supposed to be your best friend, that 's not her role. She is a confidant or a great listener who unconditionally loves you. My mother possesses those qualities; they just aren 't usually put to use. Each time we have our mother-daughter talks they tend to be at the weirdest times: while driving me to dance practice, while doing my hair, when I 'm trying to go to bed, etc. There is nothing wrong with that. I know my mom is really busy. Between finishing work projects at home, cooking dinner and raising five kids (I 'm including my father and our two dogs), this woman doesn 't get a moment to herself. So, our mother-daughter talks turn out to be unconventional, at least compared to television examples and what my friends talk about. I don 't mind though. Our uniqueness makes our talks much more memorable.
The mother’s tone seems to be negative and harsh, particularly the critiques that involve calling the girl a slut. It seems her mother has complex feelings towards her daughter. The mother is giving her daughter this list of instructions tells me she wants her daughter to grow up to be a proper lady. I believe the mother’s ultimate goal is to set her daughter up to be a successful woman who is able to navigate the world. I believe she loves her daughter and feels her critiques will teach her how to be a proper lady in society. Although her way of teaching her daughter seems harsh, she wants what she believes is best for her daughter. The relationship between them seems to be restrained. There are no conversations between the mother and daughter.
Regardless of the relationship you have with your Childs’ mother, it’s important, that you have a relationship with your child. And I’m not talking about a weekend trip relationship. I’m talking parent/teacher conferences, loss of the first tooth, your presence at his/her
Mother-daughter relationships are very important in life. Some say they are absolutely essential. Mothers nurture, encourage, and provide the help needed when it feels like the world is ending. Their presence makes everything better no matter what. Without a mother's love, without a mother's hug, daughters would all feel a little lost. After all, what are daughters without their mothers? Here are the greatest mother-daughter relationships seen on television (some make me totally jealous).
A good relationship with a mother can be the one of the most rewarding blessings in life. Just like any relationship a human has, there will be moments in which the relationship can be dreadful, and moments when the relationship can be superb. However, the way in which people interpret the situation, resolve the issue, and above all try to make the relationship healthier, will determine how successful the relationship will be in the future. In the excerpt by Amy Chua Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom and the excerpt by Amy Tan The Joy luck club the authors explain how they are having an issue with their mother/daughter at a certain point in their life. These excerpts resemble the idea of a relationship not being in a state of tranquility, but
second she seen someone’s deviations change when they weren't acting the same. Mom’s are good at that. We talked about why she was acting the way she was and my mom completely understood now why she felt the way she was feeling. She always was wondering things that went on with us rather it be in school, outside of school, with friends, or in this situation ”boy problems”. I knew my mom wanted to stay in communication about all that happens in our life so she can simultaneously be included. That’s exactly why me and my mom have such a great mother daughter bond. Are perception of warmth and closeness heavily influences that and I have always been so blessed to have the mom that I have.
In the story “My Mother” Jamaica Kincaid shows the reader that the girl has an obsession with her mother. The mother has a power over the girl throughout the book. The girl looks back onto when she was younger and misses her relationship that she had with her mother. The author shows this through intensely lyrical images and showing the problematic intimacy between the girl and her mother.
Mother-Daughter relationships have the inevitable destiny of being tense because mothers follow the ancient “How-to” method of preventing their daughters from “The slut I know that you are so bent on becoming” (Kincaid 1). The imperatives and prohibitions of the mother in “Girl” portray the integral idea of following cultural norms in society, even if it is not your own, to extinguish “Slutiness” and advance in social status. Jamaica Kincaid lived with her mother and a step-father, when she was nine years old her mother conceived three sons, this led to her feeling overshadowed, Kincaid was neglected and treated badly. “Girl” could be a way for Kincaid to speak out about her life and depict the theme of mother and daughter relationships portrayed
A mother has various jobs, such as being our doctors, therapist, our superheros, biggest supporters and most importantly, our teachers. They teach us almost everything from our ABC’s and 123’s to driving and managing money. Jamaica Kincaid wrote a short story of a conversation between old fashioned mother and daughter. The mother wants to share all of her knowledge and wisdom with her daughter, so she will grow up to become an exceptional young lady.. The advice that she gives her is like the advice that our mothers gives us growing up, but is definitely an older version. The important things that the mother wants her daughter to know are how to maintain a household, how to act like a lady and how to deal with other people.
My relationship with my mother has always been precarious and at times very difficult. My mother comes from a high context family with a protective conversation/conformity orientation and that is something she continued when raising a family of her own. The relationship I have with my mother is special to me, but at the same time is full of compromise, conflict, and differentiating.
Kids aren’t typically very close with their mom; like most, I wasn’t close with my mom either when I was young. Throughout my middle school years I started to get closer and closer with my mom; although, middle school was so hard for me with all the ridiculous drama, awful rumors, and fake friends, I learned so much. Through all those situations, whether they were good or bad, she taught to be kind no matter what because people never know what others are going through. Also always to do the right thing, it’s simple, but it’s true, and to love unconditionally because people don’t know when they are going to lose something they really care about. Ever since my relationship with my mom has grown I
Once a close friendship is built with someone, eventually, a relationship with their mothers has to be established; whether it is a close or just a comfortable relationship. We all have felt or acted a certain way toward our friends’ mothers. The friendships I have established with some of my friend’s moms are handled at different extremities, ranging from “nice weather we’re having” to the coffee talks. Each has a different personality that allows us to classify them into certain groups; some are cool like the one you are unusually close to. There are also those mothers in which you try to limit conversation like the one that thinks she is cool and the one that barely partakes in verbal interactions, the strict mom.