My Family Relationship

As Ruffman, Slade, and Crowe states, Casual talk between mothers and their children has been found to correlate with belief and affective understanding” (735). Mothers will always understand their child’s feelings and will guide them to safety, as mothers only want the best for their child. My mother till this day makes me lunch, provides me with life and care, gives me emotional support and advice. These are the little but big gesture in life which us as children forget to thank our mothers. They sacrifice a lot for us, which we do not give the rightful attention that it deserves, until we are from away from them, which is also described in the song

My mother and I is quite similar to one another, except with connection. Mom likes to be surrounded by her family, close friends and dependent on others. The contrast, I am independent but I do like being close to my family and friends.

Abraham Lincoln once stated, “All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe it to my mother.” Mother and child relationships vary greatly. Some mothers can have a very tight bond with their child, while others tend to be rather distant. The mother is responsible for caring for their child and helping the children grow. They should be able to guide their child down a good path, and not force them down a life that they do not want to do. This can be caused by many different reasons. In the book Joy Luck Club by Amy Tan Waverly has a distant relationship with her mother. The relationship between me and my mother is a complex bond that can not compare to any other mother and child relationship. My bond with my mother contrasts to other relationships

Saying you are grown can mean nothing to a mother. If you are her child, you will always be her child no matter if you are 5 or 55. You always will have a special bond with your mother because she was really your first best friend. There will always be arguments and disagreements but at the end of the day, she will always be there if you need her. A touchy subject that you may hear about the most are mother-daughter relationships.

Having supper and just being with your family (and sometimes friends) each night was essential to the well-being of the family. “We would get together and play cards a lot with my grandparents and friends.” (Meyer, M.). As a child, the community embraced her and her family, so my mom loves having a close-knit group of friends around us. Furthermore, both of her parents were “fairly strict public school teachers” (Meyer, M.), and her father was in the military in the (INSERT WAR HERE). The strictness of her parents is evident by how they belittle me with a ton of chores when I visit. By virtue of this, she grew up valuing education and discipline, yet, this also placed great stress upon her at my age. “I was very stressed about school. I worried and was anxious, and I am glad you are not as overly anxious as I was.” (Meyer, M.) As she grew up, her parent’s involvement in their children’s academics and sports were vital, therefore, my mother is actively involved with me,whether it be math or swimming. My mother has had numerous influences, but what I consider the clearest way is through my willingness to work hard, whether it be to get excellent grades or to get a starting spot, and also to remain close with my friends and those who care about

Most mothers and daughters have those typical mother-daughter talks. You can compare them to a rite of passage that continues for a period of time. The goal is to gain a closer bond between the two females. Every once in a while, a mother will sit down with her daughter and they will talk about anything. The topics can range from boys to advice or just describing your day. A mother isn 't supposed to be your best friend, that 's not her role. She is a confidant or a great listener who unconditionally loves you. My mother possesses those qualities; they just aren 't usually put to use. Each time we have our mother-daughter talks they tend to be at the weirdest times: while driving me to dance practice, while doing my hair, when I 'm trying to go to bed, etc. There is nothing wrong with that. I know my mom is really busy. Between finishing work projects at home, cooking dinner and raising five kids (I 'm including my father and our two dogs), this woman doesn 't get a moment to herself. So, our mother-daughter talks turn out to be unconventional, at least compared to television examples and what my friends talk about. I don 't mind though. Our uniqueness makes our talks much more memorable.

My family happens to be deeply religious, conservative and often closed minded about certain aspects of life. In other words, everything that they tend to support and believe in as a family unit, tends to be something I can not personally agree with. As anyone can imagine, this has deeply affected my interpersonal relationship with my family in a negative impact. As an adult, I have come to my own conclusions about my personal beliefs about life and what those entail for myself. These beliefs are usually the exact opposite of what I grew up with, much to the disappointment of my family which has created a deep divide between us. This has probably affected my relationship with my father the most, as he has always been the most outspoken about his disappointment.

second she seen someone’s deviations change when they weren't acting the same. Mom’s are good at that. We talked about why she was acting the way she was and my mom completely understood now why she felt the way she was feeling. She always was wondering things that went on with us rather it be in school, outside of school, with friends, or in this situation ”boy problems”. I knew my mom wanted to stay in communication about all that happens in our life so she can simultaneously be included. That’s exactly why me and my mom have such a great mother daughter bond. Are perception of warmth and closeness heavily influences that and I have always been so blessed to have the mom that I have.

Personally, it hits me in the gut whenever I see mothers and daughters together. I am envious of the bond I see when other women are enjoying time with their mothers. I do not remember the last time my mother told me she loved me, or yet the last time I told I her I loved her. I do not hug my mother let alone laugh or go shopping with her. Yet, I am constantly surrounded by reminders that my mother should be my best friend. However, that concept is so alien to me. My mother and I never had the sort of closeness I saw in my friends’ relationships. My friends’ and their mothers’ would go shopping, share secrets, and tell their mother about things happening in their lives. My mother is the last person I go to in a crisis. She is certainly the last person to whom I would tell a secret or a problem too. Anytime I tried to get close to her by talking about what was going on in my life I left the conversation more frustrated and annoyed than before.

In this skills session my client brought her relationship with her mother and her feelings about that relationship. She brought feelings of “sadness” “hurt” “upset” and “grief”. She states early in the session “I’m constantly searching for some sort of love” and “affection from her”. She describes feeling neglected and disregarded by her mother and the rest of her family. She admits that these feelings have “stretched into the rest of her life” and have left her feeling “unworthy” “not good enough” and like she “doesn’t matter”. She states that she feels “not worthy of affection” or “care” or “regard”.

When you look at my family right now, you can see that everyone is separated from each other. My mom and sister live in the states, my other sister lives in the Philippines, and I live here on Saipan with my father. My mother is the kind of person that can voice her opinions, one that can speak to people, and someone who can find a way through any situation. These are some of the reasons I admire my mother deeply.

My mother and I have always had a close bond in our relationship. When I was young, my mother was forced to raise me on her own, and during this time is when we developed a strong connection. Our relationship has never consisted of fighting, only the usual bickering that occurred during my teenage years. I have always reached out to my mother when I need advice, a shoulder to cry on, or am simply looking for a good laugh. Without I doubt, I consider my mother, my best friend because she continues to love me unconditionally despite the mistakes that I make. Together we are very open with each other and I value the fact that I tell her everything because I know this is something that is unique to a mother-daughter relationship.

She will never say no to a friend in need. She will bend over backward for her friends. For example, she takes her friend’s daughter to theater class an hour away (because her friend would still be at work) every Monday. She also watches my little cousins every week along with her own kids to help with my aunt and uncle’s complicated schedule. My mom is also constantly giving to her friends. She will give them passed down clothes, books, movies, and more. Many friends are often unable to thank her enough. In conclusion, my mom is the example of what a true friend can be.

I have a really great relationship with my parents. I guess I can say that they’re my favorite people in the whole world. I’m definitely more close with my parents than any other person would be. Probably even closer than my own brother. I only have one other sibling, and when he left for boarding school, it was only me and my parents left in the house. So we would spend a lot of time together when they weren’t at work. They would take me everywhere with them. I remember we used to randomly pick a night and go to a restaurant together for dinner and we’d talk about our day and just bond over food. My parents would even take me on their business trips because they would feel bad leaving me at home with my aunt or grandmother. They would go to New York City for their business trips and they would take me along with them. I enjoyed every second of those business trips because anytime with my mom and dad is a good time for me. Even when my mom had a doctors appointment at Johns Hopkins hospital for a brain tumor, they brought me along with them.

I will tell you how loved ones viewed me and my children during and after. We got married in our early twenties. In retrospect all the signs were there, but because I came from a close, loving family, none of us knew what we were really dealing with. My family and friends couldn’t miss that he was self-absorbed, always the centre of attention, very aware of the effect his witty or acute remarks had on others. Some friends disliked him because of the way he made others look stupid, but my family supported me and we all assumed that deep down, he was caring and loving and this was just a show. My ex was very intelligent, and knew exactly how to play us all. (In their defense - they are also very intelligent, but have simply never had a close encounter with NPD.) I am pretty sure that he made us move away to a city where I had no family, because they would’ve started to see through him soon enough.