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John Rossi's Racial Identity

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John Rossi, a white heterosexual Protestant middle class male, is member of the small percent of Americans described as fully privileged by the matrix of domination. Living with separated parents and a younger brother, he attends Cabrillo College full time and works as a middle school boy’s basketball assistant coach. When interviewing him at his home on West Cliff Beach, we spoke primarily of his gender and masculinity in terms of shaping his identity. However, he spoke greatly on his racial identity.
John identifies as a man, pointing out his appearance as a give away. Standing six foot - five inches with a full grown beard, he has always been identified as a man, particularly an older one. He recalls at fifteen, being invited to a bar with …show more content…

He describes that when he first began growing out his beard in high school, it added an extra dimension to his appearance, reinforcing his dominance. But once his beard was fully grown, it became an attribute that established confidence. John states that his primary reason for growing beard was to see if he could, but he admits that he’s kept his beard due to the compliments he’s received for looking similar to Fifty Shades of Grey actor, Jamie Dornan. He describes this comparison as making him feel “cool” and giving him a “confidence boost” because “what guy wouldn’t want to be told he looks like that good looking dude on TV”. The idea that we judge and compare ourselves to others is known as the social comparison theory. This theory is described in Melissa Milkie’s article Media Images’ Influence on Adolescent 6irls' Self-Concepts. Though this article describes media as a socializing agent for girls, it also applies to John. He has maintained a certain look to attract women, based on the magazines and movies they …show more content…

However, almost half way through our discussion he disclosed his feminine activities and interests that he participates in. These activities and interests include yoga, meditation, watching romance movies, and owning a poodle. He describes his interest in these activities as rooted by his mother. He describes that his first time doing yoga was with mother after a minor basketball injury and since then he has regularly accompanied her to yoga. John has also watched romantic “chick flicks” with his mother since he was younger, in order to spend more time with her. However, these interests were never spoken of when John’s father was present. John’s dad denied his sons from participating in feminine activities, instead forcing sports into their lives as John admits. He explains, “I played baseball, soccer, football, basketball, track and field. I played everything that was offered and did this for years until eighth grade, when I just focused on basketball.” Though he has an interest in basketball, he ended his career senior year of high school, upsetting his father. According to Emily W. Kane in No Way Boys Are Going to be Like That, fathers generally reject their sons from exploring their femininity as opposed to mothers. This is true for John’s situation. Instead of encouraging his sons to proceed their interests, John’s father obliviously chooses to enforce R.W.

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