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Divorce can harm couples without children as well. One way is that divorce is much more popular to those who are getting married for the second or third time. This is can be explained by a few different reasons. One reason is simply because the spouses know how easily they can get divorced. They are more likely to focus on their spouse’s imperfections than on how they can mend their dissolving marriage. Also when a person remarries there is a higher chance for the other spouse to have children. This can put stress on both people because the new spouse will want more attention, but the attention will be given to the kids or vice versa. Money can also be a problem in second marriages more than the first because spouses are more likely to be financially crippled from having the previous divorce; this in turn will make them less financially secure. Divorce can also make people feel insecure with themselves and make them think that everything is their fault. It can cause depression and in certain cases could even lead to suicide.

As generations pass by, divorce is becoming more of a social norm than a problem between two individuals. Divorce once was a private household issue but it became widespread only a couple of decades ago. According to the statistics, in the 1950s only 3% of families got divorced and in the 1960s it was already 10%. In the 1980s, 33% of families opted for divorce due to various environmental factors. Recent studies in Canada today, show that the rate of divorce is changing to an extent such that 4 in 10 marriages end in separation. Divorce is a sensitive concept which lies beyond two individuals simply falling out of love as is both the cause and an effect. The many factors that contribute to divorce are extramarital affairs, financial struggles, and the lack of communication.

There is a great epidemic in the world today it’s called divorce. Divorce has affected so many families but most of all the children. “What may offer humanizing freedom for parents may be dehumanizing void for children.”( Root, A. 2010) Do you know why divorce is dehumanizing? “When dehumanization is in play there is little, if any consideration of the impact their betrayal will have on their mate.”(Reynolds,n.d.) According to Andrew Root divorce has deep and long lasting effects on children because it undermines a child’s ontological security. The divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. Over fifty percent of marriages end up in divorce.(Corcoran,K.O. 1994). Psychological and Emotional aspects of divorce.) What I’m going

Divorce is viewed differently by many people. Sometimes this is due to experiences, what others have said, or looking at studies that are not always accurate. However, not everyone can have the same views about marriage ending in divorce. In the article, “No Easy Answers: Why the Popular View of Divorce Is Wrong” by Constance Ahrons she shows her view on divorce. Ahrons believes that divorce does not have long-lasting damaging effects on children (65). Divorce can affect children in the family but the way the decisions are made is what will change the way the kids are influenced.

The best way to teach others how divorce, in certain relationships, frees the families from bondage is by using personal experience because individuals who have experienced divorce find it easier to explain the facts of divorce. From childhood, many parents teach their children that divorce is wrong and that there becomes a way to fix the circumstances. At a young age, Kingsolver inherited a definition of divorce from her family and friends. Kingsolver held these beliefs about divorce: “That it 's a lazy way out of marital problems. That it selfishly puts personal happiness ahead of family integrity.”(Kingsolver). Society teaches the principle of family integrity, and that when the spouse of a divorce leaves they are only thinking for themselves. Although, principles do change and the perception of divorce can change too. Kingsolver, from experience, claims, “I had no idea how thoroughly these assumptions overlaid my culture until I went through divorce myself.”(Kingsolver). Divorce is commonly misunderstood, and frowned upon, but the many who face such trials are left with the understanding of what divorce really extracts from families, and the

Many couples see divorce as an easy way out of a marriage and they feel like they can deflect all the feelings that come with it. Medved says, “The grim stories of crippled couples who I have interviewed for this book got me thinking about the permanent distrust, anguish, and bitterness divorce brings” (665). After a divorce many newly single people find that they are unable to find happiness and the scars left by a divorce is the reason. For instance, many of those who divorce are not ready for the roller coaster ride that lies ahead of them. Medved asserts, “While everyone laments the immediate trauma of “going through a divorce” more discomfiting is the alarming news of it’s lingering emotional and psychological effects” (666).

Divorce can have a minimal impact on society economically. Divorced women are more likely to work as a result of economic necessity, especially if there are children involved. Women have greater responsibility, after a divorced, because they are now the primary caregiver, in additional with child care cost as an added factor. Often time’s women and children of divorce become victims to government aid in assistance with government grants. Some of these grants include housing vouchers, medical insurance, transportation, and child care. After a breakup, household incomes drop as much as 15 percent, while higher poverty rates increase (Wolfinger, N, 2005). Although legislation proposals suggest marital classes approved by the department of human services, would aid in reconciliation of marriage.

“If we were to ask a number of couples they are divorced, we would receive many different answers: “We feel out of love”, “We grew apart”, “We are just too different”, “He/she met someone new” or we may not get a response at all (Seccombe, 2015). I watched as my mother reached for her 20 x 24 wedding picture that hung on the wall of the family living room , and threw it to the ground in anger. Broken pieces of glass laid across the picture of her and her husband, or my step-father. The shattered pieces of glass and broken frame on the floor represented her broken marriage and her shattered emotions. I was about sixteen when I witnessed my first divorce on a micro-level perspective. The FAD2230 Divorce Restoration Act, is an act in which will make

Divorce is becoming all too popular in our society today. When a couple experience tough times or have one too many arguments, they automatically think divorce. Despite its prevalence couples are not prepared for it’s long, drawn out, hurtful process. Divorce does not only hurt the individuals involved, it also affects the children tremendously. While many people don’t think divorce is a bad thing. Hollywood makes divorce look cool and uneventful. When in all reality, it is disruptive. Some people would say that divorce is a lazy way out of a marriage; the cowardly thing to do when a situation presents itself. Divorce is not the only answer to marital problems, in most cases.

There are three main causes of divorce: changing in woman’s roles, stress in modern living, and lack of communication. The first significant cause of recent rise in the rates of divorce is a woman’s role being completely changed. In the past, men had to earn all the money to afford the expenses of the family, whereas woman only did housework. That led to the woman having no money

Going through a separation or divorce in mid and later life increases the likelihood of an elderly woman living in poverty. According to Davies & Denton (2002), a woman who is married may rely on her husband’s financial resources for security later in life. As such, she may not do any retirement planning of her own. A woman who divorces later in life is left with a very short and unrealistic amount of time to build up her own savings before turning 65. Davies & Denton (2002) found that retired divorcees are least likely of all women to rate their income as adequate to meet their needs.

Divorce legalize a state of discord between the couple, it leads to a release of the climate of dispute and creates new domestic structures of coexistence between parents and children. Recovering from a divorce is a separate process, not only for each individual but also for each sex. Women are twice as likely to initiate divorce because they are more likely to recognize problems in the marriage. Most divorcing couples expect to go through a difficult adjustment period immediately after the marriage comes to an official end. It is important to be aware of the possible consequences of divorce, and to have a realistic view of the future. Only in the movies is that a rich handsome man and eligible to appear out of nowhere and give a divorced woman everything she ever dreamed of and more. In real life, women often suffer more after a divorce, both in terms of quality of life and emotional well-being. Divorce can be an agonizing process for men and women, as there may be many victims in divorce, children, relatives, friends and finances.

It is believed that men are the least affected by divorce. However this doesn’t mean that they do not suffer at all. Indeed, men suffer financially from divorce; they are obliged to support their children as well as their ex-wives. And because before divorce the responsibility was shared by both husband and wife, divorced men cannot always afford to pay alimony, thus they may be

Divorce is a plague that is destroying numerous families across the United States of America. Sadly, when husbands and wives divorce, the children are often caught directly in the middle. Throughout the years divorce has been becoming more and more common. In the 1920's it was a rare find to know a person whom had been divorced, today it is a rarity not to know of one who has been, or will be divorced. Divorce has numerous effects on the structures of families, and many devastating effects on the children that must experience it, although sometimes necessary, divorce radically changes the lives of adolescents and adults alike.