Letter of Advice

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Final Paper: Letter of Advice Com 200 Interpersonal Communication March 5, 2012 Final Paper: Letter of Advice Dear Amy and Smith, As you know, I am taking interpersonal communication, and as a close friend of the two of you, I feel that it is only right that I share information I have learned for the marriage you have ahead. I know that you are newly engaged, and this information will prove to be of use in your relationship. We have all heard “communication is the key in marriage,” and this proves to be true in many different concepts. Having effective communication is a key to build stronger and better in any relationship. This is my letter of advice to effectively use interpersonal communication in your relationship. To start…show more content…
David Code, author of “To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First”, refers to placating in relationships. Placating is means to pacify or calming the other person in order to keep peace. This sounds like a helpful idea, but it is a cheat to solving problems. It is more like laying a clean sheet over a spot on a mattress; the spot cannot be seen, but it is still there under the sheet. Although placating is idea to the one on the receiving end, it creates a façade of the feelings of the other one. Constantly serving to another’s feelings over one’s own feelings eventually diminishes the person’s view of his or her own needs (Sole, 2011). Silence and placating can both be dropped under the category of playing games. There are times when people are unaware of these games, but there are also times when the person has an objective. It is common that individuals participate in such games, and it is also common to have a negative outcome. The “silent treatment” I mentioned earlier was a game I tried to play, and it most definitely had a negative outcome, because when my husband and I started communicating again the conflict arose again. Why not play a game of truth and honesty? Bets are that it will be a better game to participate in to having effective communication in relationships. Words can generate different attitudes, behaviors, and perceptions from a spouse. When we get to know our spouses better, we are aware of the “trigger words” that we should avoid when
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