Letter of Advice

Interpersonal Communication is a very important ingredient in making strong, healthy relationships. Communicating is how we get a better understanding of one another’s perception of things, as well as how we help someone to better understand ours. We need to express our feelings in relationships and know that they are reciprocated. Not communicating leads to problems and misunderstandings. People need to learn to understand what the other person is trying to communicate. Interpersonal communication is the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages: it is face-to-face communication. It is about what is said, how it is said, and the use of non-verbal communication through

My advice to you for a successful relationship is to be open and honest with each other about how you feel. It starts by identifying barriers to effective interpersonal communication. In fact, being open and honest with your significant other is very important in not creating problems later on the relationship. When you are honest you build trust. According to Pope (2007) the article states “When you’re suppressing communication and feelings during conflict with your husband, it’s doing something very negative to your physiology, and in the long term it will affect

In fact, John Gray believes that if a woman does not use the typical register, she will only make the situation worse, and cause the husband to withdraw more. Rivers and Barnet explain how inauthentic communication between the married couple only creates misunderstandings between them, and helps to drive them apart. This lack of emotional and deep communication with men could cause a break in the relationship, and a lack of an emotional connection to his children. If men are already do so little housework and childcare, and spends the majority of his time working (Wade et. al 2015), how will he ever manage to develop a meaningful relationship with his family, especially if he does not communicate with them? Women are not exempt from the problems that come with gendered communication. Because women are inclined to use indirect forms of speech (Disch 2009), they can often cause misunderstandings in their relationships. An example from Ohio State University shows this type of complication due to indirect language:

Phil noted that men and women are wired differently and attempting to blur viewpoints is unnatural and dangerous. When couples try to insist their viewpoints on each other, it often starts ego-conflict that can be harmful to the self-esteem. Which ties in with Myth #3 “Great relationships cause great problem-solving.” Ironic myth, right? The ability to problem solve seems to be a key component in healthy relationships? Dr. Phil embellished on this by pointing out that 90 percent of conflicts in relationships are unsolvable, and you can still be happy even if you and your partner can’t solve disagreements. “There are things that you and your partner disagree about and will continue to disagree about. Why can’t you once and for all resolve these issues? Because in order to do so, one of you would have to sacrifice your values and beliefs.” The textbook describes one of the dangers when engaging in conflict is when power is unequally distributed by interpersonal power. Which causes the other partner to feel unheard and weak in the relationship. Dr. Phil gives the advice that agreeing to disagree is O.K.. If the problem is unsolvable, it’s healthy to reach emotional closure this

The silent treatment is something many people do when confronted with a difficult situation, instead of dealing with a problem, some people just shut down. “This occurs when one or both parties withdraw or refuse to communicate for a lengthy period of time” (Sole, 2011). Most people fell like this way the problem gets better, or goes away all together, but in reality, tension increases, problems remain unsolved, resentments build, and frustration, anger, and increased distance between the parties often results. (Sole, 2011) This is also a form of control, and your relationship may be seriously damaged. In order to get around this you have to try to find ways to break the silence, and have a meaningful discussion. It is very difficult to be the one in this situation to speak up and say, “I am sorry for arguing, can we talk about this problem, I

Though interpersonal communication can be the element to effective communications linking you and your loved one, it can also influence how you and your loved one interrelate with one another by not being a good listener and amplifier. Hello my name is and I will be giving you with a bit of guidance in turn to keep and preserve a well-built strong bond.

Although sometimes useful to break from the conflict to cool off, it tends to be destructive. As a forceful way to avoid conflict, it is active

I have personally witnessed how destructive these attitudes and behaviours are to relationships. Not only between the couple but likewise affecting family members. Feelings of helplessness combined with the inability to alleviate the anguish, leaves everyone distressed and traumatised. Further, complicating the process of correcting mistakes and healing through forgiveness. Destroying communication makes restoring relationships almost impossible.

In conflict we often make the mistake of using our power to focus on the relationship or on the issue/  outcome we desire.  The result is that we often attain one at the expense of the other.  Our power may enable us to achieve our goal but damage or destroy the relationship.  Alternatively, we may sustain the relationship at the expense of our needs or desired outcome.  The ideal may be maintaining a healthy relationship while at the same time achieving our goal, but this requires a subtle and complex use of different kinds of power or perhaps not using the power at our disposal.  This requires wisdom, self control and self discipline as well as skilled interpersonal behavior.

The American Psychological Association estimates that approximately 90% of all people in the United States will marry by the time they reach the age of 50. Of those, an estimated 40-50% will divorce. Couples that remarry have even higher rates of divorce (http://apa.org/). Of the many potential presenting problems, a research study completed by Miller, Yorgason, Sandberg, and White (2003), found that communication was the most common presenting issue for both spouses. A similar study by Doss, Simpson, and Christenen (2004), identified communication and emotional affection as the leading causes for why couples seek therapy; wives generally reported communication first, while husbands reported emotional affection.

The difference of communication between a woman’s point of view and a man’s point of view often makes living together very challenging.

try to force and resist each other.) So what’s the alternative? In true equality, as op-

Conflicts in intimate relationships subsist inevitable. Despite the degree to which individuals stand alike, differences in opinions and beliefs will transpire. This chapter taught me that it does not stand as the topic of disagreement that retains importance, but rather the way in which the couple resolves the conflict. According the text, six steps exist to aid in conflict resolution; “The steps are: (1) clarifying the issue; (2) finding out what each person wants; (3) identifying various alternatives; (4) deciding how to negotiate; (5) solidifying agreements; and (6) reviewing and renegotiating” (Olson, DeFrain, & Skogrand, 2014, p. 154). Upon reading the descriptions and facts, I find these six steps to rest highly effective and imperative to conflict resolution. When a disagreement emerges, couples tend to play the blame game, ignore their parent’s perspective, and explore for a quick solution. While it stands evident that these behaviors do not persist effective, these six steps provide a solution. Although I do find these six steps to exist accurate, I cannot guarantee how realistic they stand. Just as any other process, to remain realistic, the steps require two individuals who value their relationships and desire its continuation. This process requires individuals to not only voice their opinion, but also to clarify, identify, and negotiate this issue at hand. These steps will not occur with ease or speed, but they will sanction for the complete resolution of

The human process of communication may reveal cognitive interpretations pertaining to a wide variety of perceptions developed by personal judgment and experiences created by one 's unique cultural blueprint. Thus, the chosen receiver may decode a different meaning from the message intended. To create a more intricate element to the aspect of intercommunication, relationships must be navigated carefully. The relationships between coworkers, friends, family, relatives and the world at large vary according to protocol, etiquette and culture. However, many would agree that marital intercommunication can be the most complex of all people skills. Equanimity with one 's life partner, is indeed a virtue that requires persistence. Therefore, it is often said “Happy wife, happy life”. This research paper explores the contributing factors of marital negotiation, diplomacy and comprehension of relationship elements as well as human discernment skills when approaching marriage and communication pertaining to various cultural views. The Hinduism, Islamic and Christian spiritual cultures are chosen for their comparative and diverse qualities, cited in summation context in this report. The provided data is meant to render a new outlook for developing an effective form of marital intercommunication. The information is not intended to provide counseling or resolve marital discourse. Once told by our clergyman before marriage “A couple must communicate with one another”,

I used this technique while having issues with my significant other. The first thing to solve a problem is to acknowledge that there is a problem. Sometimes the problem would get out of hand, making the problem bigger than it’s supposed to be. There was an incident where I have did something that caused an argument between me and my partner, I admitted my wrongdoing and some of my bad characteristics. Then we would both acknowledge the bad and try to change it and defuse the problem. This is the best technique when solving difficulties with me and my partner in our relationship. This technique always works on the both of us. I will continue to use this method because it is “the fastest and most effective means of establishing a quick working relationship..,” Furthermore, this technique helps us grow together as a couple.