Life Isn T Fair, The Sooner You Learn That The Better

Parents usually have the best intentions – like protecting their children from life's hardships and preparing them for adulthood. However as with many other aspects of parenting, the results do not always match the intentions. Overprotective parents generally want to protect their children from harm, hurt, pain, failure, unhappiness, bad experiences, rejection, and disappointment (Lindsey 1). However, parents must realize that overprotective parenting has certain side effects. Parents believe that they are doing a favor for their children by keeping them safe without realizing that this parenting style can have severe effects on children such as robbing children of the essential life skills that they need in order to have a healthy

Within Kohn’s essay he responds to the accusations of selfishness and ungratefulness given to the younger generations today. He finds it ridiculous at this point how stereotypical the beliefs of older generations are about younger generations and their more liberal thinking, it's always the same accusations again and again. Kids are always ungrateful and they never learn to appreciate what life they have been given, is too overheard within this topic, “ they have become our society’s conventional wisdom about children...it will almost be from this direction”. Kohn also says, that too many always claim that discipline from the parents is too common, “If the subject is discipline (and limits imposed by parents), the writer will insist that kids today get too little”. He states that these claims are all misconceptions and both the child and the parent should not be at fault because these myths are just not true, there is no evidence to show, “what impact, if any, this practice has on the kids”. Statistical evidence also shows how these assertions are wrong by showing how all articles that condemn young people are merely recycling the same information and, “only 27 percent of educators in the sample report having seen “many” examples of overinvolved parenting”, this is a very low number from a sample of families within school districts. Kohn demonstrates that even educators who see the children year-round don’t see the “common” overbearing parent raising their children to be narcissistic and egotistical adults.

The front door squeaks close. One’s child arrived home at 1:00 AM, but was instructed to be home at 10:00 PM. That child came home with his parents waiting on the stairs with hands on their waists. His parents yelled at the boy for twenty minutes and had all electronic devices taken away from him, but the parents needed to first understand what their children did, and how he could have solved the problem. Families shouldn't feel upset and ignore their children because they broke a rule; they should sit down with their child and listen to what they have to say. It’s important for a child to recognize what they did and give them options on how they want to resolve them. Throughout this unit, many parenting styles were presented, including Baumrind's

The short story/debate, “Life Isn’t Fair - Deal With It” by Mike Myatt, is about his opinion on why life isn’t fair, what fair is, and if life itself should be fair or not. Mike Myatt explains that the term “Fairness” is a subjective idea and is not a natural characteristic of life. So, in this debate, Mike Myatt tells us about why people think the way they do when it comes to fairness. Some people have their own choices and it is largely based on the choices they assemble, and the attitudes that they start to adopt. Some of those choices that are being made come with dreadful and awful consequences. He also says how kids start to blame their problems on their parents, their teachers, their pastors, their government, or their society. On that occasion, he gives eleven rules of life and all at once explains that life is not fair and we all should try and pull through at whatever life throws at us, because in the end it is the choices we decided to make. Whether those were acceptable choices or not, we can’t not blame others for our mistakes.

A lot of people understand as parents “Failure is the way to success”, and yet parents try to protect their children from danger and failure by restraining their freedom. The article Free the children written by Nancy Gibbs advises parents to love yet left alone so they can try a new skill. Efforts to guide and guard can sometimes be a barrier for their children to experience the mistake and learn from it. In my opinion, this article is definitely true because one can correct their mistake easier through experiencing. One can also understand the reason of a failure from a real situation. In addition, this prevents one from making the same mistake over and over again.

Children must be allowed to grow and mature at their own natural pace. The old saying ‘kids must be kids’ is based on this basic need. Dr. Sigel of the Educational Testing Service in Princeton, New Jersey says “Denying, or at least not recognizing, the child’s active outreaching curiosity has negative consequences.” (ProQuest, New York Times, pg. 2). When hothousing a child occurs parents run the risk of the children having what is known as achievement anxiety. This is when a child “come(s) to believe they are valued for what they memorize or produce or achieve”. (ProQuest, New York Times, pg. 2). It appears that there is more evidence that supports the belief that ‘mother knows best’. Meaning, children belong in the care of their mothers, at home, where they can be allowed to play, daydream, and explore their environments.

Life isn’t fair, but over these years we’ve dealt with so many things that lead us to get used to it. Everyone deals with pain and regret, and some people never get happiness in return. Some people have the happiest lives, yet never have to deal with what’s going on in the outside of their perfection. It seems as though the heartache in this world will cease to be equal. The nicest and kindest people can be put through hell, as if they are getting punished for something they never did; yet the virtue of the rest can live without pain. Life will never have the scale weighed to equal because life isn’t, and never will be fair.

“That’s not fair!” “Life isn’t fair!” Life is an enormous game of gambling. There are points in life when people cannot decide where they are going to go, who they are going to be, and how the outcomes of their decisions may affect their future. There’s point in life where a person cannot decide their own fate but, someone else is deciding their fate. That is where fairness comes into play. Fairness gives people a level playing field and not one where someone has a lower platform to reach the goal, while others have a higher platform. In most cases, the adult decides where a child may go. But, what happens if someone is raised higher for the way they look or talk? Is that considered fairness? No. Fairness not only shows that not everyone is perfect but, that a whole group cannot be taken down because of one’s failure.

By not letting their children attend and participate in play dates, sleepovers, school plays and other things that help develop their social skills they are setting their children up for failure. Children need to be around people in order to develop the right and wrong way to treat people. When they aren’t allowed that right, in some cases, it can cause behavior problems which then strip away some of their children’s opportunities. When all of this comes into play it can and most of the time will result in one way or

In the memoir The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls, demonstrates a certain type of parenting that may be uncommon. The Walls parents have a different type of parenting style. They want their kids to learn from their own mistakes, teaching them right from wrong. The certain parenting style that relates to them would be permissive parents. Permissive parenting, have few demands to make of their children. These parents rarely discipline their children because they have relatively low expectations of maturity and self-control (Cherry, The Four Styles of Parenting). The kids had to learn to fend for themselves on their own because their parents weren’t going to hand it to them. “None of us kids got allowances. When we wanted money, we walked along

Rosemary Walls is a self-sufficient and free spirited parent who seems focused on only her goals. She does not believe in a structures living, thus she allows her children-even her students- to do whatever they please as long as they do not put anyone in harm’s way. Despite graduating with a degree in teaching, she refuses to teach because she thinks that children are standing in her way of becoming a professional artist. It is universally acknowledged that a parent must put their child’s needs ahead of his/hers, but Rosemary does not. Instead of attaining a job as a teacher to help with her family’s financial struggle, she remains at her house painting all day.

As children we look up to our parents as role models, it is universal that we have the need to have them in our lives, to feel loved by them. They are the people who should be responsible for our upbringing and in molding the way we are to be as adults. The role of a parent is not just providing food and shelter but also providing a good example. Unfortunately, this does not always happen. There are parents who for one reason or another are not there for their children, parents who do not set the right example to their kids. In the story "Reunion" by John Cheever we see a perfect example of how a father does not step up to his role as a parent and the effect it has on his son. We see the need of

Reason to Listen: Without learning about effective ways to parent, it can become a daunting task to raise a child.

Parenting is like taking on a jobof its own, it's a job like no other where u have to offer everything from silly giggles and heart-warming smiles to harsh attitudes and angry tears. Yet not everyone is cut out to be a parent and take on such a responsibility, some people are still stuck in a habit of only thinking of themselves.

Children enter the world as part of preexisting systems. They enter parental systems and families that already have rules, roles and boundaries, and more are made as children grow and the family develops. These transitions can be confusing and challenging for all members involved leading to feelings of fear, anger and even helplessness. Members within the family