If people need to change who they are to fit in with a group of people, then that group of people are not really their friends. Their REAL friends should accept them for who they are and should not have to change for them. People should not change at all. If they do so, they risk losing their own identity. If everyone fits in all the time, life would be boring. For example, In the story “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan she talks about her life as a kid and how hard her mother was on her. Her mother was trying to make her a prodigy at playing piano even though Jing-mei did not want to. “Why don’t you like me the way I am? I’m not a genius! I can’t play the piano. And even if I could, I wouldn’t go on TV if you paid me a million dollars!” (Tan 102). As
Write or Wrong Identity by Emily Vallowe is a short literacy narrative about Emily trying to discover if she is really a writer or if she just believed what a teacher or parent told her. While writing her narrative Emily gave several details from the beginning of her writings to now. She explains that her mother still has some of the books she wrote as a kindergarten student. Throughout the entire text Emily continues to repeat the same phrase “I am a writer” and the more she writes it seems like she becomes less certain of this statement. By the end of the narrative Emily has stated that by the time she reaches her 90s she does not know if she will still be questioning herself as a writer or if she
Our personal identities represent the culmination of our past, the influence of the present that we live in, and what we will be in the future. Jeanne Wakatsuki Houston, in the short story Double Identity, describes the evolution of her gender and racial identity in her youth and later life. She struggles to balance her female identity within Japanese and American societies, initially within her high school and college years and later during her marriage. Through her experience in school, she seeks harmony between her two identities by conforming to the cultural standards required by the situation at hand. As time passes, she decides that acting according to whichever racial identity she feels suits
In the essay, “Sociology of Leopard Man”, Logan Feys talks about conformation and how people are being affected by it. The author introduces the idea of changing your feelings, looks, beliefs, or actions in order to fit in with a group. My opinion is that it is not a good idea. I believe that changing your personality is fine if you are doing it because you want to do it. If you are changing because other people in society are doing it, then I would say that it is wrong. They may be wanting to change because they want to be viewed by society as normal. Society forces individual people to conform to their beliefs. This is affecting people’s lives as it gives them more to think about when they are in public as they are worrying about what others think.
Each person reaches a point in their life when they begin to search for their own, unique identity. In her novel, Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan follows Jing Mei on her search for her Chinese identity – an identity long neglected.
Amy Tan had many personal experiences in her story. For example, when Amy Tan was living in Northern California, her mother had very high expectations on her. Her mother wanted her to be with the American society and be the best she could be. Amy Tan had to get a haircut very short to the way other famous children were acting in the United States. Amy’s mother was the one who encouraged this. With that, in the story “Two Kinds,” the young girl named Jing-mei live in a part of California and she had to get a very short haircut. Jing-mei’s mother wanted her daughter to look and act the same way Shirley Temple did. Within both of the girls lives, they each had to act like an already famous person exactly to please their mothers.
People who feel the need to fit in, weather it 's because of society or themselves, are very prone for following the crowd and giving into peer pressure. When someone is a follower they tend to also have a low self importance making them even more prone. If you have a friend that is a bit of a follower try to help them out and make sure they aren’t making bad choices to gain friends. Trust me those are not the friends someone would
The title of this short story is called “Two Kind”. The title is referring to the two types of daughter Jing-mei’s mother talked about after Jing-mei refused to take piano lessons after she had failed at the performance show, “‘Only two kinds of daughters," she shouted in Chinese. "Those who are obedient and those who follow
“Why fit in when you can stand out?” You have been told this your whole life. But whose responsibility is it to find out where you fit in, yours? Or your peers? Your adolescent years are all about trying to not stand out, and trying just as hard to fit in with the “in crowd.” You use more energy trying to “fit in,” instead of just spending all your energy on being who you really are. A group of friends are suppose to have things in common, but that is hard when everyone is putting up a fake persona. It is the student body’s responsibility to make sure that everyone has a place they can fit in and be themselves. People spend their whole lives trying to “fit in,” while the people who “stand out” are the ones who become something. Think
Have you ever wondered how powerful culture can be and how can it affect you?
In, “Night”, by Elise Wiesel, the author contains many scenarios of a theme, identity, in which is repeatedly stated throughout the horrifying, gruesome novel. The theme identity was developed through the conflict of character vs. self. Over the course of “Night”, Wiesel shows his audience the theme by sharing inner thoughts and what was going through his mindset at the given moment. Elie constantly questioned who he was with all the tragedies that have happened; he also represented it with his thoughts and how he was battling with himself. Elie found his identity through the studies of his the Kabbalah, why and how he questioned the existence of God, and last but not least his thoughts and emotions of the inhumane treatment of Hitler and his
“Project of the self" is one of the most significant concepts created by Anthony Giddens. The author bases his ideas of self-identification upon influence of the modern world and changes created by the process of globalization (Giddens, 1991). The main argument is strong. However the study seeks some further explanations of the role of identity in the social life of individuals.
Identity is a state of mind in which someone recognizes/identifies their character traits that leads to finding out who they are and what they do and not that of someone else. In other words it's basically who you are and what you define yourself as being. The theme of identity is often expressed in books/novels or basically any other piece of literature so that the reader can intrigue themselves and relate to the characters and their emotions. It's useful in helping readers understand that a person's state of mind is full of arduous thoughts about who they are and what they want to be. People can try to modify their identity as much as they want but that can never change. The theme of identity is a very strenuous topic to understand
“In 2009, 33 million people in the United States were second generation immigrants, representing 11% of the national population. The children of such immigrants in the U.S., also known as "second generation immigrants," experience a cultural conflict between that of their parents and that of mainstream U.S. society” (Wikipedia 1). Amy Tan the author of “Two Kinds”, and the young character in the story both are a second generation immigrants, who have struggled in their life with parents, about the culture they assimilating and their real culture.
Identity is who a person is or how they see themselves, but is this something they are born with or is it something they learn over time? Can this identity be changed? Or is it permanent once set? Identity is a major theme in Toni Morrison’s Sula. Scholars discuss the different identities that the characters possess, but tend to fail to mention character development or lack of character development. Character development or lack thereof is usually an important literary move in most writing. This development provides a deeper understanding of characters in addition to a deeper understanding of themes throughout the literature. Sula focuses mainly on the lives of Sula and Nel, which makes tracking their character development easier to track and observe their identity and sense of self. Identity is a major, yet easily overlooked theme in Sula.
“Molly, dinner time!” my mother yells in a sing-songy voice from the first floor. My father calls the waitress over, “Excuse me, Molly” he states, trying to get her attention. The doorbell rings, and I answer it, “Hi, I’m Molly” says the cheerful little girl scout standing at my doorstep. Names are universal identifers; they shed no light about one’s personality. They are labels, they fail to display our identity because identity is a unique part of what makes you, you.