Rulers and Role Models: Family as it Shapes Identity in Make Lemonade
Family is said to make up nearly 65 percent of one's identity. This is nearly 2/3 of one's identity, more than patriotism and religion combined (Barna). How would one’s identity be different without a family? In the novel Make Lemonade, by Virginia Euwer Wolff, her character Jolly is a teenage single mother. She has two children, Jilly and Jeremy, and no parents that care about her. Her other character LaVaughn is a young teenager that babysits Jilly and Jeremy. She also has her sights set on college. Identity is shaped by family because, family is there to support one's decisions, teach valuable lessons, and prompt self-confidence.
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They provide an important role model that their children learn from. One of these role models in Jolly’s life was her grandmother. Jolly states, “‘[She] [p]ut me back together all the time. Hugged me, preached to me, put me to bed [...]’” (Wolff 155). Before Jolly had no one, she had her Gram. She provided a stable base that Jolly knew she could always count on. She taught Jolly lessons of love, family, and kindness. Without Gram, Jolly’s life would have no traces of these attributes. After Jolly’s grandmother died, she was back to having no one. LaVaughn’s mother was the next person to positively influence her: “‘ Miss Jolly. You need to take hold, girl. That’s what you need’” (Wolff 35). Throughout her life, Jolly has just been floating though. Her parents kicked her out when there was trouble and Jolly let herself get pushed around by the other people in her life. The lesson LaVaughn’s mom taught her, to take hold, will help Jolly to gain control her her and her kids life. LaVaughn has also learned a great deal from her parents specifically her father. He died when she was younger. However, he still indirectly taught her an important life lesson. LaVaughn’s dad was killed by a gang member after working hard his whole life to avoid participating in gangs, LaVaughn recalls, “ the gang gun makes a lifetime mistake and hits my Dad when it was supposedly aimed clear across into the alley” …show more content…
In LaVaughn and Jolly’s life their families have to ability to build up or tear down their self confidence. In LaVaughn’s life her mother is great at building up her daughter's self esteem. When LaVaughn was younger she gave her parents a special dried flower picture. Her parent repeatedly told her how much they were proud of her. Knowing that she had made her parents proud boosted LaVaughn’s self esteem. This give LaVaughn the knowledge that she has the ability to be successful and make her family proud. Her mother also gave her the confidence she need to go against the odds and apply for college: “You go to college, you make me prouder than I been in my whole life” (Wolff 11). Her family encouraging her to follow her dreams promoted LaVaughn to get good grades and apply to college. Without the confidence her family gave her, LaVaughn never would have applied to college, and would be stuck in poverty for her whole life. On the other hand Jolly’s family only tears down her confidence. Because of her lack of self esteem Jolly gets pushed around by her boss. Jolly recalls, “‘ I said Stop it, he kept findin’ other directions to put himself all over me --’” (Wolff 57). Jolly’s family restrained the amount of confidence she was able to obtain. By kicking her out of the house and not providing support for Jilly and Jeremy, Jolly’s parents made her feel unloved and unimportant. This
People often think of family as positive, loving, and with no flaws. However, there is almost a stereotype that all families love each other and there aren’t problems or challenges in a family. Sometimes families put people through challenges and some families aren’t “perfect”. In the book Make Lemonade by Virginia Euwer Wolff, Jolly has two kids and goes through challenges with her family. Most careful readers can see how Jolly has these challenges with her kids and how she is far off from the “perfect” family. She goes through many of these challenges in life and finds a way to overcome them. Jollys family shapes her identity because the challenges she faces ends up making her stronger. Jeremy and Jilly challenging her, LaVaughn helping her out, and her past family all shape her identity.
Meg Jay talks about a client named Emma that is struggling with her identity and feels alone because she does not have a family. Families matter because they provide a sense of security and belonging, without a family people feel lost and unimportant. Not being part of a family can have negative implications on a person’s health such as depression. Having a family to go to can reduce the stress we face in relationships, school, and work. Families are important because they provide an unconditional love that is not found in other relationships.
Beyoncé's 'Lemonade', an album that depicts Black Female Empowerment is an amazing example of how women have been portrayed throughout previous generations and today. Many in which we can see her praising the black women, making them feel powerful and strong and beautiful, and her act in feminism to diminishing her now husband Jay-Z over a mistake. Somewhere else, ‘Lemonade’ references her music to home battles and problems occurring within the family threshold, and a portion of the more extensive issue looked by dark ladies today and all through history. Suspicion and outrage are not the main feelings intended in here, the subject is by all accounts more about recovery and redemption over what she and many women have been through throughout the years. "All Night", one of my favorite songs from Beyonce’s ‘Lemonade’ album highlights her passionate voyage that she plots all through the ‘Lemonade’ collection and how she almost lost her marriage with husband Jay-Z due to his betrayal towards her. In the record we heard her finding, grappling with lastly sympathetic her significant other's treachery. As many women would not appreciate faults done by their significant other, Beyonce presently accommodated suffers through his slip in marriage but stays together with Jay-Z, she needs Jay-Z close in her life in order to perhaps give their daughter Blue Ivy an ideal life with two loving parents. With many mistakes coming in life she displays, Beyoncé grasping her significant
This quotes said by the twins dad really expresses my point: “Never let anyone lower your goals. Others’ expectations of you are determined by their limitations of life. The sky is your limit, sons. Always shoot for the sun and you will shine.” This quote really made me stop and evaluate my life and how I let my peers stop me from succeeding in my goals. Even in the smallest of ways, for example, math class if I have a question sometimes I won’t ask because I don’t want to look dumb. That stops me from exceeding in class. However, now I truly understand that in the long run “acting” smart won’t get me very far. This novel gives great advice to those who hide their true-selves because of peer pressure. The quote above is one of the many life lessons that the book reveals, in
When people think about education, they often think about being in a school. A school is a place where education is above all, and is set to high standards of learning. However, people can have a great education and learn in different settings other than a school, such as in a home. In Virginia Euwer Wolff’s Make Lemonade, the narrator, LaVaughn, finds ways to be educated in school and to educate others out of school. Most readers notice LaVaughn’s education through school, but more observational readers notice that other characters are being educated in settings like their home. Through education, LaVaughn learns many new things about herself and about others. In Make Lemonade readers notice how education, both in school and at home, improves the lives and transforms the identities of LaVaughn, Jolly, and Jeremy.
The daughter is bored with her mother's dreams and lets her pride take over. She often questions her self-worth, and she decides that she respects herself as nothing more than the normal girl that she is and always will be. Her mother is trying to mold her into something that she can never be, she believes, and only by her futile attempts to rebel can she hold on to the respect that she has for herself. The daughter is motivated only to fail so that she may continue on her quest to be normal. Her only motivation for success derives from her own vanity; although she cannot admit it to herself or her mother, she wants the audience to see her as that something that she is not, that same something that her mother hopes she could be.
In an attempt to protect and make life ‘better’ for his family, David gives up on his daughter: “I'm trying to spare us all a terrible grief" (Edwards, 19). As a result, David never had the chance to see Phoebe and all that she has become, much like adults who focus on their careers in order to make life ‘better’ for their family. But in consequence, they spend less time interacting with their family, creating a distance that is extremely hard to overcome in the future. As American author, Jim Rohn, says “Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money but you cannot get more time.” And without time, money is meaningless. Family, whether biological or not, can be filled with love. In Phoebe’s case, she is raised by her surrogate mother, Caroline and later on, her surrogate father, Albert Simpson. But, she still leads a wonderful life, one where she “liked herself and she liked her life; she was happy” (Edwards 390). Phoebe lived an amazing life, with people that love her, yet everything would have been different if she went to the institution. This shows us that family, even an incomplete and unbiological one, can mean a lot. Children do not necessarily need an abundance of fancy toys, they just want someone who can play with them, talk to them and love them; children do not only grow up well if all their materialistic needs are fulfilled, but they do grow up well with love and care from those around them. Therefore, more time should be spent with family rather than at the office. The two families while significantly different, are just that; a family. Although they may be very messed up or untraditional, in the end they are able to work out their conflicts, to come together to form a bigger family. In a similar fashion, as a society, it must be understood that families come in all shapes and sizes, whether or not connected by blood, by race or by
Jane’s experience is not so different from so many teenagers out there in the real world. Especially in the modern day, where people’s sense of beauty and confidence depends on the number of “likes” they get from friends. A dysfunctional family like Jane’s is a major reason why young people go out of their way to get love and validation, even from strangers. And the root cause of the problems in Jane’s family is the cost of the pursuit of the American Dream. To go after success in itself is not a bad thing, but compromising family, as in the case of Jane’s, has many obvious and
Family identity is important to develop who they will be in the world, a family's values, goals and vision help build a strong foundation that will mold someone into a productive member of society. Family relationships are the building blocks that lead to strong moral values. Respect, honesty and trust are all developed with family members. The stronger the bond in the family, the stronger the moral values will be as a person grows up. If the family doesn’t have strong values, skills will develop based off the environment. This can be a tough thing to learn, not
Scene. On April 23, 2016, Beyoncé Knowles Carter released Lemonade, a visual album and artistic phenomenon that would rock the nation, both physically and through the in-depth underlying meaning of the work itself. Although, yes, Beyoncé’s songs seem rhythmically enchanting, a sort of systematical lyrical genius appears. It all stems from the artist herself, Beyoncé’s career founded itself on self-empowerment, from “Put a Ring on It” to “Run the World,” her artistic abilities allowed her to spread the message of self-love and acceptance to women from all backgrounds. Lemonade follows this trend, but also delves deeper into a more focused discussion on women of color and police brutality survivors by featuring them in various music videos on the album. Even though the entirety of the album presents itself as a pop cultural revolution by tying in the rhythmic genius of Beyoncé to the history of black women, “All Night” develops the most outstanding rhetoric on the whole work by utilizing an impressive three-minute monologue before the song begins, which features several black women and includes Beyoncé’s husband’s grandmother’s dialogue, in an effort to promote the unity of women of color.
Whitaker firmly believes that: The family is seen as an integrated whole, and it is through a sense of belonging to the whole that the freedom to individuate and separate from the family is derived. Thus, the power of the family, as manifested in either negative or positive ways, is the key to individual growth and development (Becvar & Becvar, p. 158). We may come to understand that although our main focus is on the individual members of the family, each individual is greatly influenced by the other members of the family.
With being nominated for nine different awards, Beyonces visual album Lemonade is a one of a kind. During this 1 hour and 5 minute video, you watch a story. It is an incredibly personal story to her as you can see with her actions, facial expressions, and body language throughout the entire music video. You can hear how personal this story is by listening to the lyrics of the twelve different songs in this music video, by listening to the tone of voice that changes with every emotion, and by listening to the spoken words/poetry carefully chosen to go between each song to portray an even bigger message that is far beyond even her own lyrics. You watch Beyonce pour her heart out during the Lemonade visual album about multiple topics that you can tell are very close to her heart.
On April 24, 2016, Beyoncé Knowles-Carter released her sixth studio album, Lemonade. This album had no prior advertisement, yet still topped Billboard’s top 100 chart, making it a promotional wonder. Titled after the proverbial-saying, “If life gives you lemons, make lemonade,” Lemonade was released as a “visual album” in which each song was portrayed in a music video, and then later, collectively create a larger storyline. Beyoncé explores themes of betrayal, anger, forgiveness, redemption, and celebration through lyrics, spoken-word, and cinematic elements.
Within society, most individuals have a significant person who has touched their lives in an unforgettable manner. Another term for this certain someone would be a role model. In many cases role models are siblings, legal guardians or parents and often that person plays a role in shaping a child’s mind at a young age when they are very impressionable. Role models have the power to persuade or impact a person’s life and affect their decision-making. Small or large, this is powerful input to have. Unfortunately for Cherry, growing up living with only his mother as his role model had a negative effect on his life choices. Children tend to conform to everything their parents say or do. In most cases, they live by the rules and morals passed on to them by their parents. When parents demonstrate behavior that is destructive or live in a manner society would deem inappropriate, that is the behavior often a child will model. Often, children grow up to be like their role models, no matter if the outcome is positive or negative. In some cases, children who grow up in a single parent household live a very different and more difficult life than children raised in a two parent household where both parents are happily married. Single parents may be absent in their child’s life because they have the burden of being the sole provider for their children. In Cherry’s case, his mother is a prostitute whose priorities aren’t in order. She is absent because she chooses to be and not
As the rain pounded on the roof, Genevieve sat alone in the room that held her dead parents. It seemed impossible to live without her parents. She watched the wind blow and roar like a lion. The bottle that could end this nightmare right now stared her down from across the room. She glanced toward her mother's coffin “ I know she wouldn’t want that.” Genevieve's mother had always been a strong advocate for education and the a career of some type. Genevieve had decided on that night that she would no longer mope and mourn, and she would carry on her mother and father's legacy. She would keep the manor upright and stay in her schoolings.