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This paper is going to look at the episode from Modern Family and focus on the three couples that were shown in the episode. These couples relationship's will be examined through John Gottman's discussions of the “7 Principles for Making Marriage Work”, Genderlect Theory, and System's Theory. I will touch on just a few of the 7 principles that some of the couples exemplify through their relationships. Gottman's first principle of “enhancing your love maps”, means that you should familiarize yourself in learning about your partner's world. To have a detailed love map means to know relevant information about your partner such as their likes, dislikes, worries, goals, dreams and so on. The first couple, Cam and Mitchell emphasize this principle …show more content…

This principle describes how couples should work together as a team and to be open to learn from each other. Couples should grow together and need to be treated with honor and respect equally. In this selected episode, we do not see much of Claire and Phil's relationship compared to other episodes, however, there is still a few examples that represent this fourth principle from their relationship. In this episode, Claire tries her best to teach her daughters a lesson of getting along, while Phil decides to become a tightrope walker. These two scenarios may not seem to connect, but in the end it all comes together. When Claire sees her husband walking the tightrope in front of their house, she says in her monologue “All week long I’ve been telling my girls how to act instead of showing them. But not Phil. Phil could have said, ‘Alex, relax, don’t take everything seriously’ or ‘Hayley, challenge yourself, don’t give up so easily.’ But instead of talking the talk, Phil walked the walk. And isn’t that what we’re supposed to do for the people we love? It’s definitely a challenge. But Phil made it look easy, seven feet off the ground. Turns out I’ve had my Super Dunphy all along”. (episode blah) This quote from Claire reflects her feelings towards her husband Phil. She says how it can be a challenge raising …show more content…

Their relationship in this episode can be seen from Systems theory. Systems theory is significant in shaping research on the personal and social contexts of personal relationships. Systems theory says that individuals and relationships exist within contexts that affect them, and that relationships are systems in which all parts interrelate and interact (Wood,1995). Personal relationships are systems in so far that they involve interacting parts which influence one another. This observing of relationships as systems leads to four insights of how they operate. The first insight is that parts of relationships influence one another. People that are involved in a relationship affect each other because they are parts of a system. These features are all interdependent in a relationship. In the episode that was shown, Jay has just gotten a new puppy that Gloria is not too fond about. Gloria becomes affected by this dog because her and Jay are parts of a system and this dog was not initially part of their system. This dilemma that Gloria has about the puppy will be further discussed through the rest of the insights. The second insight is that all aspects of personal relationships must be understood within their contexts. To focus on a relationship and understand it, you have to look at it as a whole within contexts. Two people can be influenced by physical,

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