My Life Of A Twenty Year Old

Children of divorce are numerous, the effects of their biological parents separation and subsequent divorce has lasting effects on their behavior, academics, and their emotions. No one seems to care about the prevalence of divorce in society today; it is no longer considered taboo.

Divorce is one of the most common happenings in the world experienced by children. Most children go through different adjustments to become comfortable with the fact that their parents are not together anymore. Children of divorced parents are prone to lifelong effects. Seventy-five to eighty percent of children have divorced parents and twenty-five percent of those children have serious social, emotional, or psychological problems for the rest of their life. Most adults think that it is best for parents to stay together for the sake of their child because having two parents in different households can become difficult for the child socially and academically.

It is during this time a father needs to be present to father, shape and mold his children (Jones, Kramer, Kim A., Teresa L., Armitage, Tracey, Williams, Keith, as cited in Wallerstein, 1980, 1987). On their 10 year follow up, Wallerstein and Kelley found that regardless of the time spent with a father or not, the father continued to be a significant presence psychologically to adolescents, particularly to boys (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein, Kelley, 1974). On Kelley and Wallerstein’s 25 year follow up of their now adult participants in their longitudinal study, they have found that the effects of fatherlessness and divorce during their adolescents were long lasting. The participants in the study by Wallerstein et al. (2000) noted that “The impact of divorce hits them most cruelly as they go in search of love, sexual intimacy, and commitment” (p. 299). These same participants also stated in an interview that they had anxiety issues about relationships and intimacy problems into adulthood (Jones et al., as cited in Wallerstein et al., 2000). Wallerstein et al. (2000) participants of the research also stated that they had resentment towards their parents, particularly the fathers who were seen “selfish and faithless” (p. 300).

Often enough, divorce usually has a negative effect on people. I am no exception to that. Though I was too young to remember what life was like before my parents separated themselves, having that life for as long as I can think of was not a good experience. It caused me to have a serious case of anxiety before going to my dad’s house for visitation, during, and after. No one likes to feel anxious or stressed, and I felt that everyday, all the time. I was a self-conscious, shy girl who wasn’t ready for complex

"Where you stand depends on where you sit." Have you ever heard that saying? It means your opinion about a situation can be based on your own experience (or lack of experience) with it. For example, up until the day my wife said our marriage was over, I assumed many of my friends got divorced because of their work prioritization, activities, or some other faulty decisions they made. Today, I'm divorced and sitting on the other side the issue. I realize that divorce can happen to anyone due to any number of causes. Divorce can be the result of sudden, clearly recognizable events or slow-building, almost imperceptible issues which erode the foundation of marriage over time.

The estranged relationships between father and son tend to start from lack of communication. Fathers express their love through actions rather than words. When conflicts occur, they are unlikely to explain themselves, which leads to greater complications. In addition, fathers are often absent in the child’s youth for reasons such as work. However, absent fathers can have great influence on the child.

I used myself as an example of effects on a woman of divorce. I have five children, was married three times, and divorced twice. The effects on myself were the same but I handled it better. Being divorced was scary at first because I had children to raise. I was depressed because I would find myself lonely at times and I started to question my worth. Divorce had its positive side for me also. It made me excited for the future and I was happy to get back to knowing myself. Not every divorce has the same effects that we experienced. Some people can’t find it in themselves to get over the divorce. Location can affect the divorce rate. The divorce rate is highest in the South. Overall with 10.2 and 11.1 divorces per 1,000 men and women respectively, while its 7.2 and 7.5 in the northeast. The national average rate of divorce is 9.2 and 9.7 per 1,000 for men and women, based on a 2009 US Census report.McGowan,H.(2011). The stigma associated with divorce seems to be easing somewhat in society in general and even in families where divorce is rare or unheard of , couples are more willing to terminate the marriage instead of remaining together just to escape

Megan is a member of a single parent household following her parent 's divorce when she was young. As Megan grew more comfortable with me throughout the semester, I was able to gain insight from her about the characteristics of a family who has gone through the divorce and remarriage process. In class, we spent a great deal of time discussing the topic of a change in

When I was about 14 months old, my parents separated which then led to a divorce. Since I was extremely young, I cannot remember how it affected me. But once I got into grade school, I was in great knowledge that something was different. I then started to understand the affects my parents’ divorce had on me such as anger, resentment, feeling of loneliness, and prob-lems with communication. Now that I am a young adult, I still feel like I am being affected by those same problems except now I am able to control myself when I start to feel the symptoms. Divorce has had a huge impact on my life.

Through out this discussion the reader has seen the effects of divorce on children. These effects are primarily shown in three areas of the childrens lives. These three areas are emotionally, physically, and

For my project, I decided to discuss divorce with someone who has gone through it. By doing this, I selected questions to ask my interviewee regarding the divorce experience. I also found out whether faith played a role in her personal divorce process or not. My aunt Leonor De Leon is who I chose to interview for my project. Leonor became divorced a year and a half ago after being married for twenty-one years.

My father left when I was really young and I lived most of my life without him. To read an article about how a father can have a greater impact on a child and their psychological behavior fascinated me. Not having a father, I tend to live a decent life and I may have some issues. However, I live normal. Dads tend to have “unique” relationships with their kids and that could potentially be the reason for some children to experience psychological trouble. Dads can be strict and much scarier than their mother. Nevertheless, I do not live with a dad and I would not know. Overall, I chose this topic because I was able to connect it to myself and how different it is to my

In the last two decades divorce has increased substantially leaving couples single and families broken. Divorce is the reality for many families as there is an increase in divorce rates, cohabitation rates, and the number of children raised in step and single marital families. Divorce cannot be overlooked as it negatively affects and impacts youngsters for the rest of their lives. Although it is the decision between two parents’s children are hurt the most in the process. The concept of divorce is extremely difficult for children to understand as there are many unanswered questions and uncertainties. “Will my mom or dad remarry and who will I live with?” are concerns children express while going through divorce. Many

In conclusion, I am daddy's little girl and proud of that. I could not of asked for a better father. My dad has always been there for me and I wil always be there for him. I respect my father because he deserves to be. He stayed and was a father and never took the easy way out like in the world today most fathers do. I believe my father is the best at everything he does. He has been through so much in his life and still is a happy wonderful man; I would have been sad and depressed if I had to go through hald as much as my father. Dad is strong and looks ahead not behind, he always say the past is the past "always

Since the majority of children who go through divorce live with their mother, their relationship with their father can and often does take a turn for the worse. Children in this situation, see their father’s much less. An analysis of the National Survey of Families and household found that 1 in 5 divorced fathers had not seen their children in the past year. When a divorce first takes place, the child may feel like they are torn in between their parents. Divorce will also take a toll on the family financially. Since the custodial parent’s income drops immensely after the divorce, children who are raised in divorced families are almost 5 times more likely to live in poverty.