My Parents Having A Divorce

There is one loss in my life that affected many aspects of my life for many years, the divorce of my parents. I was in barley entering the first grade and the tender age of five, soon to turn six, when my parents spent their last night as a married couple. I do not have many memories of my parents as a couple but I do remember the day my Daddy left. He was a policeman and I watched as his cruiser drove away from our family home. I remember my mom crying and not being willing to console me or explain to me what was happening. All I knew is there was a fight, my dad left, it seemed different than other times when he left, and my mom was crying. Everything about my life changed in the blink of a five year old’s eyes which is what makes this loss so significant in my life.

It all started on a warm sunny day, my dad had just arrived from Michigan. He came into the house gave my siblings, my mother and me a hug and told us the big news. “We are moving to Michigan” he said. He said it so calmly as if expecting my siblings, my mother and myself to react in a good way. Immediately I started to panic, I didn’t want to leave the place I grew up in. I was only eleven years old, I didn’t know how the people in Michigan would be. Finally I spoke “ I don’t want to move dad, I love it here!” which he responded with “I’m sorry but we are going to move because we can’t afford to live here anymore” He said this so emotionless as if not knowing how this could affect me. I hardly got any sleep that night for the fact that my parents were arguing for what felt like all night, but in reality was just an hour.

It was only a matter of time until my parents weren’t parents any more.As we were leaving the house all I could think about was where are we going and for what reason are we leaving the house for.Before all of this we(my brother named Kenny Curtis(KC) and myself named Kyle) were instructed to grab a bunch of clothes and get in the car.I never actually realized what was happening until we started living at my mother’s friend's house.I realized that my parents were in a divorce.It stunned me for a while, but eventually I figured out that it is ok and most people get into a divorce.

Divorce; the word that makes many children shudder when they are young, and too many children know the meaning of this simple word. I, unfortunately, am no exception. I experienced it when I was eleven years old. I can recall from an extremely young age my parents arguing. It was constantly something. I always thought that eventually my parents would divorce. Little did I know that my thoughts would become realistic. “Who will I live with? How will this even work?” These include just a few question I would continue to ask myself over and over. The questions I would continue to ask myself as I was lying in bed at night. I guess this was my way of preparing myself for what I knew was soon to be a reality.

My brother was walking towards us and without a seat left, he hopped into the old ski-boat and sat down. He had a confused look on his face but that turned to anger when my dad said “We’re talking to Carlyn about what I told you yesterday.” With a face as red as his hair, he stood up and screamed “You guys are ruining my life.” I had never seen my brother like this. He was always happy, he even had the nickname “happy Pappy.” He was crying from sadness but still screaming with anger. This made my mom’s cry louder and mine begin. My dad stood up in attempts to calm down my brother and I ran over to my mom. I wrapped my arms around her as she gave me a big hug, and told me “everything is going to be alright, everything is going to be alright, everything is going to be alright.”

Divorces are a very common for child today in elementary and all the way through high school. Many things carry on from both parents to affect their kids at school and in their future relationships. Divorces do not just affect the parents it affects kids a lot as well because sometimes they are stuck in the middle on what to do.

As a child Karla imagined she would marry and start a new family, but her parents divorce opened her mind to the different types of family. Like Karla, Monica also shared her life with a stepfamily,

In the last two decades divorce has increased substantially leaving couples single and families broken. Divorce is the reality for many families as there is an increase in divorce rates, cohabitation rates, and the number of children raised in step and single marital families. Divorce cannot be overlooked as it negatively affects and impacts youngsters for the rest of their lives. Although it is the decision between two parents’s children are hurt the most in the process. The concept of divorce is extremely difficult for children to understand as there are many unanswered questions and uncertainties. “Will my mom or dad remarry and who will I live with?” are concerns children express while going through divorce. Many

The same hands that left my mom with several black eyes were tight around my neck, seconds away from putting me in a grave. A mix of flashbacks and police reports help me recall the day my abusive father nearly choked me to death. After protection orders were signed and my parents' divorce became official, I assumed life would be better. Instead, my mother's mental illness grew more severe. Following their divorce, she has been unable to work, balance a checkbook, or even get out of bed most days.

In the video, About Divorce, viewers gain insight on how children feel when their parents are going through the process of a divorce or they are already divorced (Listen 2 Kids, 2016). During this time, the children in the video shared how they felt when they found out their parents were going through a divorce. Common emotions ranged from feeling sad, confused, guilty, or they believed that their parents argued and decided to separate because of them. They talked about how at times they felt stuck in the middle while the parents argued. Also, how they experienced “adultification,” which is when children take on additional responsibilities while their parents go through this. This could range from preparing their own meals or caring for their younger siblings.

Divorce- the legal annulment of a marriage by a court or other similar body. Divorce is next in line to a loss of a family member; it is unbearable and can feel impossible to cope with. Individuals who have children and go through a divorce can negatively impact a child’s life, and ultimately lead to future divorce for the children when they are older, if not handled well. There are two types of people: Parents who have given their all and happen to realize parting ways is much healthier for all those involved, and those who stay together just for the children sake and well-being. While you think you are coping well with divorce (or not) one should keep the child in mind, and always make sure the child is emotionally fine and happy.

From being happy on top of the world, to exposing someone, divorce can really torment a family. When divorce is explained to a child, parents go about it in a round about way. Parents try to sugar coat the actual meaning of divorce, speaking as if the divorce was not happening. If parents takes time to tell the child about the divorce there should be honesty and straight forwardness. For instance; a mother is trying to explain divorce to a six year old. She begins with the “ honey Mommy and Daddy love you very much” then “ daddy and mommy are very busy with our jobs and we will not be around each other for a while, we both still love you, honey”. That is not really telling the child that their not going to be together anymore. It is more so giving the child false hope.

I remember the first time I heard the word divorce. In my second grade class, during reading I heard a girl say her parents were getting a divorce. Puzzled, I began thinking hard of what that word could mean. As I was stuck on it, I walked up to the teacher as asked her define think unknown word. She began to simplify the word for my seven-year-old self that it happens when your parents do not love each other anymore. I began thinking about my parents and what would happen if they got a divorce.

Devastated, I ran to my room gushing my eyes out. All these emotions going through my head of how my life would be without my parents in the same room or even house. From what I remember it all started about mid-June, the weeks before that were crucial. My parents would always argue over how to deal with a situation between me and my brother, Skyler. They hardly spoke to one another, but when they did they would just start bickering. I remember, one night after dinner they both went into ''their'' room with the door locked yelling at one another. Skyler and I didn’t know what to do, so we went downstairs and tried to figure out what was going to happen. With a scared tone I asked if mom and dad were going to get a divorce?" He answered back '' No, they love each other, they wouldn’t do that to us." That following night, was a school night everything was quiet except for my crying. I couldn’t sleep; all I was thinking about how it's going to affect my family.

my mom and dad got a divorce when i was just in second grade. there is no doubt my life changed at that point but the changes that were to come due to the catalyzing effect of something as simple as divorce surpasses anything that my parents or i could have ever imagined at that time. obviously divorce means splitting time, splitting houses and sometimes changing schools. but for me the divorce was mainly an open door for new adults to come into the picture, on my dads side everything was simple and remained stagnant, he married to my current step mom who really had no adverse effects on my life and she has truly become a part of my life and I never had any difficulties coping with her. on my mothers side it was much more chaotic to say the least, about (2) years after the divorce she found a man named howard. We eventually moved in together in long grove and life was moving along pretty well. Howard seemed unemployed but he had called himself an entrepreneur and established his credibility when he made it big with his joystick company in the 1980s.