My Mom And Dad Got A Divorce

I remember when I was younger and my parents got divorced, it was hard for me and my younger brothers. We were forced to grow up and accept the fact that a big change was coming. My maturity level skyrocketed, at least compared to other kids my age, because I understood what it was like to go through something life altering and they didn’t. I no longer was stuck in fairytale land. I had to wake up and move on along with the rest of reality.

My sister and I had to switch houses every week, and I still do that today. Obviously, my sister doesn’t do this, because she is at college. When she comes back, she still goes to see both parents. The divorce has changed both of our lives, in a positive way and a negative way. It has expanded my family. I have met so many more people because of my split family, and I have gone on a few more trips as well.

In the seventh grade my parents decided to get a divorce, it had a very negative effect on my family. Being in middle school the situation was very confusing and vague. I thought to myself how annoying it’s going to be switching houses every week and having double the thanksgivings, christmases, easters,etc. Also having

7th grade was the year I woke up. My mom called me into her bedroom late one afternoon and was still sitting on her bed, wearing her pajamas. The bright and cheerful sunshine that lit up the room gave a false ambiance of the tension that clouded the air. I already knew what she was going to say, but I did not want to believe it as the truth. I had noticed that my mom and dad's relationship with one another was growing apart just by the way they acted around each other. The conversations between them became shorter and their affection for one another began to fade. My dad spent his nights falling asleep watching TV on the couch, while my mom slowly disappeared back into her bedroom, alone. This had been happening for a while now, so I do not know why I was even surprised when my mom said to me that, “Your dad and I are getting a divorce”. I should have seen it coming. The clues were all in front of me, but I was too afraid to put them together. I was scared because, for the first time in my life, the image of my "perfect" family was crumbling before me. I knew inside that my family was falling apart, but I was desperately holding onto the fibers that I thought were keeping us together. It is hard to believe that one encounter can change the course of one's life forever. In this instance, I was awoken from the dream that I had been living in for so long.

Even though situations seem averse they might become positive in the end. To me and probably most people in my situation would say that their parents being divorced would be a negative situation. Although at the time I was distraught, I learned that my parents divorce might have not been helpful at first, but later on it affected my life dramatically.

One of the most life changing experiences for me was getting divorced. I was twenty-

Going through my parent’s divorce was very life changing for me. I went through so many emotions, which until this day is a topic that is hard for me to talk about. It was very sad not seeing my parents together, having no clue where my dad was and seeing my mom sad. I would love to spend time with my parents and brothers. For example, our Sunday’s mornings, seeing my mom cook breakfast, watching my dad drink his cup of coffee, watching TV with my brothers, then playing Latin music seeing my parents dance. I loved that so much. So not having that out of

My parents divorced when I was about seven years old, and my mom became the custodial parent. As my younger sister and brother, and I could adapt to always going back and forth between our parent’s. The challenging thing about having divorced parents is meeting their new significant other, which I have met multiple of them. Another thing is meeting my parent’s significant other’s children. Each person I met was nice, and if I was meeting a toddler, they were energetic. Although, each time I did meet these people, I was usually very distant and dramatic.

Often enough, divorce usually has a negative effect on people. I am no exception to that. Though I was too young to remember what life was like before my parents separated themselves, having that life for as long as I can think of was not a good experience. It caused me to have a serious case of anxiety before going to my dad’s house for visitation, during, and after. No one likes to feel anxious or stressed, and I felt that everyday, all the time. I was a self-conscious, shy girl who wasn’t ready for complex

When I was about 14 months old, my parents separated which then led to a divorce. Since I was extremely young, I cannot remember how it affected me. But once I got into grade school, I was in great knowledge that something was different. I then started to understand the affects my parents’ divorce had on me such as anger, resentment, feeling of loneliness, and prob-lems with communication. Now that I am a young adult, I still feel like I am being affected by those same problems except now I am able to control myself when I start to feel the symptoms. Divorce has had a huge impact on my life.

Whenever I hear people talking about divorce, or hear phrases such as “broken family” I want to either comfort or correct the person. I am able to set aside the sliver of pain that resides in the back of my head and realize all the wonderful things that have come out of my parent’s separation. I was pretty young when my parents started to have constant arguments but never really put the pieces together on my own. My worst childhood memories are not of scraped knees or broken bones but a broken heart. What had happened? What had I done? I can now confidently say that all the difficult times my parents’ divorce put me through have helped to bring my family together, separately. It left me with countless life lessons and the realization that things can always be worse. My parents’ divorce not only brought me severe pain but strength. It’s helped me to grow as an individual and I want to always remember that this is how things were meant to be.

There were many other losses that occurred as a result of the divorce of my parents. We had to move so I also lost my home. My mom became a single income family and we suddenly were financially insecure. My dad, who was my hero, was suddenly not a part of my everyday life. My mom became withdrawn and depressed and so in a sense I lost my mom too. All these changes and losses make this one incident in my young life the most significant. The effects of the divorce of my parents followed me well into my twenties.

Growing up in a home with both my parents, I was fortunate to be able to spend a lot of quality time with my father. We used to go out together and play soccer, baseball, and ride bikes. I remember we used to play a lot of old school video games and my mother would get pretty upset at the hours we spent playing and not doing anything productive. In my point of view, our relationship was perfect; our bond was strong like any father and son. I was only four years old when my world was turned upside down. My life changed the day that my mom and my dad separated, I felt alone. The process of a divorce was too much for a child that age to handle; it was a hard time for me. Although I had no father figure for about 12 years because my dad moved

Children at a young age can adjust to their parents’ divorce, but some children may not adjust to the divorce of their parents and may carry all the emotions and painful memories with them through adulthood. When parents get a divorce while their children are at a young age the children really don’t exactly know what is going on, and they don’t know why their mommy and daddy are not living together anymore. With teenagers the divorce of their parents is harder on them because they know what is going on and why their parents are not living together anymore. Also with teenagers they had both of their parents together during their whole childhood, but now they don’t. Teenagers will sit there and tell themselves that their lives are different now because they don’t have both of their parents together anymore. Teenagers that their parents get a divorce don’t really have a lot of time to get use to the whole situation before they move out on their own. It is harder on the teenagers trying to divide their time between both parents. Teenagers do a lot of activities and have things they need to do, so with that they really don’t have that much time to go to the other parent’s house and spend that time with the parent. If parents get a divorce while their children are out of the house and in college then the children might think that their parents only waited to get a divorce till they were out of the house and off to

With divorce came custody, and the state of Missouri saw me best fit to live with my mom. So, for the first twelve years of my life- give or take a few months- that's exactly what I did. But, I wasn't happy. Like I would imagine being the case with most children whose parents divorced at a young age, I saw the parent I wasn't living with through rose-colored glasses. In my mind, my dad could do no wrong and my mother was the enemy. This being said, as soon as I was legally able, I chose to move in with my father who lived a few hours away from my mom.