Although we’ve all experienced any degree of disappointments in our lives, there are a select few that tend to stick with us. They act as assets in our lives, tools to use help us grow. The way a person deals with disappointment speaks volume about who someone is. Personally, I am the kind of person who likes to have constants in my life; commodities that won’t change and those that I can depend on when everything else is unstable. When I was in my second year of middle school, one of my biggest constants was my band director, Ms. Palmer. The way my school district operated, all the middle school directors would also help in the mornings at the high school band class. As a result of this, once my brother and sister left our middle school, …show more content…
This shattered all confidence I had for going to high school, all hope for comfort I previously had. All of a sudden, my main constant dissolved. The only thing that I had going for me, the safety net in my life ceased to provide comfort. From this event, I feel that I learned a great deal about how I personally coped with disappointment and major changes in my life. After tears had been shed and the questions were answered, I had an opportunity to develop and to mature from this. After adequate contemplation, I realized that it wasn’t the best idea to depend on other people so deeply. In my youth, I had been raised and taught how to be independent and to care for myself, making sure that I could give myself all I needed to become successful. This loss of someone turned out to be invaluably important in my life and further reinforced my idea that the only person you should depend on is yourself. Though this sounds grim, I am able to attribute much of my success to my personal independence. I’ve learned how to set goals for myself, how to motivate myself to try and rise above negative situations and develop from them. Ms. Palmer leaving sparked my first internal revision that has thus led to a personal reflection resulting in the mindset I possess now. Several years later, I have the ability to reflect upon myself in a more timely and constructive manner. Looking at situations like these in a useful light, disappointments are a fantastic
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From the time a child is born to the day that they die, they will be told countless times to dream big. People tell them to reach for the stars and pursue the things that make them happy. Something they do not tell them is how powerful failure can be; how it can alter a person’s perspective on life and the direction they think they need to go with their future. Ever since I was a little girl my life’s goal in the FFA was to become a State FFA Officer. The concept of being able to positively impact someone’s life and promote an industry that I believe in whole-heartedly got my blood pumping. I was not prepared for failure, I only thought about success.
this is very wordy, and long, and possibly confusing. but, i really hope it makes some sense, because this concept/idea/human experience is one that i’ve been itching to share/process for a while.
For one of the few times in my life, I let myself down. At my interview for Phillips Exeter, the admissions director asked me how I would face disappointment, given that it would surely occur over the next four years. I thought I knew, but as it turns out, I overestimated my abilities to face it head on. During those first two years, disappointment hurt me. By concentrating on that period of time, you would perceive me incorrectly. But please know this: I am stronger than ever, more aware of my ability to overcome something that hit me
One of my personal experiences that I had was when my family decided to move from New Jersey to Florida. I never planned on moving with them but my mother basically forced me into moving with them. It wasn’t really all that moving stuff because the new house was actually pretty nice, it was just I had all my friends there and I was doing well in school. Nothing I said convinced my mother so after a week of packing we was off to Florida. The first week being there was a horrible week. Nothing was going right for me, I missed the school bus for a whole week, dropped my milk on my new shoes, and tripped over nothing in lunch. It was just trying to move back but parents always have this life lesson speech about trying to make new friends and try to get used to being here until we move again. It’s been about a month since we moved to Florida and I met about zero friends but I got used to living here since I’ve found something that interested me as an after school hobby and that was fishing. There’s barley any lakes or ponds in New Jersey so fishing wasn’t really something you do as a time waster. I usually fished right after I got home but on that day it was rainy and it wasn’t really a good time to fish so I just decided to practice my free shots until it started raining hard. I think I was outside for about 20minutes and suddenly a couple kids from my new school asked if they can shoot
Today, I eat lunch with friends, I find comfort in my clubs, and sometimes, I fail. When I lived in Florida, I never had to cope with failure, as everything came to me easily. What I know now is that failure is an unavoidable aspect of life, and I know I’ll encounter it wherever I end up. When I moved up the East Coast, I learned how to face failure head on and accept that there are days when I can’t be perfect. But I am now able to learn from my failures and keep them in mind when moving
Regardless of the outcome of every dilemma or crisis, it is imperative that we learn how to adapt and move on and continue to be happy. If we choose to let our problems and upsets eat us alive, we will be living very unhealthy and depressing. I’ve had one dream and one dream only while in high school, to become a drum major for the marching band. It was my first year marching, I am a sophomore, auditions for section leader were soon and I was prepared to execute all the practice that I had put into my audition, an upperclassmen and friend of mine said “You’ll be so lucky if you make it because you are young” and I replied “You are right, Imagine if I score high enough to become eligible for drum major auditions”. We both erupted in laughter because we knew that would not happen. Finally, auditions day came and I nailed it. I gave it my all. Results were posted that weekend. To everyone’s surprise I was one of very few sophomores to become a section leader and one of two to be eligible for the drum major spot. However, my auditions were weak and it slipped out of my hands, this was very difficult for me. Then came my junior year auditions and I went in extremely confident that it was going to be me. I had a flawless audition but the odds were not in my favor. I was broken, depressed that whole summer going into my senior year. My friends and coworkers at Peter Piper Pizza cheered me
In life we all have encountered successes and failures, sooner or later. Although failure is dreadful, I can only learn from it. I have failed multiple times, but I matured and learned from the experience. I, being a teenager, thought a job would make me more efficient; however it was the exact opposite.
In my past, I perceived failure as an imminent prelude to a destitute fate. Familial conditioning made this pattern nearly impossible to break. My black and white perspective of failure made dealing with life’s inequities difficult to deal with. When I experienced failure- it defined who I was as a person and crushed my esteem and what I believed I was capable of. Through my experience of committing to better my education at Chinook College, I realized that my perspective of failure hindered my ability to rebound, rebuild and learn from my mistakes. When I first enrolled at Chinook College to upgrade my high school courses, I was scared and nervous. I had given up on my academic learning when I was a child, a devastating time in my life when
I experienced failure as an assistant coach of the girl’s basketball team at Bethany Christian Middle School. Every loss we had weighed heavily on my shoulders, making me disappointed in myself, both as a coach and as a mentor to the girls on the team. I had the mindset that a coach’s job was solely to win, and I was doing the exact opposite of that. This negativity would radiate from my tone, body language, and overall demeanor. Eventually, it would spread to my players, and I could see how not enjoyable both the games and practices were becoming. It took me till about halfway through the season to look at this situation from a different perspective. It was then that I realized my true failure was not in failing to coach these girls to victory
Every single one of us here have probably been disappointed in our lifetime. However, how awful the storm of disappointment is, the most important part of disappointment is how we respond to it. We can either respond to it in a negative way or a positive way. When the going gets tough you can either bounce back from disappointment or accept the failure. The media industry often portrays disappointment as your best friend like in Soul Surfer or your worst enemy like in Million Dollar Baby.
I knew personal failure was no fun but I did not expect it to overtake my entire life. It was no longer just about who had the highest grades and who got to be the line leader, but who had stellar grades and a social life. Eleventh grade, the most stressful year of high school, was my the of emotional failure.
Most people associate failure with something negative, while I associate it with positive thoughts. If I wouldn’t have failed at the Youth World Barrel Racing Championships I would have never learned how to stay humble, positive, and how not to let failure bring you down.
Life is full of disappointments. Sometimes some are small in nature, and sometimes some are big. However, at some points, people get over it, but sometimes they don’t. Moving from our past experiences is not easy; it’s very tough. Somehow these experiences build our personality. We started to becoming so much protected. We afraid to feel new experiences, however, at some point, we need to decide, whether our wish is to control by our past, or we want to build our
When I think of my own personal past experiences, I think of the most significant events and most likely think that those are the times that have shaped you as who you are today and who you are in the future. When my grandpa had passed away there were major effects that my family and I had faced. Difficulties like not being able to sleep at night and having lost someone who meant something special to everyone. When I think about the smaller challenges I have faced in the past and throughout my life, I can start to put together that even the most insignificant events that have happened in the past could make a significant impact on the person I am in my near or far future. Occurrences like going through broken bones, losing friends, or even a gym teacher might have a greater force than I may have expected.