Naked Lunch : Toxic Food And Toxic Relationship

Dating abuse is a serious issue in the United States. Many people cannot tell if their relationship is heading in the wrong direction. There are many ways to tell but a few of them would include; physically hurting you, checking your things without permission, extreme jealousy, cutting you off from family and friends, and telling you what you must do. All of these are signs that your relationship is not healthy for you. Sometimes your significant other may even try and convince you of mutual abuse.

You can’t tell by looking at someone that they are an abuser; they can come from different races, cultures and backgrounds. An abuser could be your closest friend or relative and you would not know, one study found that 90% of abusers do not have criminal records and that abusers are generally law abiding citizens (Barbara Corry). There are signs that someone may have the potential to be an abusive partner in the early stages before their true character begins to emerge, and there are things like certain habits, behaviors and personality trends that you can look out for before becoming too involved with someone who could possibly be an abusive partner.

Is there anyway a person can identify a domestic violence abuser before entering into a relationship with someone? Unfortunately, the answer is no as it is not possible to identify a potential abuser before the abuse begins; however, when dating, there are common characteristics that might indicate that the person has the potential to become an abuser. These common characteristics include extremely jealous or possessive behavior, the need for one person to be the boss of the relationship, strict views on the roles of a man or woman in a relationship, demanding the woman to stay away from family and friends, control of the money within a relationship so that the woman cannot leave, and constant monitoring of where the person is and question

Physical Abuse: Punching, kicking, slapping, or choking are some physical control tactics of domestic violence abusers. They may abandon you in unfamiliar places, drive recklessly when you are in the vehicle, and injure your children. If you try to call the police or get medical attention, they stop you.

Domestic abusers tend to hurt their partners physically. The ones who get beat, typically do not tell anyone outside of their household about them getting beat. Sometimes they only exhibit outside bruising, but may also have internal problems also. Many domestic abuse victims end up having to go to the hospital. It is not healthy to get abused and it can cause some serious damage to a person. Being in a abuse relationship can put a person in the hospital, but sometimes even death occurs.

Behavioural signs of physical abuse would be that they could become withdrawn from their friends and family or they can react in an aggressive behaviour by getting into fights, swearing ect. They might not want to undress in front of people to avoid them seeing their bruises. Some children and young people start to self-harm or get involved with drugs a and

In this paper I will be elaborating on the warning signs and how to distinguish a future abuser based upon his childhood. Future abuser characteristics may consist of being very insecure, aggressive, and controlling. According to National Domestic Violence “Abusive partners are also skilled at coercion and manipulation. They use excuses to make you feel like what is happening is your fault”. “Abusers are incapable of maintaining all over control to their abusive personality traits Long-term”, according to examiner Stephanie Lowrence- Henckle of 10 Early Warning Signs.

Signs of emotional abuse are insulting in public, putting down your partner’s family and friends down, making your partner guilty, and playing mind games with your partner. These are just some of the emotional abuse signs. Also there is economical abuse economical abuse can be taking your partners' money, not telling your partner about important financial income, preventing your partner from getting a job, and giving your partner an “allowance”. Abusers can also use intimidation against their partners, by distributing dangerous driving, abusing pets, or displaying weapons while making threats. An then what everyone knows about abuse are the physical and sexual signs, can be kicking scratching, biting, hitting your partner, also unwanted sexual touching in public, and deprivation of sleep as well as

Domestic violence, is violent or aggressive behavior from a partner or spouse. There can be many different warning signs of domestic abuse. It can be one telling the other about not doing anything right. The abuser encouraging the victim to stay away from family or friends, showing extreme jealousy, insulting, demeaning, or shaming are also signs of domestic violence. Some victims aren’t aware that they are being targeted.

Some symptoms that a child who is being abused might be: changes in behavior and displaying fear, anxiety, withdrawal, depression or aggression. There might be times where the child doesn’t want to leave with certain people and even show or display sexual type behavior or language. Sometimes even issues with their weight, absences, and even have injuries such as burns, bruises and broken bones.

The manifestations of abusive behavior could be intended to manipulate and intimidate or humiliate and even isolate an individual. Frightening and terrorizing a partner as well as causing injuries are some of the ways one can identify these acts. They take the form of physical or sexual abuse and can move on to include emotional and psychological as well as economic abuses.

Recognizing you are in an abusive relationship is sometimes tricky. If your partner makes you afraid, hurt or feel put down, those are signs of abuse. While being in an abusive relationship can be very difficult, there are many ways to cope with it. Other than national call centers willing to help 24/7, there are therapists and friends always ready to listen and help. At the end of the day, your health is what should come first, and if either your mental, physically, or emotionally health is being diminished, changes should be

Missing personal possessions. Unexplained withdrawal of large sums of money. Unexplained inability to pay for bills etc.

     There are various forms of emotional abuse but they all contribute to the victim as feeling helpless and inability. One form of emotional abuse is verbal dominance. Meaning the victims opinions, feelings and thoughts carry no weight and are pretty much meaningless. A second form of emotional abuse is isolation, this occurs when the abuser limits the victims access to money, use of the car and other normal activities. The abuser also talks negatively about friends and family making it uncomfortable to maintain outside relationships. A third form of emotional abuse is guilt, this occurs when the abuser blames the spouse for his/her assaultive behavior with rationale, after a period of time the spouse blames self for the battering. A fourth form is fear; the abuser threatens harm to spouse, family or friends in order to stay in control of a situation. Finally a fifth form of spousal abuse is humiliation, this is when the abuser may put down the spouse in front of children, family and friends. (Wallace)

Specific Purpose: To inform my audience of the signs of an abusive relationship, whether it is physical or emotional.