Self is unique. People has their own way expressing themselves. He or she may find themselves lost, destroyed, not worth it; or may be find themselves as succeeding in life. Some may compare themselves to other people, trying to fit in other’s shoes – figuring out how “perfect” their life is. Others may try to put people down, convinced they are better. The truth is, nobody is “perfect”. Everyone is unique in their own way. Trying to compare to someone’s life, is not going to help anyone dealing with this unselfconfident. Newton’s argument was made effectively, for people that are feeling rejected, destroyed, insecure, and have this sort of anxiety. Newton compared her life struggles in the past, when she was trying to find herself; to others
(Internal summary/Transition: Now that I’ve provided a few examples of Isaac Newton’s many inventions and discoveries, I will now talk about Isaac Newton’s many personal, social, and mental hardships.)
I am Allison Zelinskas, daughter, granddaughter, cousin, Ohioan, friend, only child, athlete and more. I am unique because there is no one else like me. All the labels above make who I am as an individual. Self-concept is “The relatively stable set of perceptions each individual hold of herself or himself” (Ronald Adler, 2015). For the purpose of this paper, I put myself into four categories, culture, gender, reflected appraisal, and social comparison. The four categories combined will give you a picture of who I am as an original. I picked these four categories because I felt I could share this information about myself. These categorizes have built my self-confidence and self-esteem.
In Joyce Meyer’s sermon how to be yourself she spoke about how to succeed at being yourself. She starts her speech with explaining that people need to learn to accept themselves in order to accept others. As an example, she shared her own personal story about how she had a hard time getting along with other people. She explained that is was the Word of God that revealed the true reason why she had difficulty getting along with others was because she did not like herself. Matthew 7:18 explains “a good tree will bear good fruit, and a rotten tree will bear rotten fruit. Likewise, the "fruit" of our lives comes from the "root within us.” We often go through negative emotions such as shame, guilt, inferiority, and rejection, lack of love and acceptance which influences how
Carol Rogers. (2011). Self Concept. Available: http://www.simplypsychology.org/carl-rogers.html. Last accessed 06/11/2014 According to Rogers (1959), we want to sense, experience and behave in ways which are dependable with our self-image and which replicate what we would like to be like known as our ideal-self. The closer our self-image and ideal-self are to each other, the more steady or congruent we are the advanced our sense of self-worth is.
As people can only view the universe from their current perspective, the lack of understanding about positions or people other than themselves in their current moment is understandable, although still a negative. Although rare, pride can have useful effects such as balancing out one’s self-esteem and gaining contentedness in one’s own work, but it can also be a detriment with its overvalue on personal achievements and the arrogance that that can cause. The reason that people are jealous of all above them and feel superior to all below them is because at the current moment in their life, they cannot truly feel what another person feels. With this distortion of the beliefs and positions of others, People, insecure in their own position in life and selfishly desiring to be above others, naturally disapprove of all others, especially if the people have not been in the others’ situation. Although it supports the concept of solipsism, the belief that the rest of the universe is a figment of one’s mind and there is only one conscious being in the entire universe, the concept of self-centeredness is more realistic for humans as, although some people think that they can truly empathize, they cannot feel another’s emotions accurately and
In our reality there is no perfect person, except for those that we worship, and this causes us to constantly be comparing ourselves to one another. “Everyone believes he is above average. Being "like everyone else" is nowadays considered to be for suckers” (Quora, 2013). This quote is very true because the newer generations are growing up with the concept that they can be better than everyone around them. The World State has generally erased the notion of insecurities because with the soma (a drug used to create a euphoria for the user) nobody can remain upset. When everyone is comfortable with themselves, they stay happy and that keeps away negative emotions. This in turn,keeps away angry thoughts that might lead to rebellion or the questioning of the world order. “How kind, how good-looking, how delightfully amusing everyone was!” (Huxley, 1938/1932, p.77 para 1). This quote describes the mindset of a person who has taken a dose of soma; it prevents people from seeing everyone else’s flaws and becoming
We all need to see our version of our reality reflected back to us by others. It takes an exceptional person to retain their understanding of their identity when others question it, deny it or even set out to destroy it. Many of us cannot withstand such an assault on our sense of self, submitting to the strong, dominating personalities who want to shape the world in their own image. However, it is not only others who have the capacity to bring our fragile sense of reality undone; maintaining one’s self belief also requires withstanding the doubts of self.
The author Kevin Solomons said, “You chose to process the ways you currently deal with the negative situations in your life. You also can choose to change those methods and unlearn the harmful techniques that have caused your self-esteem to plummet, thus preventing you from enjoying the things in life that you crave. You possess a natural power to heal yourself” (Solomons). The main approaches taken in the article was to show how any oppressions that a person could go through can hinder the self-esteem. The explanation
Designed into 13 separate villages, Newton was named the best place to live in 2014 by USA Today. Each of the villages offers its own economic center and character. This vibrant area is home to numerous public transportation options and major roadways. Currently, the area has a homeownership rate of 67.82 percent. This is the highest level in Massachusetts. Meanwhile, the entire city of Boston only has a homeownership rate of 33.6 percent.
In today’s society it is somewhat difficult to truly be yourself. With today’s technology and social media it is very easy to be influenced by others, therefore eliminating individuality. Even though some people are able to figure out who they really are, it is often difficult to be proud of the person you are which, as a result, often leads people to ditch their own personality and fall into the crowd. Mark Twain states that, “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” This proves the belief that in order to truly be yourself you must first accept who you are.
People tend to think they really know themselves, but in reality they are so much in their comfort zone that they do not really know who they actually are. If an individual is comfortable all the time, then there is no way one can possibly really understand themselves because they have not been put
Why would one wish to be comparing themselves to others? First thought that comes to mind when answering this question is that it is human nature to. Throughout the world humanity has encouraged the comparison of others. Rather it’s at home, school, work, or among your peers, comparison exists. Even though comparison can have good intentions, its practice can be unhealthy and harmful. I profess that one shouldn’t compare themselves to others.
While comparing to a lower level, or comparing yourself to the less fortunate, can in fact be a benefit to one’s self esteem, it also comes at a very dangerous price. It requires that we take pleasure in someone else’s misfortunes or failures in order to feel good about ourselves, which can lead to mean spirited competitiveness, and jealousy. “When comparing leads you to devalue yourself or others you have entered a dangerous territory” (Huffington Post). Most of the time what you are comparing yourself to is inaccurate information. A lot of people tend to hide the entire negative in their life and just show the positive, is it really fair to compare yourself when you do not have all of the information? Comparing yourself does not actually help you accomplish your goals. When you spend all of your time focused on how someone else is better looking, is more successful, or has more friends it is both ineffective and time consuming. Comparing yourself to other people is a losing battle. If comparing is how you evaluate your self worth, you will always be losing. You will never reach a point where you are better than others in every way that you would want to be. That is part of what makes life so interesting, learning from the talents and qualities of others. Instead of comparing yourself and trying to be better than or as good as others, focus that energy on bettering yourself and being the very best that you can
In fact, this theory proposes that, “to live is to feel inferior” (Mosak 1995). However, when the individual begins to act inferior rather than feel inferior, the individual is engaging in “discouragement” or the inferiority complex (Mosak 1995). “To oversimplify, the inferiority feeling is universal and ‘normal’; the inferiority complex reflects the discouragement of a limited segment of our society and is usually ‘abnormal’” (Mosak 1995). This theory views the healthy and “ideal” individual as one who engages in life experiences with confidence and optimism. “There is a sense of belonging and contributing, the ‘courage to be imperfect,’ and the serene knowledge that one can be acceptable to others, although imperfect” (Mosak 1995).
If one has poor self-concept and sees oneself as unworthy then they will present themselves this way, which will result in a negative response from people. If one feels good about oneself, they will present themselves as worthy, which will result in a more positive response from people. The perceptions, beliefs and attitudes that steam from self-concept, will affect one's social surroundings. One will either come out of a situation with a positive or negative concept of these surroundings. Poor communication can cause one to have a poor perception of oneself. One's emotional state, dislikes, likes values and body image are affected by the opinions of others and can render one to have an inferior and insecure self-concept.