No Shame In Vulnerability A ‘life lesson’ commonly repeated is, “Don’t let your emotions control your decisions.”, but without listening to my emotions, feelings, attitude, and thought process, how can I go through my life? Growing up, mainly in my years as a young child, I remember being told to hold back the tears when I was crying, to get up when I was down, and to focus on what made me smile rather than acknowledge what made me hurt. Yes, there is a difference in the reasons to be crying and it’s important to make it clear; there’s crying because you did not get what you wanted and decide to conclude your anger by throwing a fit, but then there is the throat burning, nose clogging, jaw tightening crying that surfaces when …show more content…
Expressing your emotions can be easily related to voicing an opinion, which has continuously been ridiculed lately. It can be hard to show emotion when it’s been repeatedly laughed at. Like Amy Tan’s mom, most ignore the sight of emotions because they don’t want to their own to be revealed and some that claim to have an open mind and are curious suddenly shut down and become defensive as if upset by what they chose to hear. So why continue to express yourself and not be heard? Shame surrounds what you found to be the most beautiful part of yourself and you close off, only allowing the re-revised version of you to be met while the raw, scribbled, full version is only be known by you. In the movie Inside Out, a core component to Riley’s self, Joy, overshadows other emotions unknowingly. An unfamiliar stressor interrupts Riley’s life that Joy doesn 't understand and, naturally, does everything in her power to make sure Riley avoids anything that could cause her any sadness, displeasure, or suffering. It’s understandable to not want a loved one in any way aching, such as the character Sadness, who is the epitome of the major blues. Sadness becomes a major emotion Riley begins to experience for the first time back to back and is taken on an emotional roller coaster of confusion and stress. A crucial turning point in the movie is when Sadness witnesses Bing Bong silently cry and then empathetically decides to tell
My emotions prevented be from making a good choice when i was younger. I tried to do things on my own. I was determined not to lean on anyone and to not be a burden i ended up getting hurt. I was hungry and instead of waking my mom up i tried cooking by myself. I ended up burning myself and crying.
Lewis (2013) explains the ability to control your emotions does not begin until a child nears the age of six (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). The need to maintain control of feelings and emotions remains important throughout adulthood. It would not be normal for a 38-year-old lawyer to throw a temper tantrum in the courtroom because they did not win a case. Not everyone is great at controlling their emotions, but there is always room for improvement (Berger, 2014). A child is not born with this control, nor can one learn it on their own. Morris et al. (2007) discussed the importance of parents, teachers and other adults that may be in a child?s life to instruct and inform children of appropriate ways to manage their feelings for them to learn or develop over time (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). It is the same aspect as manners. A child does not come out of the womb saying ?please? and ?thank you,? but must be taught to use such mannerisms. Eric Erikson explained that children believe they can achieve any goal just as long as they keep trying because their view of their abilities is not yet within reason (Berger, 2014). A child may see a fish breath underwater and believe they too can breathe while swimming
This presented Docter, who had the task of creating a character whose emotions needed to be effectively communicated, with a far more demanding task my task of defining the personalities of movie characters in hopes of understanding what emotions exist in humans and how they are manifested. While I originally thought that breaking down the characters in The Breakfast Club would give me insight into the process that went into choosing the emotions in the movie Inside Out, it has mainly made me realize that, while the five emotions that governed Rylie’s head worked together to ultimately communicate that it is important to experience the full spectrum of emotions in order to thrive, I came to the realization that it is highly likely that every person that viewed the movie most likely interpreted each of those five emotions. I would think it plausible that a spectrum of the viewers viewed the character Sadness as more an embodiment of longing, while others might have interpreted Sadness as regret or
Growing up, I cried too much. Although I was aware that I cried more than my friends, I never viewed it as a negative until I was told that it was. I wasn’t a “cry baby”; I didn’t cry to get attention, throw tantrums or because I felt sorry for myself. Rather, I cried because I felt happy, sad, frustrated or excited. I wore my emotions on my sleeve and tears were the constant conduit to my feelings.
Pixar’s Inside Out is an interesting take on how our emotions work as well as how our brains operate. The story starts off with a narration by Joy, voiced by Amy Poehler, explaining how her job works, and how she and the other emotions came to be inside the mind of young Riley Anderson. The emotions watch and guide Riley by influencing how she reacts to different daily situations. The only thing the emotions are not prepared for however, is an unexpected move from Minnesota to San Francisco (Inside Out). This hilarious take at how our brains work allows Inside Out to create an entertaining and engaging movie using character interaction and its deeper emotional and psychological meanings.
According to Adler and Proctor (2011), it talks about responding to transgressions and some examples to that would be coming to an acceptance, rejection and discussion. In the movie “Inside out” we discover how all the emotions try to steer the way to control the little girl “Riley” mind but one specific character by the name of “Joy” is basically the one in charge of them all and tries to take on more of the responsibility in situations. Throughout the movie something happens to Riley and her emotions
The film Inside Out tells the story of a young girl named Riley and her changing emotions after she is forced to move from her home town in Minnesota to San Fransico for her father’s job. The story is told from the perspective of her five emotions. Riley’s emotions are led by Joy, who attempts to guide her through the stressful event. Although Joy puts forth great effort, Sadness takes over. When trying to protect Riley’s core memories from Sadness, Joy is swept from headquarters through the dump tube and Sadness follows. With Joy and Sadness gone, Anger, Fear, and Disgust are the only emotions left in headquarters; therefore, Riley cannot be happy or sad. Because Joy and Sadness are absent, Riley’s personality islands diminish one by one. Riley fights with her family, pushes away from her friends back home, and loses interest in hockey. As Joy and Sadness navigate through Riley’s brain in search of a way back to headquarters, they encounter many obsticles. Back in headquarters, Anger, Fear, and Disgust place the idea of running away into Riley’s head. Joy witnesses the transformation of a sad memory into a happy memory, and finally realizes the importance of all emotions, including Sadness. With the help of Bing Bong, Riley’s imaginary friend, Joy and Sadness find their way back to headquarters and are able to stop Riley from running away. An update in headquarters takes place, and more personality islands develop. Joy learns to accept the
Inside Out is a movie based on the emotions of the life progression of Riley. The movie starts off when Riley was born. In a dark room Joy ascends to a button, which is the control center in Riley’s mind, and touches it which makes Riley give a little baby giggle. As a result of Riley’s giggle, a glowing little ball is produced, a memory, and because the memory was created by Joy, the memory ball is yellow. Then after 33 seconds, Sadness comes and touches the button to make Riley cry. As Riley grows into a toddler Fear comes into Headquarters. He helps Riley in her interaction with her surroundings as she plays, and keeps her safe from electrical outlets and cords. Then when Riley is introduced to a plate of broccoli we first encounter Disgust
One life lesson Morrie teaches is to show emotions. Diving into every emotion is an important experience because if the emotion has already been experienced it’s easy to recognize the emotion being felt. So that way whenever people want to detach from the emotion its easier. “But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in all the way over your head even you experience them fully and completely”. ( Albom 104) I agree with Morrie, that showing emotion is important because we humans tend to hide our emotions because it makes us feel weak. But by showing our emotions, it makes us stronger people. I tend not to show my emotions when i'm feeling sad or mad I bottle it up and push it away. When i'm in an argument with my sister, I get mad and walk away from it and push the anger aside. What I should do
During my time at the soup kitchen, I had to utilize emotion management when dealing with people and situations in which it would have been inappropriate for me to react in the way that I would otherwise have wanted to. Emotion management is the act of obeying “feeling rules” and responding appropriately to situations (Brym and Lie 2012:77). For example, when a homeless man came into the soup kitchen and started to dance and shout instead of calmly sitting down and eating his meal, I courteously asked him to sit down and to try not to disturb the other guests of the establishment. Regardless of any initial emotions of fear, annoyance, or confusion, I had to respond appropriately to the situation by controlling my emotions and engaging in acceptable behavior. I especially had to utilize emotion labor, which is distinguished
Had I watched this Inside Out at different points over the semester, I would have been able to find different flaws each time. This movie is supposed to be about Riley, but it turns out to be centered around the journey that Joy and Sadness must take in order to return to headquarters, more specifically, it validates sadness as an emotion. Sadness spent her first eleven years with Riley being told to stay back and not to screw anything up, in reality, sadness is often frowned upon, because for some people, they are the opposite of Riley’s character. This movie shows that the happiest of children can go through life changing struggles and embrace their other emotions. You cannot appreciate being happy unless you have known being sad, this movie brings attention to the necessity of a balance in life.
Emotions give meaning to life and it connects a person to others. They form the basis to understand, relate to others and converse with others. When a person is aware of his or her emotions, they are in control of their emotions and can think clearly and creatively; manage stress and challenges; communicate well with others; and display trust, empathy, and confidence. But if a person loses control of their emotions, and it’ll spin them into confusion, isolation, and negativity. (“Developing Emotional Awareness”, n.d.)
My constant crying became more apparent in my later years in elementary school. Whenever we would leave my grandparents’ house, I would think about how great of a time it was there, how we got to eat whatever we wanted, could do whatever we wanted, and were praised for that. I cried the majority of the time, leaving my mother always comforted me, letting me rest my head on her shoulders. I had just turned ten, and I was in 5th grade when we were once again leaving my grandparents’ house after Thanksgiving break, once again my mother scolded me after I cried again. She said that I had to man up and that if I didn’t we wouldn’t come back on these trips. That really had an impact on me, and the next time we left, I held back my tears. I didn’t cry, but I was sad. The way I could do this way by balling my hands up into fists, while at the same time thinking repeatedly about how it would be alright. This ended up working for me under most occasions, however this eventually led me to not process emotions as well as I should’ve been able to. So in certain instances I had
Crying is undoubtedly one of the most common humanistic features when it comes to the emotions of the average person, due to the fact that every human being has shed tears for which ever reasons their emotions led them to. However, crying can also be the result of many other issues and can indicate a serious problem if done continuously and drastically to the point where it becomes a serious concern. In adolescents, it is more normal to cry as the child may not understand or know what to do about a situation, leaving them flustered, agitated, sad, angry, or any negative emotion causing them to cry. With these things being said, when crying is understood to be the result of an underlying deep rooted issue, the next step is to understand the enforcer that is keeping the behavior of crying continuous and figure out exactly how to decrease it to the point of normality.
Everyday I struggle with emotions and reacting before I think about how I actually feel. Many times in my life I will say something in a moment of anger, and I won’t really mean what I said. Len came to class one day to talk to us, and one thing really stood out to me that I have applied to my life since. He talked about how your feelings can influence the majority of your decisions. He then said, “Think about how you are feeling. Why are you feeling that way? You need to think before you react to a situation.”. At first I thought that it would be a good thing to apply to help improve my life, but now that I’m looking back and reflecting on what Len said, this will apply to my teaching career. Teachers will