No Shame In Vulnerability A ‘life lesson’ commonly repeated is, “Don’t let your emotions control your decisions.”, but without listening to my emotions, feelings, attitude, and thought process, how can I go through my life? Growing up, mainly in my years as a young child, I remember being told to hold back the tears when I was crying, to get up when I was down, and to focus on what made me smile rather than acknowledge what made me hurt. Yes, there is a difference in the reasons to be crying and it’s important to make it clear; there’s crying because you did not get what you wanted and decide to conclude your anger by throwing a fit, but then there is the throat burning, nose clogging, jaw tightening crying that surfaces when …show more content…
Expressing your emotions can be easily related to voicing an opinion, which has continuously been ridiculed lately. It can be hard to show emotion when it’s been repeatedly laughed at. Like Amy Tan’s mom, most ignore the sight of emotions because they don’t want to their own to be revealed and some that claim to have an open mind and are curious suddenly shut down and become defensive as if upset by what they chose to hear. So why continue to express yourself and not be heard? Shame surrounds what you found to be the most beautiful part of yourself and you close off, only allowing the re-revised version of you to be met while the raw, scribbled, full version is only be known by you. In the movie Inside Out, a core component to Riley’s self, Joy, overshadows other emotions unknowingly. An unfamiliar stressor interrupts Riley’s life that Joy doesn 't understand and, naturally, does everything in her power to make sure Riley avoids anything that could cause her any sadness, displeasure, or suffering. It’s understandable to not want a loved one in any way aching, such as the character Sadness, who is the epitome of the major blues. Sadness becomes a major emotion Riley begins to experience for the first time back to back and is taken on an emotional roller coaster of confusion and stress. A crucial turning point in the movie is when Sadness witnesses Bing Bong silently cry and then empathetically decides to tell
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The film Inside Out tells the story of a young girl named Riley and her changing emotions after she is forced to move from her home town in Minnesota to San Fransico for her father’s job. The story is told from the perspective of her five emotions. Riley’s emotions are led by Joy, who attempts to guide her through the stressful event. Although Joy puts forth great effort, Sadness takes over. When trying to protect Riley’s core memories from Sadness, Joy is swept from headquarters through the dump tube and Sadness follows. With Joy and Sadness gone, Anger, Fear, and Disgust are the only emotions left in headquarters; therefore, Riley cannot be happy or sad. Because Joy and Sadness are absent, Riley’s personality islands diminish one by one. Riley fights with her family, pushes away from her friends back home, and loses interest in hockey. As Joy and Sadness navigate through Riley’s brain in search of a way back to headquarters, they encounter many obsticles. Back in headquarters, Anger, Fear, and Disgust place the idea of running away into Riley’s head. Joy witnesses the transformation of a sad memory into a happy memory, and finally realizes the importance of all emotions, including Sadness. With the help of Bing Bong, Riley’s imaginary friend, Joy and Sadness find their way back to headquarters and are able to stop Riley from running away. An update in headquarters takes place, and more personality islands develop. Joy learns to accept the
According to Adler and Proctor (2011), it talks about responding to transgressions and some examples to that would be coming to an acceptance, rejection and discussion. In the movie “Inside out” we discover how all the emotions try to steer the way to control the little girl “Riley” mind but one specific character by the name of “Joy” is basically the one in charge of them all and tries to take on more of the responsibility in situations. Throughout the movie something happens to Riley and her emotions
Lewis (2013) explains the ability to control your emotions does not begin until a child nears the age of six (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). The need to maintain control of feelings and emotions remains important throughout adulthood. It would not be normal for a 38-year-old lawyer to throw a temper tantrum in the courtroom because they did not win a case. Not everyone is great at controlling their emotions, but there is always room for improvement (Berger, 2014). A child is not born with this control, nor can one learn it on their own. Morris et al. (2007) discussed the importance of parents, teachers and other adults that may be in a child?s life to instruct and inform children of appropriate ways to manage their feelings for them to learn or develop over time (as cited in Berger, 2014, p. 276). It is the same aspect as manners. A child does not come out of the womb saying ?please? and ?thank you,? but must be taught to use such mannerisms. Eric Erikson explained that children believe they can achieve any goal just as long as they keep trying because their view of their abilities is not yet within reason (Berger, 2014). A child may see a fish breath underwater and believe they too can breathe while swimming
My emotions prevented be from making a good choice when i was younger. I tried to do things on my own. I was determined not to lean on anyone and to not be a burden i ended up getting hurt. I was hungry and instead of waking my mom up i tried cooking by myself. I ended up burning myself and crying.
Our parents raise us hoping for us to develop certain character traits, but there comes to a point when we start to become our own person based on the experiences we go through, any situation, good or bad, can influence our personality mentally and emotionally. Emotion is what makes us human, it's how we cope and how we manage our crazy lives’. When our feelings get damaged or even nourished, it will change how we react
One life lesson Morrie teaches is to show emotions. Diving into every emotion is an important experience because if the emotion has already been experienced it’s easy to recognize the emotion being felt. So that way whenever people want to detach from the emotion its easier. “But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in all the way over your head even you experience them fully and completely”. ( Albom 104) I agree with Morrie, that showing emotion is important because we humans tend to hide our emotions because it makes us feel weak. But by showing our emotions, it makes us stronger people. I tend not to show my emotions when i'm feeling sad or mad I bottle it up and push it away. When i'm in an argument with my sister, I get mad and walk away from it and push the anger aside. What I should do
Pixar’s Inside Out is an interesting take on how our emotions work as well as how our brains operate. The story starts off with a narration by Joy, voiced by Amy Poehler, explaining how her job works, and how she and the other emotions came to be inside the mind of young Riley Anderson. The emotions watch and guide Riley by influencing how she reacts to different daily situations. The only thing the emotions are not prepared for however, is an unexpected move from Minnesota to San Francisco (Inside Out). This hilarious take at how our brains work allows Inside Out to create an entertaining and engaging movie using character interaction and its deeper emotional and psychological meanings.
During my time at the soup kitchen, I had to utilize emotion management when dealing with people and situations in which it would have been inappropriate for me to react in the way that I would otherwise have wanted to. Emotion management is the act of obeying “feeling rules” and responding appropriately to situations (Brym and Lie 2012:77). For example, when a homeless man came into the soup kitchen and started to dance and shout instead of calmly sitting down and eating his meal, I courteously asked him to sit down and to try not to disturb the other guests of the establishment. Regardless of any initial emotions of fear, annoyance, or confusion, I had to respond appropriately to the situation by controlling my emotions and engaging in acceptable behavior. I especially had to utilize emotion labor, which is distinguished
Crying is undoubtedly one of the most common humanistic features when it comes to the emotions of the average person, due to the fact that every human being has shed tears for which ever reasons their emotions led them to. However, crying can also be the result of many other issues and can indicate a serious problem if done continuously and drastically to the point where it becomes a serious concern. In adolescents, it is more normal to cry as the child may not understand or know what to do about a situation, leaving them flustered, agitated, sad, angry, or any negative emotion causing them to cry. With these things being said, when crying is understood to be the result of an underlying deep rooted issue, the next step is to understand the enforcer that is keeping the behavior of crying continuous and figure out exactly how to decrease it to the point of normality.
Emotions give meaning to life and it connects a person to others. They form the basis to understand, relate to others and converse with others. When a person is aware of his or her emotions, they are in control of their emotions and can think clearly and creatively; manage stress and challenges; communicate well with others; and display trust, empathy, and confidence. But if a person loses control of their emotions, and it’ll spin them into confusion, isolation, and negativity. (“Developing Emotional Awareness”, n.d.)
My constant crying became more apparent in my later years in elementary school. Whenever we would leave my grandparents’ house, I would think about how great of a time it was there, how we got to eat whatever we wanted, could do whatever we wanted, and were praised for that. I cried the majority of the time, leaving my mother always comforted me, letting me rest my head on her shoulders. I had just turned ten, and I was in 5th grade when we were once again leaving my grandparents’ house after Thanksgiving break, once again my mother scolded me after I cried again. She said that I had to man up and that if I didn’t we wouldn’t come back on these trips. That really had an impact on me, and the next time we left, I held back my tears. I didn’t cry, but I was sad. The way I could do this way by balling my hands up into fists, while at the same time thinking repeatedly about how it would be alright. This ended up working for me under most occasions, however this eventually led me to not process emotions as well as I should’ve been able to. So in certain instances I had
Some strategies for managing our emotions are simply just “being aware of one’s emotions as they happen” (Salcedo, R., & Kaufman, J.C 2013). We have to be aware and take into account our emotions as we interact with different people. How we approach the people in our lives is different depending on their relationship to us. For example, how we express our anger and happiness towards our significant other is vastly different than how we show those emotions to our co-workers or even friends. In the example of significant other versus peers, it is best if we have our “emotions in check” (Lecture 2017) and are fully aware of how we feel at the time.
I am learning how to verbally communicate effectively in a healthier manner. Gradually I am understanding how to truly talk to others without feeling it will change the world as I know. Settling for a life of less and bottling everything up inside will eventually escalate to an emotional breakdown. As I continue to go through different life experiences, I need to find healthier alternatives that will help my perpetual emotional suppression. Coping researchers have begun to investigate the utility of positive emotions in stressful contexts. Additionally, mindfulness emphasize the importance of staying aware of my experience. I should be engaged in the activity however, there should be some distance between myself and the experience because I will end consumed by in the situation. I should allow myself to accept the issue and look at the issue in a nonjudgmental way. When I am experiencing stressful situation, I want to be able to gain the resilience to learn from life’s setbacks and use this knowledge to cope more effectively (Salovey, Bedell, Detweiler, & Mayer, 1999). Positivism produces beneficial outcomes, therefore, the practice of managing my emotions, I will gain better
Our emotions are like silent shadow that follow us throughout our lives, revealing our every feeling of displeasure or happiness whether we realize it or not. At times in our lives, we let our emotions get the better of us which can result in impaired judgement, thus leading us to make poor decisions. Our emotions can also help to enhance experiences. However when we experience emotion, many of us wish we could turn off our emotions and ignore them, but in truth we need our emotions to function. Our emotions can help us effectively communicate socially with others, but this effective communication can rapidly disintegrate, causing us to lose control of the situation at hand. If we can enhance our ability to read and understand emotions to a greater degree, we can possibly improve our social communication skills. On a similar note, if one can learn to tame their emotions or at least suppress them in an effective and healthy way, one could potentially unlock one of the keys that allows us to deal with even the toughest situations, such as making a life altering decision clearly and appropriately in the heat of the moment.
Everyday I struggle with emotions and reacting before I think about how I actually feel. Many times in my life I will say something in a moment of anger, and I won’t really mean what I said. Len came to class one day to talk to us, and one thing really stood out to me that I have applied to my life since. He talked about how your feelings can influence the majority of your decisions. He then said, “Think about how you are feeling. Why are you feeling that way? You need to think before you react to a situation.”. At first I thought that it would be a good thing to apply to help improve my life, but now that I’m looking back and reflecting on what Len said, this will apply to my teaching career. Teachers will