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"Do you want children", they say. "No", I half mumble. "Do you want to get married?". "No!", I yelp in arm flailing exasperation. "Oh you will definitely have children after the lovemaking when you find someone," said a coworker at my previous job. "You need a man!", said an older black woman in a commanding tone. As I am trying to form my identity as a college student, these are the phrases that I hear. To them I respond: Am I a danger to society, and the world, in general, If I don't have a 'man?Am I a threat to the world order? Maybe, I'm just a minority in this view, but I do not feel incomplete because I don't have a "significant other". I am more concerned with producing lucid and poetic writing than I am with getting "coupled off." Therefore, the wedding ring and the wedding dress that society says I …show more content…

I wonder if I am a standoffish and close-minded individual who doesn't want to be in a vulnerable position.Maybe the vulnerability part is true. It's funny because while my mind ricocheted with these doubts, I subconsciously believed that I would fly solo forever out of choice. I just pictured that I would lead a colorful and unconventional life filled with adventures in rain forests, deserts and zip lining. I then imagined how watered down my adventures would become If I had a significant other by my side. I usually conclude with the self-deprecating thought, "maybe I'm just too selfish." Excuse me, but I don't understand why people are guilt tripped for not having a significant other. I've gotten genuine surprise from adults and peers alike when I say I don't have a boyfriend. Maybe they are shocked by my resolute spirit that will not be crushed by their belittling reactions. I feel the tang of a backhanded insult when people try to make me feel better when they nonchalantly say, "you'll find someone," in an optimistic

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