When you see someone being bullied, should you be a bystander or an upstander?
Bullies, they affect children's daily lives. A child may not have the self confidence required to stand up for themselves or somebody else. Every day children are bullied and many other children are given the chance to stop it, but they crumble under peer pressure and either ignore it or join in with their peers. Bullying often happens to students in school more than anything else.
I have been a bystander many times and haven't stuck up for what what’s right. 5th grade science class, we were quietly doing our work, then everyone began to rise in volume. A rather large gentlemen decided to crack some rather bad jokes stating “Your Mom is…”. Although this kid was extremely annoying, I do not think he deserved the humiliation he received. His jokes were harmless yet people were begging to make rude jokes and throw them at him. Making fun of his weight and stating he was even a mistake. I sat and watched as he was being bullied before my very eyes not thinking much of it, and thinking at the time he kind of deserved it. But now I think back to what happened, what should I have done, what could I have done to change this one moment.
It would have been hard to do, but as I think back, I realize that the people bullying the other kid would have listened to me if I had spoken up. They were my friends. Though they were being a bit rude to the other kid, they were still my friends, and they would have
It is often during our teen years that we find ourselves turning to our friends to help make decisions and the conflict of integrity starts. We either stand up for our beliefs or start going along with the crowd no matter the consequences. As a teen, I remember hanging out in a group of people that would occasionally bully other kids. It started during my freshman year of high school. It wasn’t the whole group, but there were a few kids that made life for others horrible.
I decided action was imperative. I could not, I would not let a middle-schooler be tormented by people years older than him. However, I felt awful about chastising the people I considered friends. I knew if I confronted them, they would not cease their relentless ridicule. They had no ill intent, they simply did not consider that their blasé comments were crushing him. This experience could haunt him forever. Fearing the worst, I overcame the anxiety of betraying my friends, and exposed to our director the extent of the bullying. I was sure I would be recognized as the whistleblower, but I was willing to face the music. Sometimes being a true leader is knowing when to break from the pack and enlist the help from a higher authority. I refrained from revealing names. I could not forgive myself if someone was removed from the show. I only wanted the bullying to stop. The theater has been my home since freshman year. I want it to be a home for anyone else who needs
Most kids say that they don’t see bullying around school. In just Minnesota alone there is talk about bullying and how to prevent it. Sen. Franken states, “Nine out of 10 LGBT kids are harassed or bullied in school. One-third report having skipped school in the last month because they felt unsafe” (Shah 14). Kids should not feel unsafe to go to school. School is supposed to be a safe place to go and if someone needs help there are supposed to be people there to guide them. Franken adds, “But the sad fact is that our federal laws are failing” (Shah 14). Laws have been made to try to stop bullying, but bullying continues to exist. This shows how out of control bullying is becoming.
Monos informs us readers about school bullying. “Six Illinois Middle School student gathered to watch a child being beaten to the ground.” Why just stand there and do nothing that is the question when you could be helping someone that really need your help. If you were the one being bullied you would want someone to help you. I feel the kids that are just standing there watching are scared to do something about it because they think they will end up being bullied the rest of there school life. Maybe does that just watch are being threatened not to speak and they are just scared. Me as a parent will show my kids that if someone need their help to help them. I will teach my kid to respect so the could get respect not to be scared or to speak up or to help other. “The crowd that gathered to watch the crime did nothing to stop or slow violence. In fact, they cheered for more.” It is sad to know that now a day people prefer watching people get beat up and no one does anything about it. I could garanteded you the only way they will do something about it or take action is if it was a family
When they witness someone being bullied, a bystander’s first instincts are to remain silent and try to slip away from the bully as he/she throws another student against a locker or calls them names and teases them for being “different.” Although the child may empathize with the person being targeted, they retaliate to avoid embarrassment if they speak up, or they may feel as though they do not have the power or social status to challenge and to change what they are witnessing. Other assumptions why kids don’t get involved is because they may not want to become the next target, they have been told to “mind their own business” in the past or fear the reputation of
Children and teens from ages 10 to 14 are killing themselves at an alarming rate for youths states WBTV news. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for adolescents between the ages of 15-19, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. Two mothers April Quick and Debbie Smith, both lost children to suicide due to bullying in 2015. The two girls, Debbie and Emily were both suffering from bullying and nobody would lend a hand to help. April’s daughter, Ashley was turned down from a six month program because of the severity of her cutting, Ashley would cut to escape and relief all her pain. Although the government made no federal laws about bullying, it is possible for the U.S department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights and Justice’s Civil Rights to help solve the problem of not only bullying, but harassment when it’s based on race, religion, color, sex, age, disability, or national origin. People tend to bully others due to insecurities, one may feel better seeing someone else down. It may also rely on family issues, or jealousy. Bullies should be legally responsible for what they do because it causes depression, disorders, and suicide.
When I was in middle school we had a new student in my class, his name was Mahmoud, he came from Syria and made fast friends with me and the other kids, due to his talent in soccer. All of us except a kid named Tyree, He didn't like mahmoud and decided to bully him but mahmoud stood up for himself, and we backed him up. Eventually tyree quit picking on mahmoud. Mahmoud later mahmoud tells me how tyree occasionally picks on the 6th graders, I tell him that what he wants to do about it, he tells me back in his country the government would pick on the weak which is why is family had came here, he told me he doesn't want to see that again and will get back at tyree. I told him not to do anything stupid, like fight him but he said he doesn't have
I knew if I started yelling and throwing a fit, I would receive little more than judgment and blank stares. However, I knew if I didn’t say anything, the boy would think what he said was fine and continue saying things like that. I started meekly, “Um, I don’t think that was very funny”. He glared at me. I continued on, outlining how offensive and insensitive his quip was. He remained defensive and frustrated at first, but as I explained the reality of the issues, he slowly started to listen. Once I had explained my viewpoint and laid out my ideas, he decided I was right. I didn’t need him to change his mind, or alter his world view, I just needed him to listen. He apologized and stated that he wouldn’t say anything like that
Their petty stunts did not last. It quickly escalated from gum on a locker to pushes and shoves in the hallway. They began to use my cousin’s death against me, as some sort of sick insult. I was bullied by mainly one individual for the duration of my sophomore and junior year. Eventually, I began to seek therapy through the persuasion of my family and close friends. Being in therapy has helped me improve drastically as a person and get back on the right track. Unfortunately, my grades for sophomore and junior year suffered as well and are not where I’d like them to be. I know I could have done much better had there been different circumstances. Today, I feel I have overcome what was diagnosed as PTSD and depression. I am in a much better place than I was this time last year and I want to continue my education. Since my experience of having to cope with his untimely death, it has become my dream to graduate college as a registered nurse. I want to help people and save lives. If I could positively impact the life of just one person, everything I've gone through will be worth it. To help others and care for those who need it most will be very fulfilling to
When I heard the two people yelling at each other I couldn’t tell who it was. I turned to see if there were any teachers by our lockers to help the situation. I turned to by right and saw that the two boys Zach Zylstra and Jacob Preston were punching each other in the face and were trying to grab one another's neck to try to choke one another. When I saw that happening I knew that
Remain being a great friend to Harry because in these challenging times it is gonna be rough for him. It is important to alawys be a good friend to others in every situation. We need to learn to be there for one another and be a helping hand. Nobody has a perfect life and needs a helping hand once in awhile. The only thing you can do now is talk to talk to Harry and show him that you care about him and teach him that you are here for him. If I were you I would also apologize to Harry for not standing up to him. This way Harry knows that you are sorry for not having the courage to stand up and stop the harassing. Harry and you can move on with life and still remain good friends whereas if you would not say anything to him. Harry would think you weren't good friends and would no longer try to be nice to you. Everything will turn out. Good luck to you and I really hope that you can find the courage to share the story of Harry's
Back in the past many have focused on drug and alcohol use in school students along with students carrying weapons to schools, and it seemed as if no one was recognizing the significance of school bullying. For victims of bullying, they go to school every day facing harassment, taunting, and humiliation. Kids today come home and kill themselves or never want to go back to school because of BULLYING. “Studies show that 25-35% of teens encountered some type of bullying in their lifetime (Nansel et al,).” Bullying is a form of violent behavior that happens not only in the schools but everywhere. Kids everywhere have been exposed to bullying in school for generations and ages . Although bullying has always been a factor the consequences for
What if you were terrified to go to your school every day? 160,000 students miss school each day because they get bullied and are scared of what will happen (“Bullying Statistics”). Bullying has been a major problem in schools for far too long. Students should not be scared to go to a place that is supposed to be safe and where they can express themselves. Students that bully never get the punishment they deserve, which causes them to continue to act. When you go to school, you should know that if you are getting treated in a horrific way, the people who were treating you that way will get punished. Students who bully should be suspended from school.
Bullying has become a very hot topic in schools and on social media. There is a chant kids say “sticks and stones my break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This is totally false. In truth, words can kill. Bullying is a fact of modern society; it can cause psychological effects and in most cases result in self-harm. I believe preventative measures to reduce bullying in schools and social media should be taken.
What appears to be bullying is not always bullying. There is this misconception that when someone disagrees with another person or is hurtful towards that person, bullying always seems to be what they say is going on. Although statistics shows that one in four kids are bullied, all aggressive actions are not bullying. If a person has self-esteem and self confidence in themselves and not let others tear you down the imbalance of power is balanced. Bullies have more power over their victims and always want to be on top. They enjoy displaying the power they have over their victim.