Play the Army General role: Make your co-existence look like you depend on each other Another way to install a pleasant and more control atmosphere with your kids, is to install principles, where each party (parent vs kids) plays a role, and each role, in turn, serves to promote a healthy co-existence. What we mean by that, is that you should be able to live together and count on each other when the necessity arises. It should almost be like on a battle field, where each unit counts and where the weaker ones (units) can compromise the survival of the other soldiers and at the same time compromise the whole battle for the team. So you understand now, that installing these types of rules when hoping to communicate effectively with your …show more content…
So , like said earlier, you should represent the general on the battlefield and your kids should be your subordinates (the battlefield here represents challenges at home, outside the house that the kids encounter as well as any adjustments you feel they have to abide to as they grow up, such as hard work and wise decisions). What does a general do? He gives orders, guide his subordinates and makes decisions for the whole group, isn’t it? But, he also motivates, congratulates and encourages them, because he knows that for them to be obedient they have to acknowledge him. His acknowledgement comes through the respect that he embodied by guiding them and commanding them, all by respecting them and giving them what they want (acknowledgment and good leadership from you). So basically everything should be mutual and like they say; what you give is what you get back. The last statement might seem a little bit clichéd, but technically you are dealing with individuals who are inexperienced with life, who need guidance every day, your attention and affection; so technically your presence and implication in their lives are highly demanded. When you think about it, as long as you give them what they need (when it comes to non-material things), you will get back their …show more content…
Most of these parent’s recommendations are followed to the letter because there’s an atmosphere of mutual understanding and trust that arises, since the parent managing the child’s career knows how to speak to his child, be understood and have his recommendations executed, without conflicts. You will notice that these athletes are amongst the most successful and respected ones in the industry like the Williams sisters and Tiger
In any environment there needs to be clear boundaries and rules, and these need to be made easy to understand and achieve for children of all ages and abilities. A consistent approach to dealing with conflicts regarding rules helps to avoid any misunderstanding for the child. As already mentioned, a child seeking attention will gain this in the way easiest to him or her, and if attention is usually only given following negative behavior, then this how the child is likely to behave. Positive encouragement and praise should be given as often and as emphasized as negative comments as this will help the child acknowledge that good behaviour is just as, if not more so rewarded than undesirable behaviour.
In the 21st century today, applying the rules that worked so brilliantly in the 20th century is parenting suicide. None would work - and you'll look stupid as a parent and importantly, NEVER get the much desired compliance or obedience in your kid or children.
However if a child becomes a successful athlete, money and bonuses may be brought to not only the athlete but their family as well.
When someone looks at an professional athlete the only thing that comes to mind is how far the person has gone in order to achieve his or her dream. It has become an instinct for people to just look at the superficial part of the athlete such as fame and riches which blocks out the people that worked the hardest. Behind every athlete there is a parent that is supporting them on their highs and on their lows, which is the reason why the athlete is always thankful for their parents. But the most outstanding parents are the resilient ones because no matter the rough situation they are going through they are able to give their all for their sons or daughters.
The military is part of my family. My job in the military is part of my work. When leading Soldiers, I lead my family to victory. If you fall, I fall, and we fall. One team, one fight. We will build each other up by never quitting, never accepting defeat, and never leaving a fallen comrade. Enforcing the Warrior Ethos. When you feel as though you are ready to throw in the towel, think about your family and ask yourself, “How can my military family help me with my problem?” I guarantee we can come up with a solution together as a team…as a family.
Obviously it can be hard to find a middle ground sometimes. Deciding when to be strict and when to be more lenient is tough. You want your kids to do the best they can but you also want them to be kids. Learning how to balance pros and cons of situations is part of growing up. There is research that suggests “being too controlling does not enable children to learn those decision-making skills on their own.” (leaf group) Children start to grow and discover who they will become nearing the end of elementary years. This time is considered a
In the military groups and teams have an important role when accomplishing the organizations goals, and to the success of the mission. When socializing its members I have experienced both institutionalized role, and individual role orientation, and have observed the advantages of both types of role orientation. When Soldiers are headed to basic training, going into their specialized occupational training, or headed off for a deployment institutionalized role orientation has tremendous benefits. Two limiting factors that we consider is time, and size. In each of these events, the military has a goal to socialize hundreds of Soldiers. In a matter of a month or so, Soldier are taught to respond at command, instilling the Army Values and beliefs,
My family is deeply involved in serving the military and military patriotism. My father was a Marine, as was his father, his brother and my half brother. My sister and two of my cousins were in the Air Force. My brother-in-law is currently serving overseas in England and soon to be deployed again. I have an uncle who currently is in the National Guards with the possibility of being deployed this year too. My mother has worked at Camp Ripley for six years now and my first job was at Camp Ripley. I have great respect for these family members and all serving in the military. I recognize the service and sacrifice that each has given and continue to give, in order to protect us and our great nation. We are fortunate to live in this
A young couple overcome hardship when the husband goes missing in war and a lighter and a ring keep the families connected, giving them hope.
Parents often have concerns for how coaches treat their young athletes, but most coaches are the best character role models that a child will have. David Brooks says, “Coaches have become the leading moral instructors in America today.” (Brooks). Groups like The Positive Coaching Alliance exist solely to help coaches do their job of creating mature and respectful athletes (Positive). Children need these positive role models in their lives because kids are easily influenced, and good influencers are key. Even if a child great parents as role models, it is even better to have one outside of the family. A coach can serve as someone that
The role of parents in athletics is key to a child’s success. It is their choice
Parenting styles differ greatly. Understanding how to parent each child individually is an important concept to learn when becoming a parent. Four parenting styles have been developed to explain how parents relate to their children. The styles are divided into two sub-categories: Demandingness or responsiveness towards the children, (i.e. the amount of control versus warmth shown to the children). Baumrind defined these styles as authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and disengaged (Arnett, 2012). The parenting style that I used while raising my virtual child was authoritative. For example, when my child “Samuel” was 3 years old he would not mind me or pick up his toys. I would ask him again, firmly yet in a calm voice. He would then do as I asked, and I would thank him and give him praise for a job well done. Another example is when Samuel was 16, and he broke his curfew. I appreciated that he called to let me know (he communicated) and I reminded him of the curfew limit, but did not punish him for being late. The authoritative style consists of a parent making clear to the child the rules of the family and what is expected of him, and setting consequences for when those rules are broken. The authoritative parent enforces the
For the parents, in the event that you hear the fighting and bickering happen, let every kids ask what their issue is, and solicit each from them to figure out of a few thoughts which can take care of their issue. Allow them to share their own thoughts all alone. If at any time they can't find solutions all alone, offer some of your own which may work. Everybody must concur with the given solution and stick to it- - so that there would be change.
One reason why parents are a vital part about Youth Sports is for there support.
Children are expected to comply and follow strict rules established by authoritative parents, these rules tend to lack an understanding by children as the authoritarian parents fails to explain the reasoning behind said rules (Darney, 2015). Failure to follow and comply with established rules often results in punishment (Kail & Cavanaugh, 2016). Darney (2015), claims that authoritative parents are inclined to not be very responsive to their children and have high demands for their children.