It was not until this year that I began to get a sense of who I was as an individual. Instead of forming my own identity, I relied on the standards of those around me to define myself. Although I as a person am still pursuing my ideal character, I now realize that my identity is not what others make of me, but of what I make of myself. Although it was blissful ignorance, my early teens were marked by feelings of warm companionship. My best friend was always there with his shoulder for me to lean on, and I felt surrounded by friends. Unfortunately, the harsh reality of high school dissipated the naive dreams I clung to. The best friend I had grown up with moved to Conroe and my next closest friend distanced himself from me because he did not …show more content…
Internally, I was more conflicted than ever. All my emotions were magnified, and I became obsessed with fitting in, letting it take priority over my grades. It was not until I went to a Christian summer camp that I came to terms with who I was, but of course it did not happen overnight. My time there initially consisted of the incessant speeches and idle activities, so to spare myself from the depressing boredom, I decided to pull a prank on everyone there. During the group presentations, convince them all that I was a boy named Vikram who just moved from India. As groups were called to speak in front of everyone, I was unanimously nominated by my group to speak for the group- in an Indian accent. So, nervously getting up on the stage, I began to crank out my most exaggerated accent in an effort to entertain some of the friends I came with. To my surprise, the whole room laughed, and it made me feel elated that everyone cracked up at the jokes that followed. For the first time in awhile, I felt appreciated and accepted. After camp ended, many people came up to me to tell me how hilarious I was in the days past. My heart slowly rushed with warmth, realizing that the very thing that I had always hated had helped me find a piece of myself that I never even knew was there. I still have not fully matured my identity, nor I do not think I just yet. For me, it is an extensive journey that
I do not know who I am or how I identify myself. I think that my identity is always changing as I grow. I learned that I’m not only identified by my height or my race. I learned that I am not only identified by my weight or by my unusual name. In A Prayer for Owen Meany, Owen, although small and undeveloped had a huge identity.
There are many factors that shape us into who we are, and who we will become. Some of these factors we can control, while others we cannot. While we are born into many traits of our identities, much of our other behavior is learned. My identity, for example, is “based not only on responses to the question ‘Who am I?’ but also on responses to the question ‘Who am I in relation to others?’” (Allen, 2011, p. 11). My identity and the question of who I am, are both influenced by many aspects of my life, including my hometown, my family, my friends, and my beliefs and moral values.
Interactions between people are never ending. The effects of one conversation could affect the outcome of that person’s life, consequently changing their identity completely. There comes a time, though, when dealing with others confident in their identities, where one must ask themselves the personal question of “who am I?”. No matter if you’ve just stumbled upon this question, in the process of discovering the answer, consistently changing your answer, or confident in your answer, the people around you are the ones you have to thank for molding your personal identity.
Each individual possesses an identity that makes him or her unique in their own special way. This identity is considered a marker that helps define and shape the person, even as they develop by means of age or wisdom. In addition to that, various factors, such as ethnicity, gender, religion, language, or culture, contribute to establishing one’s identity. Although each identity is different, Andrew Solomon acknowledges another difference amongst one’s identity. This difference depends on whether someone encompasses a horizontal identity or a vertical identity.
Humans are bound to make mistakes during these critical decisions that affect both relationships and them as individuals; as a result people are regretful about their identity. Sooner or later people arrive at a point in life where they want to reassess themselves, indicating the theme of Rethinking Identity that is associated with search for an identity, which
According to Steinberg (2016), individuals who have a healthy sense of identity are able to take responsibilities for their actions, and have a clear idea of who they are and who they would like to be. However, Steinberg
Who I am? Personally, I believe that a person’s identity can take only one of two routes. One, a person’s identity can change within that person’s life. Who I am now, is not necessarily who I was when I was younger. Experience can and will likely modify our identities. Therefore, experience can solidify our personal identification or it can weaken our personal identification. And as such, individuals and their perspectives are always evolving, or at the very least, they should evolve over time. Although there are some identities that evolve throughout one’s lifetime; there are some identities that remain consistent. Two, some identities cannot and will not change. So identities are socially and/or politically forces upon you, some identities are genetically assigned to you, and some you choose to keep. No matter the reason or reasons, these identities have been and will be consist within your lifespan. But, how you deal with them is up to you as an individual.
Personal identity is essential in the human experience. Identity is complex and can be broken down into two main groups: introspective identity, and bodily identity. Introspective identity is based off of the groups, mentalities, or beliefs that you align yourself with, and bodily identity is based off of the physical side of yourself. Whether physical or introspective, your identity impacts every action you take. Whether choices ranging from what colors you prefer to which college you want to attend are primarily based off of your introspective identity, which is a combination of both memory and consciousness, physical identity impacts how others perceive you. Consciousness is mainly the awareness of bodily identity as well as continuous introspective identify, while memory is awareness of introspective identity. These two different facets of identity are imperative in the distinction between bodily identity and introspective identity. In means of personal identity introspective identity (which is evident in memory), is essential, while bodily identity (based partially in consciousness) has less credit.
After various writings by Richard Rodriguez and Octavio Paz, I have come across several realizations. Who am I? Should I be a part of a nation and a “system” that does not value me, or should I be a part of a nation that does not acknowledge my existence? The United States as a nation does not value me, and México does not even know that I exist. These are difficult matters to discuss. We are all in search of our own identity. However, some of us are placed in a situation that makes it very difficult and confusing to know or understand. I have always asked myself, “Who am I?” I should put it in more crude words, “Where do I belong?” After this specific question is asked, I begin to realize that
Our identity can sometimes be shaped by the way others see us. As we have seen, the way in which others view us can have some sort of impact on how we see ourselves. There are also other contributing factors such as our years of adolescence, the basic human need of wanting to belong and maturing; all play an equally important part in the forming of our character and who we are. On balance it appears that there is not only one influence in the shaping of our identity, but there are many.
My purpose is to show my individuality and to express myself. This is for others including myself, to see and to remind us that our identity is very complex.
Everybody has an identity, it makes them individual and unique, and it defines who you are as a person. This project about my identity showed me what makes me unique. I would have never known how much my friends mean to me or how my identities connect with each other. I have three identities that make me who I am, cultural, personal, and social. A specific quality that covers my cultural identity is being Czechoslovakian. Both sides of my family have at least a part of Czech in them. My great-grandparents are from Czech Republic and my grandpa was the first generation in America, he was born in Ohio. This is very important because I have always identified as Czech and it is a big part of me, as I am so interested in ancestry. For my personal identity, the biggest part is my personality, being loud and outgoing, has always been important to me. The reason being, it is how people view me. A lot of people know me as the loud person or the person who talks a lot. That is meaningful to me considering I like people to view me in a certain way The last identity, social, is one of the most important to me because it involves my friends, and through this project, I learned how vital they really are to my social identity. I realized that I have a good amount of friends in this project. It is nice to have people as a support system and to relate with. These qualities show that I value being loud and outgoing. It also says that I value my family and they are a big part of life. The last one, social, ties in with the first one because it shows I am outgoing and friendly.
I made my first best friend, Nathan, when I was about four or five years old. I had the same best friend throughout all of my elementary school years, but near the end, he was teased for our friendship and began to talk to me less and less. Until the beginning of fifth grade, I was extremely outgoing and I had an enthusiastic love for school, but once I gained more self-awareness, I began to retreat into myself and become very shy. This was the first time I felt alone and it would most definitely not be the last.
As I look back on my journal from the first week of this class I notice how different yet the same my answers to the question “who are you” are. In the first week, I still talked about how I identify as a hard-working college student that strives to meet her goals. I think, still do this day I identify as that. However, now I like to go in-depth with that question. Not only am I hard working but I am hard working because I strive to get my homework done on time, ask questions when I am confused, and participate in class discussions when I have something to input instead of sitting quietly like I typically would. I think that after studying identity for a whole semester I can grasp and identify who I think I
How do you define your own identity? This is a question I have never had to consider much before. In the beginning I just simply though, I am who I am. But soon after, I began to deeply contemplate this question over and over and over again in my mind. I started to peel back the layers of me and tried to understand what defined me as me, both to myself, individual identity, and the outside world, group identity.