Raising Successful Children

LO 1.2 Describe with examples the importance of all staff consistently and fairly applying boundaries and rules for children and young people’s behaviour in accordance with the policies of the setting.

A lot of people understand as parents “Failure is the way to success”, and yet parents try to protect their children from danger and failure by restraining their freedom. The article Free the children written by Nancy Gibbs advises parents to love yet left alone so they can try a new skill. Efforts to guide and guard can sometimes be a barrier for their children to experience the mistake and learn from it. In my opinion, this article is definitely true because one can correct their mistake easier through experiencing. One can also understand the reason of a failure from a real situation. In addition, this prevents one from making the same mistake over and over again.

These two styles of parenting are both ineffective in fostering the talent and passions of their children at early ages. One unable to maintain a stable, healthy relationship during early childhood years and the other being too overbearing over the child's decisions in life caused the children to both undergo an avoidable difficult childhood. The result of each mother’s parenting is the opposite of what the mother’s had hoped their parental

In order for Anaheim students to achieve success we must make some changes such as experiencing different types of situations, and having shorter summers to have more learning time. As well as parental involvement and strong leaders will lead to a better student. For Anaheim students to reach full potential they are in need of realizing and experiencing different situations on their own. In “The Secret to Raising Smart Kids” by Carol S. Dweck, she says that people can learn to be helpless.

Some people claim that the nature of parenting is the main factor of children’s future successes. One of those is Amy Chua, the author of "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superiors," who advocates for strict parenting. Malcolm Gladwell, on the other hand, the author of Outliers: the Story of Success, rejects Chua's idea of strict parenting and further condemns forced practices and attributes success to a myriad of factors that shape a person's identity, including life circumstances and practicing intelligence which are necessary for individual success. Gladwell discusses that a person should practice what he loves not what he is forced to do while Amy Chua claims that practice must be forced and parents should be strict and in full control.

“The Secret to Raising Smart Kids” by Carol S. Dweck is about the development of a child’s mentality when it comes to their self-confidence as well their capability of learning and working hard. Dweck informs the reader that there are two types of children and people in general when it comes to learning as well as growing. One group are the helpless people and one group are those with a growth mindset. Whether a person falls into the helpless or those willing to grow greatly impacts their success as well as their future.

I decided to read the book, How Children Succeed, by Paul Tough. I chose this book because I believe childhood is a critical life stage where you can develop a strong foundation. Early intervention can help improve the life of a child and that of his family and generation. The book, How Children Succeed, speaks on high volume the skills that children need to develop to make it in life. I’m glad I chose this book because it help me understand the misconceptions I personally had about how children learn.

Parenting: from dressing, teaching, disciplining, to simply supporting a child, there are technically no right or wrong ways to provide care. Although there may not be a correct way, most, if not all, parents have been or will be criticized at some point because of their decisions in parenting. So what exactly makes someone good at parenting? A mother, father, or caregiver who exercises good parenting fosters a healthy relationship with the child, demonstrates and reciprocates respect, and reinforces responsibility.

Once you’ve been in school for nearly 12 years of your life you think you know all of the tricks to conquering the school year. When a problem arises you think you know the easy way out of it or the perfect way to avoid it. Some kids probably believe that as you continue on through your education these problems will just simply decrease. As a junior in high school, I’ve come to find that that assumption couldn’t be more false. High school came as a scare to me and I felt that I was the only one going through those typical teenage problems; however, after reading How Children Succeed: Grit, Curiosity, and the Hidden Power of Character, by Paul Tough, I began to gain some of my confidence back.

In the Introduction of How Children Succeed, the author Paul Tough presents the notion that future success is dependent on a variety of factors, rather than a common singularity. He encounters this proposition during his time at a pre-kindergarten and kindergarten program called Tools of the Mind. According to Tough, the program asserts on the following, by which he writes, “rubric self-regulation, will do more to lead to positives outcomes for their students … than the traditional menu of pre-academic skills” (Tough xii). In comparison to other programs, Tools of the Mind emphasizes on the development of behavioral or self regulated skill-sets. Puzzled by his findings and deviation from his understanding that success is largely tied to the

In the article “Are We raising a Generation of Helpless Kids?” by Mickey Goodman, Goodman writes about the generation that grew up between 1984-2002. Goodman says that kids rely on instant gratification including social media or even the web to find answers. She believes that kids are getting rewarded for accomplishing so little. Parent are too focus on doing their kid’s homework for them and stopping them from having self-reliance. Children need to be able to rely on their opinions when they come up with new ideas instead of asking others around them for their opinion. Parents are caught up on helicopter parenting, not letting their kids take risks and not preparing them for the future. Stopping a child from accomplishing their work, or school work the right way will make them look at their work negatively and keep them frustrated.

If a child’s parents don’t give them encouragement then the child can’t achieve their potential. Kids need to be motivated and reaching their potential will be easier because they believe in themselves. If the parent gives too much praise, then the motivating won’t mean anything because they think they are good enough already. People think that parents need to motivate while not giving too much. Other people may think that praise is a thing that parents should use as often as possible because they think their kids will benefit from it more greatly than giving them a certain amount of

Recently I read an article in the San Diego Union Tribune entitled "Setting Up Foster Kids for Success" by Assemblyman Brian Maienschein. The article focused on helping foster kids succeed. The article points to statistics that show around half of foster kids who stay in the system until they age out wind up in dire straights - homeless, in prison, or victimized in some way. Some even wind up dead.

Parenting is different for everyone, but is any one way really better than the other? Amy Chua, a professor at Yale University, believes that the strict parenting style of Chinese mothers is the way to go. She believes that her strict and often harsh parenting style contributed to the success of her daughters. Chinese parents believe that if their children are successful, it is a reflection of the parents. Hanna Rosin, a contributing editor for the Atlantic, has very different views from Ms. Chua about the correct parenting style. Ms. Rosin believes that the more relaxed, nurturing, and self-led style of Western parenting is the better way to raise children. She believes that placing your children under immense pressure can produce

Clark writes, "Half of the battle in raising kids is teaching them to be confident." (p. 150) Confidence has always been a huge thing for me and is a quality that I find very important. I have always been confident and I have found that most of my confidence stems from my parents. In this chapter Clark points out that unfortunately, not all students have parents that are so supportive. He talks in this chapter about finding potential for greatness in each child and tapping into it. Without the reinforcement, often times children don't believe in themselves and their abilities. Each child deserves to be confident and believe in themselves. He writes, "The more these kids experience, the more self-esteem they will have and the better they will feel about themselves. I don't want my students to be twenty two years old, go to a job interview, be qualified for the job, but not get the position because they don't know how to hold themselves in a certain way and present themselves in a manner that is professional." (p. 152) Clark continues on in this chapter by talking about how confidence comes with preparation. By preparing students with the tools they need for success, you are making them more confident in their own personal abilities. Preparation is the key to success. It is teachers job to prepare students for success and greatness. Clark writes, "As teachers and parents we have the freedom to lift up children and make them feel special. We