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Rationale Of Grief In Western Culture

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Rationale for Cultural and Religious Constructions of Grief and its Expression
Running with the idea that grief, as an emotion, is universal in nature, but that its expression is the part most culturally or religiously informed, there comes the idea of what is considered socially appropriate in a given situation. Hochschild presents the idea of “feeling rules” which are culturally informed put in place to govern the way that emotions are expressed and present an expectation to be abided by (1979, p. 552). For example the Balinese, who may be grieving on the inside, but are expected to laugh or act with grace or composure in the face of death (Wikan, 1989, p. 295). In Western culture, this process of “emotion work” is measured against what we …show more content…

There is this constant dissonance between the healing power of grieving, but also the point at which it becomes harmful and needs to be controlled (Shepard, 2002, p. 205). This is seen in Western culture, where we make determinations about how long a person should feel sad for or when a normal grieving process becomes abnormal or unhealthy (Lutz, 1986, p. 294), but also in other cultures, like the Toraja, who encourage overt outpouring of emotion for a short time, but then consider that continuing this for too long will inhibit a person’s ability to protect themselves from poor health (Wellenkamp, 1988, p. …show more content…

From this standpoint it has focused on the ways that these cultural practices and expressions of grief are informed by the social construction of feeling rules which are based on underlying religious beliefs or ideological framing rules. We have explored the links in these quite separate cultural ways of grieving and also shown where they differ to understand whether or, preferably, how humans are alike and yet so diverse. It is clear from this analysis and research that based on the range of cultures we have explored here grief is most likely to be experienced universally. Though this comes in a raft of different forms, by various names (Wierzbicka, 2003, p. 580), in any number of various expressions as determined by the feeling rules considered most appropriate in any given cultural setting, it does not negate the hypothesis that at some stage or another in any person’s life they will experience death and thus grieving in whatever form it takes (Hochschild, 1979, p. 552). Put simply, the Western assumption that grief is a universally experienced emotion, based only on this research, is correct, but the assumption that we all experience grief in the same way is where the fallacy

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