Relationship Filtering Model Paper

"Never judge someone by the way he looks or a book by the way it's covered; for inside those tattered pages, there's a lot to be discovered." -Stephen Cosgrove. It seems that all people care about are looks. If a person doesn’t look like the type another would want to be friends with, like completely forget them without caring what they could be like. The girl who looks extremely shy could be the most outgoing person ever, it just may not look to be that way. In The Last Book of the Universe, it can be noticed that characters often does try to make out what type of person a new friend may be. This essay will tell of two different people who try to read, or categorize, a new person before actually getting to know them.

“Men and women can't be friends, because sex always gets in the way”, is the main theme of the movie “When Harry met Sally”. The script is a good example of the interpersonal communication ten stage model by Mark Knapp. This developmental model entails the stages of a relationship from it’s infancy to an ending. In the movie we can clearly identify all ten stages of this model.

Another prominent issue with people today is the judging of one’s character based solely on their appearance. People are harsh with their words and quick to judge on another. This problem is especially seen with the younger generation of society, though is common amongst all people. Most people do not give others the honest chance to become well-acquainted because they have already judged the person

In chapter 8 Looking Out Looking in by Ronald. B. Adler it talks about why we form relationships , well most people desire relationships. Appearance is especially important in relationships whether it is in person or social media. Appearance is also the most important feature people look for, skills and intelligence are secondary. Being in a relationship causes partners to create positive illusions. In relationships we also look for similarity we like people who are similar to us. Similarity is more important to relational happiness than communication ability. Similarity also helps us overcome trivial differences. Complementarily differences are the differences a relationship has between each other. Complementarily differences strengthen relationships

The Filter Theory shows more how people are kept away, and relationships are controlled based on a person’s perception. It states that Relationships go though stages whereby different criteria are used at successive stages. It starts with social variables, such as class and religion. Then it moves to internal values. Finally, it moves to personality traits. Note that we seek similarity in social variables and values, but personality traits may be complementary.

Online dating has altered the process used for obtaining a romantic partner as well as has altered the process of compatibility matching. Online dating has created a new platform for meeting potential partners. Romantic relationships contribute to emotional well-being and individuals crave the intimate connections that are formed through their romantic partnerships; it is a fundamental part of human motivation. These dating sites have created a medium for potential partners to meet by alleviating the daunting task of conventional dating by solving the problems such as lack of access to potential partners, confronting potential partners regarding their romantic availability, and gathering the courage to approach strangers face to face (Finkel, Eastwick, Karney, Reis, & Sprecher, 2012).

Online dating allows singles, couples, or groups to meet each other online with the hopes of forming a social, romantic, or sexual relationship. Those that sign up with an online dating service typically provide information for other members to view in the form of a personal profile. This personal profile is the main deciding factor as to whether or not an online dater chooses to communication with another member of the online dating service. Online dating, a relatively new form of social matchmaking, has both positive and negative aspects to it. Just as any sort of social interaction can have pros and cons. In this topic, I am going to give reasons how on how online dating can be avantage and disvantages to us and what impact it has on

I remember my feelings began to intensify, as did hers. She explained that I was the first girl she had ever had feelings for. We entered the integrating stage as far as we could, considering we were long distance. I said goodbye to habits and activities that she frowned upon. I changed my circle of friends for those who did not party, since she really didn’t like me participating in those kinds of things. I changed my views on certain things,

This article argues that physical attractiveness is a gateway for a healthy relationship. Singles, of both sex, recognizes the importance of physical attractiveness, especially online. Only when the standard is meet would they investigate further into the personality. It also argues that excessive attractiveness is unnecessary, and people prefers “averagely” attractive partner. The author is a dating & mating psychologist, has deep study in relationships. I will use this article as a major point to support my thesis statement.

For the last two years, she was the apple of my eye, the women of my dreams and my whole heart. She was my everything, but what we had was toxic. All we would do is fight and argue and lead to a break up not to mention all the things that lead or happen during our time we were together. But I thought she was the one so I kept coming back pushing my hurt farther and farther away knowing it was only going to eat me up inside. That is why I was filled with so much pain because I couldn’t let her go. Wait! HELLO IS ANYONE

During Gus Khazeni’s presentation of his new dating app, “LuvLuv’, to the circlers he makes the argument that dating is inherently more successful when a person knows everything about his partner, their likes, dislikes, allergies, etc, so that the user won’t make an “ass” of himself and will be able to “find love and produce grandchildren” (Eggers 121). The idea of the app is to equip a user with so much information about his partner so that he will make all the right decisions, thus the the date will be perfect and his partner will see him as “sensitive, intuitive, decisive,” and perfect (Eggers 120). Francis and Mae become the guinea pigs for the app during the presentation, and prove the app to work properly as it quickly and efficiently

At eHarmony, the customer gets the chance to communicate with a potential partner after having paid for the communication process. The value provided in eHarmony’s business model concerns giving the paying member guided communication with a potential partner. The company ensures that they consider the preferences of the applicants before starting on the match-making process. According to Piskorski, Halaburda & Smith, the company considers the similarities among applicants in order to start the match-making process (6).

Just as self concept seemed a vicious circle, where this affects that and that effects this; relational development is the same. Relational development can alter our lives and our communication, while communication issues can alter our relational development and our lives. The relational perspective is a pragmatic one and focuses on the continuance of communication processes through relationships. (Rogers, 2004.) Relationships go through a series of stages. The initial and first encounter to a relationship is called the initiating stage. While in this stage, two people attempt to create favorably impressionable first impressions. In this stage you will look for cues about the other person’s personality, attitude, beliefs, and values so that you can progress the relationship. If the relationship continues and impressions are favorable than the two people move to the second stage, also known as the experimenting stage. In this stage people reveal themselves further but not completely since the stage is still a precarious one. If a common ground and understanding of each other is obtained then the relationship moves to the next stage, the intensifying stage. In this stage shared experiences becomes common and self disclosure is open. The next stage is the integrating stage, this is where the individuals usually become a couple. They have shared interests and attitudes, and sometimes talk or act alike. The other individual becomes like your other half. If things go awry than relationships often shift to the circumscribing stage. This is when couples start to self disclose less and less to the other person. Then comes the stagnating stage. At this point there is no communication and no activity between the two people. Sometimes there is an

There she is. The love of my life. The girl who was once a quiet and innocent person, but after making her open up to me, she’s actually a funny and weird partner to be with. I still can’t believe we’re still together as to this very day. I thought that she would leave me ever since. Even if she doesn’t love me anymore, I’d still care for her whether I’m still alive or dead. I would do anything just to see her all happy. It breaks my heart when she’s sad or hurts herself. I know I’m a hypocrite for saying it since I do it, too. I hate it when we don’t see each other like when she’s busy. I want her all to myself. She’s forever mine. Call me a selfish lover, but I don’t care what the people say. She’s such an amazing

The five factors that predict interpersonal relationships are: proximity, familiarity, similarity, physical appearance, and reciprocity. Proximity refers to the geographical location of persons. People are more likely to initiate, engage, or maintain relationships if someone’s geographical location is near or convenient to the person they are to pursue. Relationships, whether romantic or platonic, are not as likely to be initiated if the proximity does not allow individuals to cross paths or maintain a certain level of communication. As well, familiarity plays an important role in the fostering of relationships. People are said to have an increased attraction and fondness for individuals that they see more often than those they do not. In lay terms, similarity can be summed up by saying that people enjoy the presence of those like (or similar) to them. Individuals are more often drawn to and feel less intimidated by others that share their culture and belief systems; thus, are more likely to form relationships with them. Next, is physical attractiveness; which can be defined in two different ways. First off, people tend to believe that beautiful things equal good things and are more likely to seek out relationships with individuals they find beautiful. However, people are also likely to form relationships with people they believe to be on