It’s a day in mid-July right before my freshman year and marching band is about to start. My mom has the day off because in order for me to be in the band, I have to go to the doctors to get a sports physical. The nurse calls me to the back and tells me, “Okay Maryna, we’re going to weigh you and take your blood pressure.” I am super self-conscious about my weight especially when other people have to see the exact pounds, so hearing that and knowing I have to get on a scale in front of my mom and the nurse is the scariest thing I could ever hear. My heart is a train pounding down the tracks. As I took my shoes off to get on the scale I would think to myself, the nurse and doctor are going to talk shit about my weight, my mom is going to be so pissed about how much I’ve gained, What the hell is wrong with me? This is when I realized I have a poor self-esteem. This is only one of the many occasions on how I’ve suffered with JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS. The thought of the nurse and doctor talking about my weight was me making a negative interpretation even though there were no facts that they would be talking about it. I didn’t even bother to look into it and instead, and I illogically concluded they were talking negatively about me. In A Review of General Semantics “Opening the Closed Mind: Making Assumptions, Jumping to Conclusions” the author states, “Our unconscious assumptions indicate how we really feel about things” (Berman). Believing they were talking poorly about my weight was making me feel even worse about myself. Another factor that affects my self-esteem is OVERGENERALTIZATION. I have one negative experience and I believe it will occur over and over again. I had a doctor’s appointment and as usual they took my height and weight. My mom and I were taken to our assigned room and when the nurse closed the door my mom was pissed. She was as angry as a raging bull. She was at a loss for words on how much weight I gained from the last doctors appointment I had. That day is what made me nervous to get on a scale in front of my mom because her reaction to my weight would make me feel even worse about it. In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Burns states, “You arbitrarily conclude that one thing that happened
A bit surreal today as I sit down and write my first paper in almost 20 years. I’ve spent the last 10 years trying to be very concise in my communication, to the point and easy to skim the important facts to ensure what I need to get across will be read. The fact that I am having some emotional response to the stress related to routinely writing papers that ‘feel long’ is just a great example of some of what I learned from my MBTI/Firo B results.
From the research that I have done forming the three research articles, I have concluded that the authors who wrote the research journal, the magazine, and the book advise to not work out heavily every time. The authors suggest that if I do have a busy schedule, one that does usually fit gym time in the daily commute, that I should at least incorporate some level of physical activity whenever I have the free time. Simply walking at a fast pace on the way to work or class, or just getting out of a chair and stretching is beneficial for most, if not all, people. I can use the advice given to me so that I can be constantly active even when not in the gym, so that I don’t increase body fat percentages.
When you have Low self esteem that is what you think about a lot. people are always losing weight but sometimes it isn’t healthy. 44% of high school girls are trying to lose weight and 15% of guys. studies show that kids between 15 and 17 will skip out on daily activities such as going to school. They do it because of the way they feel about their look. 40% of middle school boys start to work out in an attempt to increase their muscle mass. over 75% of girls with low self esteem turn to bad things like cutting themselves, smoking, drinking, etc. that means only 25% of girls have high self esteem. 38% of high school and middle school students admitted that they had used protein supplements. 6% said they had used steroids
In this paper I plan to briefly review what happened during the counseling demonstration. Next, I will discuss two basic counseling skills that I believe I used well, and one that I struggled with. Finally, I will discuss the next steps I will take in order to improve my counseling skills.
I have always struggled with feeling insecure about my body and the way I look. For many years I had many troubles with being happy with my body, I hated my body and I hated the way I looked. As a child I was always told by my father that I was fat, and that if I did not have the perfect body no one would ever love me. Which is why at a young age I began to worry about my body and the way I looked. Like Jones, Vigfusdottir, and Lee discuss in their article we end up despising our bodies because of the media standards of the perfect body and perfect beauty.(Jones). I would watch TV, read magazines, and saw on social media many women with what I thought was the perfect body and I would get extremely upset because I was not able to look like them. Harrison said that the result of low self-esteem can lead to depression and self-destructive behaviors such as eating disorders. (Harrison). For a period of time, I thought not eating would help me have a nice body, I even thought throwing my food up would help me, but it did not. But I later learned that that was not the answer at
Self-esteem fluctuates with how weight and size is perceived, and is often negative (Comer, 2013).
The clocks at LIH appeared to be online and communicating to the WDM. I began my check to start data collection that is when I realized the clocks are not operating normally. I tried to reboot, initialize, and test both clocks though it appeared the clocks were in the process of successfully completing the task, it failed. Within the last two hours, I managed to get both clocks to complete a data collection successfully. I contacted Kari, LIH Coordination Center and request to have a TSO swipe their badge on both clocks located at the Checkpoint and Break Room, respectively.
did not fare as well as I expected on my portfolio. I enjoyed this class immensely too, including my professor, Dr. Susan DeLuke. I learned a great deal during the course as well as after the course from Dr. DeLuke, with the multiple homework assignments, and papers, and achieved very good grades under her guidance. However, applying it to the portfolio was challenging. It was a great deal to absorb, retain and get accurate in a short amount of time and I have a tendency to let tasks likes these overwhelm me. I know I could have performed better on my portfolio now. I went from an A in this class to a C+ because of my final portfolio. I thought I did well on it, and I did not. It was very disappointing results for both the student and Professor
I started out my session making some small talk with my client, Shaindy. We discussed how things went the previous week and what we’re looking forward to accomplish in the upcoming week.
I knew deep down; she didn’t mean any harm, but I couldn’t help but feel insulted. Up to this point, I didn’t think there was anything wrong with my weight. I had always considered myself to be an active person and even a bit on the slimmer spectrum. After closely examining my friends and even comparing myself to my younger sister, I noticed that I was a bit heavier than the other girls there.
Since I was a little girl I was always mentioned as the tall skinny girl. I don’t remember ever thinking this was an issue and didn’t seem to mind it at first. Of course I didn’t know better, and was very shy anyway, so I was always very quiet and didn’t say much or think much. This all changed later as I got older and got into elementary school and teachers started bothering my mother with private meetings threatening to say something if I didn’t get checked out by the doctor. I remember it being a constant problem for my mother to explain that this was in fact normal for my body to be this way. As I got older I started getting annoyed by my friends and other students at school and being told I was anorexic and people asking me strange questions about my eating habits. It was very frustrating since I had a very large appetite and still would get grief for it and accused of doing things on purpose so I didn’t have to be like the rest of “them”. I found this very difficult and it made me very insecure. As I got older and older it kept getting worse and then I started thinking when is it ok to start accusing these people of being fat? I don’t think it was ever ok. This type of thinking made me think I wasn’t pretty enough and made me
The first student to perform for the fundraiser was Candy Tsai. She performed Arabeske, Op.18. Candy tends to use more of her arm muscles when playing rather than wrists. She sets a great example of pedal use throughout her piece. Although she uses pedal, she distinguishes her articulation correctly. Overall, she was fantastic but could use more dynamic contrast. The next student to perform for the fundraiser was Joshua Tessler. As a performer, he did not start until he made adjustments to the seat. Once he was comfortable, one could see how graceful he was. He was constantly moving throughout his piece and at one point, he crosses his hands to perform.
I wonder if everyone, despite their varying backgrounds from one another, has experienced “imposter syndrome” at some point in their life. There are numerous ways in which one can feel out of place, as I can firmly attest to. I feel like an outsider all of the time. Dating back as far as my early childhood, my personality and my interpretation of my personality, has lead me to believe that something is very wrong with me. Why am I so different from the outgoing and energetic people I see in movies and even in my everyday life? Why are there so many misconceptions about people like me, and why am I starting to actually believe that they are true? I can recall many experiences in my life in which I have felt inadequate compared to my
Finding the right words to describe my adolescent life is nothing short of impossible. When looking at myself, I did not know who I truly was and lacked direction in life. In essence, my teenage years were tough. When I was growing up, as most girls do, I struggled with self-esteem, particularly in regards to my physical image. Turning to food was always comforting, which in turn led me to become an overweight teenager with no self-esteem or drive. During my sophomore year of high school there was a turning point; I reflected on myself physically and emotionally and realized I needed to change my outlook in order to go towards what I wanted. I knew with my family history, that the odds were stacked against me. A few of my family members
I am now approaching the conclusion of my college career and starting to adjust to work life. This is a period of self-reflection and an attempt to put everything I learned into perspective. During this period of my life, I have been constantly thinking and contemplating my future. I feel very anxious yet nervous during this time while I am adjusting to this new stage of my life. When I was in High school my life was very structured, because I could be very dependent on peoples help and I obviously still lived with my family. When I went to college, I had to break away from that feeling of dependency and start the adjusting to adulthood. In college there was more responsibility and I started to become more independent. This was a crucial step in my life but choosing a career is going to be an even bigger step. It is a bigger step because; I have to start structuring my career goals and family goal for the future. At this moment all I can think about is my career, and how I can I keep improving myself for work life.