Spirit Of Open Communication Analysis

(Baumrind 1966). I have come to realize that my parents and grandparents had this same parenting style. I have realized that I am repeating the cycle and I must break the cycle because if I do not them my children will continue this same cycle as an authoritarian parent instead of an authoritative parent. I would never want to be a permissive parent. This parenting style you are not teaching your children structure. “There are not held accountable for their actions”. (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). As parents we must teach our children there are consequences for our actions. If you do not apply any boundaries or rules as they get older they will feel like the rules do not apply to them. “Permissive parents will cause their children to be dependent, immature, and misbehave frequently.” (Coon & Mitterer, 2016). I believe some parents are like this because they want to be their child’s friend. It is okay to be their friend but there must be some type of guidelines in place.

The most conflicted relationship between authoritarians and respect of parents is most commonly found between

The parenting style in the home will result in differences in the children’s behavior. For example, an authoritarian parent is controlling, punitive and strict. Their rules are not flexible and do not tolerate expressions of disagreement. These

Permissive parents allow complete freedom to their children and there is very little discipline visible. Permissive parenting was “Popular in the 1950’s and 1960’s” because of all the troubles going on during WWII. (5) They like to tell their kids “One more time…” whenever the kids do something bad. An example can be if Timmy asks his parents if he can go to a party. They tell him he has to be home by 10pm. Then his parents tell him the limit is 10pm. Then he suggests 12pm and because they do not want Timmy to be angry with them they let him do whatever he wants. Permissive parents have a fear that their kids will not like them. Unlike authoritarian parents, permissive parents make rules but they never enforce the rules. The children in this parenting style are usually immature, dependant, aggressive, and unhappy. They do not do well academically because of their inability to regulate to the school rules.

understanding the rules do not apply to them, letting them do as they please (Thomas 2). Permissive parents do not typically

Often times, children of permissive parents are manipulative. This is because the parents submit to their children if they act out. Children of permissive parents are impulsive, the children do not learn how to control themselves. Children brought up by this parenting style “do slightly worse in school during adolescence and are more likely to be aggressive and somewhat immature in their behavior with peers and in school”

• Permissive parenting children tend to more impulsive and may engage in more misconduct as an adolescent. The children go on to never learn to control their own behavior and always expect to get their way. As in better cases they child may mature quickly and live a very dependent life.

Authoritarian parents normally do not interact with their children in positive ways and usually install fear into the child. Punishment is usually harsh and given without explanation. Children with authoritarian parents are often anxiety- ridden. Studies have shown that these children have lower self- esteem, show high aggressiveness and typically do less well in school. Permissive parenting consists of high nurture and acceptance, but these parents lack structure and control. These parents look at their children as “free spirits” who need space to learn and grow. Permissive parents are usually inconsistent with discipline. Children with permissive parents normally are impulsive and irresponsible. These children also lack any self- control since none was expected (Sclafani 47).

Authoritarian is only one of three parenting styles that Baumrind details. The other two styles include authoritative and permissive. These two variations in parenting styles were seen in the way my relatives and friends’ parents approached parenting. I observed how the parents of my close friend handled parenting. They maintained control over aspects in my friend’s life like school and chores but allowed the freedom to make decisions in areas of social activities. The most striking difference between my parents and my friend’s is the use of reasoning and the expression of warmth. Her parents provided justification behind their commands and or punishments while maintaining a sense of love and affection. The bond and love that is evident between my friend and her parents is not as strong in the relationship between my parents and me. The style that her parents exhibit is known as authoritative because of their focus on some parental control, use of reasoning and warmth. While on the other hand, my cousins raised their children in a completely different manor using a permissive parenting style. While they provide obvious love and affection towards their children, they fail to exert control and regulations. They did not have any real sense of rules in their household. Their children tend to act and do whatever they wanted with little to no repercussions.

They are allowed too much freedom, and are not held accountable for their mistakes. This often results in children who are unhappy and lack self-control. They are more likely to disregard authority and tend to have problems in school. (Coon & Mitterer, 2010, p. 92)The reason I’ve described these parenting styles is to allow you to judge for yourself, which parenting style do you believe Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar practice? They are on a reality show titled “19 and Counting,” which airs on TLC. The “19” refers to the number of children they now have. After viewing a few episodes, I’ve come to the conclusion that these parents seem to use the authoritative parenting style. Their children are taught by example through firm and consistent parenting. They show respect for one another through generosity and kindness, and seem to have good decision-making skills. These children are well-mannered and cooperative. None seem to be lacking in self-esteem and, despite some skepticism, they all seem to have their needs met.In contrast, the reality show “Super Nanny,” which airs on the STYLE network, has a nanny working with parents that are seeking help. They are looking for the techniques needed to discipline their children. The parenting styles of these couples tend to lean toward overly permissive. Often these children are aggressive, uninvolved, and combative. They lack focus and act out for attention.Thankfully, professionals are working with

relationship between the child and parent. When children are under the pressure of strict rules, they

The primary focal point of the authoritarian style is on respect rather than parent-child relationships. Authoritarian parents are known for being strict. They lay out rules and expect their children to follow them without question, even if the child has a valid reason for questioning a decision. They establish many rules for the household and leave little or no room for negotiation on policies. Authoritarian parents also fail to explain why the rules exist because they believe that, as the parent, they are the authority on all decisions and shouldn’t be questioned.

to the lack of discipline. On the other hand “Children from permissive homes…have good self-esteem and better social skills,” than that of children raised in an authoritarian

“Permissive parenting is sometimes known as indulgent parenting; it is a care free style of parenting” (Cherry). This type of parent asks very little of their kids and has very low expectations when it comes to learning self-discipline and gaining maturity. Most children wish they had parents like these because they are very lenient and have little to no consequences. However, this causes children to be spoiled, which is a high demanding child that expects their parents to do everything for them and buy whatever they want. Permissive style parents are more like a friend to their child rather than an authoritative parent. In some ways that is an exceptional thing because the children feel like they can

Children are expected to comply and follow strict rules established by authoritative parents, these rules tend to lack an understanding by children as the authoritarian parents fails to explain the reasoning behind said rules (Darney, 2015). Failure to follow and comply with established rules often results in punishment (Kail & Cavanaugh, 2016). Darney (2015), claims that authoritative parents are inclined to not be very responsive to their children and have high demands for their children.