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Substance Abuse And The Active Substance Abuser

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Unbeknownst to many addicts and alcoholics, is the silent suffering of their loved ones as they struggle to cope with the misadventures of the active substance abuser. Unfortunately, many people in this situation may feel alone and lost when it comes to the pathway to recovery. Not only for the addict or alcoholic, but a course of action that can give back some semblance of control and peace to the spouse. Sadly, the odds are never in favor for either of the two parties involved; however, people determined to salvage their connection with a loved one may yet be able to do so. Substance abuse of a loved one can be a near impossible situation to manage; whether intimacy problems, unmet living responsibilities and/or co-dependency issues …show more content…

Sexual intercourse or palpable affection are but two, albeit very critical, factors that play to the healthy levels of physical intimacy shared by a couple. Unfortunately, when a spouse abuses substances a whole litany of side-effects can occur. For starters, the non-alcoholic spouse may be generally less attractive due to their significant others behavior. Also, the libido of either a man or a woman are adversely impacted by chronic substance abuse. Lastly, desire may be there for both parties, but male addicts and alcoholics may experience some degree of erectile dysfunction. Other than the obvious endorphins, dopamine and other “feel-good” chemical reactions that naturally occur when two people engage in sexual congress, couples that fall short in this part of a relationship may feel additional frustration and inadequacies that tie into a deeper emotional intimacy concern. Secondly, emotional intimacy is for most couples the far more important tie that will make or break many relationships. After all, couples spend a majority of their time connecting on levels other than sex. Respect, trust, value and other feelings create bonds that will dictate the success of a relationship. Alcohol and drugs are effective in their means to distort and inhibit emotional connections. For the substance abuser, the priority first and foremost is how to get that next drink or drug. This is a tough pill to swallow for most loved ones, as they may

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