Our society is currently in a state where there seems to be chaos everywhere we look. In the book, Choosing Civiliy, Dr. Forni talks about civility related notions that people believe create civility. From this list I believe consideration, listening, and peace would create a more civil community.
I think of someone being considerate if the person stops and thinks about their actions before they actually do it. I believe that being more considerate would prevent arguments from happening, and then lead to a more friendlier community. Dr. Forni says in his book that people can succeed if they focus on respect, restraint, and responsibility; being considerate would make people succeed, according to Dr. Forni.
Listening is another notion that would make people more civil towards each other. I've noticed that if someone is actually listening to what another has to say it creates a better relationship. When we listen, we are being aware of another person's ideas, beliefs, problems, and concerns. This is a great way to be more civil to others because it would make it much easier to be courteous, respectful, and responsible to others. If someone believes in an idea, but I think it's wrong, I can still be respectful and courteous by not devaluing what another has to say. Instead, accept their beliefs so that, that person can respect your beliefs.
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In order for a place to be peaceful there shouldn't be any disturbances that could create a havoc to others. Creating a calm environment would also make others respectful and responsible because they wouldn't be bothering other people. Another thing that Dr. Forni wrote was, if we burden others then we don't feel good about ourselves. People can't create a better quality of life for themselves if they continuously upset others in the process, according to Dr.
In daily life showing respect is easy. For example, holding the door for someone and not letting it slam in their face, giving up your seat on the bus to the elderly or someone else who needs it, or by simply ignoring an opinion that may differ from ours instead of berating the original poster on why they are wrong. With a little bit of respect for one another we can all make the world a better place for everyone that lives on Earth.
It is important to allow someone to know that you respect them. It will ease the conversation and create trust. Behavior and attitude will allow the person demanding respect to feel that respect. When we respect each other, there are fewer conflicts. People get along easier and avoid the unnecessary drama associated with a lack of respect.
Twenty-five established rules allowed the doors of comprehension and the ability to personally relate and reflect to the authors’ view-points to open. As each of these rules plays a defining role in understanding the ability to practice civility, each rule is also a key component in assimilating how to improve on your meditation skills; understand what civility and mediation represent, Forni makes a solid statement that intertwines the two: “if anything, these rules may feel like a “longcut,” since civility requires work and dedication. But they do offer a path to serenity and contentment” (M., 2002, p.41). Since civility and mediation share multiple common grounds and house a wide variety of rules, three will be singled out in which I have found, the most beneficial to my own personal growth and understanding.
Civility is manners. Doing simple behaviors like not chewing with one’s mouth open while eating or holding doors open for others can be considered as simple acts of civility. In the two essays “What is Civility?” by P.M. Forni and “Play with Your Food, Just Don’t Text” by Sara Rimer, they discuss civility. In Forni’s essay, he discusses civility from a teacher’s stand point, and Rimer focuses on technology and how it leads to a lack of civility in a lot of homes worldwide. Although they have two different stand points, they both focus on the similar aspect of civility being significant. Civility is important because it allows Americans to get along with each other by showing simple actions of courtesy, having manners, and being polite.
Respect is an important element in effective communication, and the development of a relationship. Actively listening to another person’s point of view or opinion, remembering personal details, showing an interest and responding in an appropriate manner, all show that you have listened and placed importance upon what has been said, which leads to positive relationships and respectful, effective communication.
Being considerate toward everybody and everything is the ideal goal that everybody hopes to achieve. Though the idea of being considerate is different depending on the person so reaching that point in the world is impossible to achieve since there is no baseline for that, we have many competing ideas as to what that could be. Some people see being considerate as being thoughtful of other people but others will see it as a deeper meaning with being courteous toward all living things on Earth and their belongings. There are so many different ways to be considerate and the readings of David Foster Wallace, Jessica Mittford, and Caitlin Doughty all have underlying messages of how people need to be more aware of what they are doing. Each piece
However also, Strengths of being respectful are might be improve a person 's relationships with all kinds of people. It keeps clash away, you 'll have a good repute, it makes people happy, you will be seen as a role model for others, and you are seen as the bigger person.
Law and order is a synonym for peace; however often to obtain peace law and order must be broken. Though this is true, peace is not all encompassing. Not only can peace can be found in some parts of life and lacking in others, but peace has many types that affect each part of daily life. A Separate Peace by John Knowles explores the relationship between external and internal peace. When external societal peace is disrupted people become willing to commit a kind of suicide by breaking the rules in an effort to obtain inner peace.
In most instances, my interactions with others were limited, and I operated as a complete observer. With the exception of the woman annoyed with the children getting her wet, all other observations were enjoyable. Perhaps being in such a peaceful and beautiful place brings out the friendliness and warmth in most people. None of the people I observed were much different from each other, besides some people were younger or older. However, each individual had clearly chosen a wonderful place to relax and enjoy. My observations have led me to consider that being in a peaceful environment can have an immense effect on behavior and
I think that in general, many of our problems can be solved with mutal respect. Without this principle, people might walk all over you, take advantage of you, not give credit where credit is due, and all a whole host of other dishonest things. Outside of the work place, as well, I think this principle needs to take form as it is essential for cohabitation and mutual understanding,
Stopping and holding the door for that extra couple of minutes, for someone coming behind you. Even something like allowing a mother with a child and two things in her hands to cut in front of you and your cart full at the store. Thoughtfulness is also about putting peoples feeling into consideration. Just because I don't want to be a mother, does not mean that I go around to mothers rubbing it in their faces that I will have more freedom than they will have. When working in a grocery store and a customer ask where something is, walking them to the product will show that you care and it is also your responsibility to make sure that the customer is
Why is peace good? Peace allows a nation to prosper because peace offers stability within all aspects of a nation. And generally, makes all the citizens lives better as peace dissipates the fear of crime and war.
Where there is no respect, there is no peace. We can not coexist as American people if we do not learn how to treat each other with a certain level of common decency. One of the biggest problems in society is a lack of respect for human life, authority, and other people’s views. By changing our perspective on the importance of respect, American people will be able to live in paradise. Merriam-Webster’s definition of respect is simply, “A feeling or understanding that something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way.” (Merriam-Webster 1) Treating others with respect starts with realizing that we are all created as individuals. Even though we all might be different, it is crucial that we can
explains, "Just as "war" is not necessarily bad, so "peace" is not necessarily good. The
When coming across people who have total different opinions from mine, I always act respectfully. For example, at school, we have to do many team projects; most often, team members may come from total different cultural background, and thus always have different opinions about the same thing. Being respectful to other students, I am well-mannered, using appropriate language, opening to criticisms, and conducting myself professionally. If everyone knows how to respect to others and act respectfully to each other, we will easily to get along with each other and thus there be more happiness and less conflict in our society, so we will make the world a better place.