I believe that our actions and thoughts can and can not influence our future. We also can shape the things that happen to us and we are responsible for our own actions. In the biography, “Without A Map” by Meredith Hall, it tells a story about a young girl who grew up bonded to her insular New Hampshire community and comforted by the hallmarks of belonging. She had perfect attendance in Sunday school, classmates who seemed more like cousins, teachers who held her up as a model student, and a mother who loved her unconditionally. Then at sixteen, she became pregnant, and all at once those who had held her close and kept her safe turned their backs on her. The same day that Meredith was expelled from school, her mother told her “You can’t stay …show more content…
Meredith’s mother had told her, when she first found out that she was pregnant, that she no longer wanted to be seem with her daughter in the town because she was very ashamed of her and was disappointed. No matter how many times Meredith said she was sorry or apologize for what she had done her mother would not forgive her. Throughout the book, Hall tries to understand the terrible betrayal of her parents' love, a love bordered by conditions. In her story she explains how her father left her when she was little and the father had cheated on her mom with another women. Nothing had been the same ever since that incident. She explains that once she was done in the hospital she, “left the baby in the hospital for someone else to claim and walked out into the day.” She felt guilty, of course, but she had to do what is best for her because she was only 16. Meredith could not determine if she was going to get pregnant or not and she could not determine her struggles, they just came to her, but she handled everything that was thrown at her. As she grew older and more mature she was able to choose what she wanted to do with her …show more content…
She struggles because her father also has kicked her out of his house. She struggles to find herself and is lost in society. At one point in her life she was homeless and begging for food and selling her clothes and personal belongings for necessities. Meredith comes to her common senses and returns back home to start a life for herself At an older age of 30 she had to care of her mom because she had multiple sclerosis and was very worried about her, but sadly she died in her 40’s. When Meredith was 30 she met her son that she gave up for adoption, when they met there was no emotion. She found out his name was Paul and he grew up in poverty with an abusive father, it was a very important part in her life because they were finally able to meet and connect with each other. She never finished her senior year of high school, but she gets a second chance. She’s with other misfits and feels at home, during this stage she starts to find herself. She then is becoming old and weary and finds a cabin in her hometown in the wilderness. She seeks silent refuge within
In the contemporary society, there are an increasing number of people paying great attention to child’s behavior. At the same time, a hot debate has also appeared, revolving around this topic. Some people believe that child’s behavior is a reflection of their home life. However, in the story “Burn Yours Maps”, was written by Robyn Joy Leff, he totally disagrees with this point. In his story, the protagonist, Wes wants to be a Mongolian and imagines his life as a nomad Mongolian. This idea from him doesn’t come from his family, neither from his mother nor father. None is Mongolian in Wes’s family, even his grandpa Firth was telling stories to Wes, but he never referred to Mongolian. It is clearly to see that Wes, himself wants to be a Mongolian without any reflection of his family. Leff uses two points of view and an emotional writing technique to support his arguments. The most important point is that the conflict between three main characters through the whole story. Wes’s father, Connor wants to prevent him to be a Mongolian and his mother, Allies kind of understands her son and tying to persuade Conner and protect Wes in her own way at the same time. Leff also uses conversation between Conner and Allies to express that Wes’s behavior is not reflection form them. In the end, Leff uses his unique emotion writhing technique to show that even Wes’s parents are not support him to be a Mongolian, he still insists his own idea to be what kind of person that he wants
Choices, the story writen by Susan Kerslake is about how the choices that we make everyday affect who we are and how our life can change by making the wrong decission. But is it always a bad decission? is it always our fault?
She was not happy in the state that she was in and not feeling safe where she was living. She sought out her family an friends to help her get through this. Wes quotes in the book ,” And finally, I want to show them that I wasn’t alone as I thought I was, and that maybe they are not alone either”(Moore 4).Over time she met a great husband and had loving children. Her kids got opportunities she always hoped they would. Without her hope that time would fix almost all problems, not of this would have
We all have two choices in life: to live life joyfully or despondently. The choices we make define our future, which
Meredith feels that all of the family members interfere by ganging up on her to render her relationship with Everett as null and void. The family perceives Meredith’s presence as an interference to the purpose of the family gathering; especially the mother, who wanted to utilize the occasion to talk to the family about her terminal illness. However, Ben, sympathizing with Meredith after she gives out Christmas gifts to the family members, gets her to relax and hang loose by getting her drunk at a town pub. She finds herself in his ability to be sensitive and non-judgmental toward her (The Family Stone, Bezucha, 2006).
However, with her alcoholic dad who rarely kept a job and her mother who suffered mood swings, they had to find food from her school garbage or eat expired food they had previously when they had the slightest bit of money. In addition, when bills and mortgage piled up, they would pack their bags and look for a new home to live in, if they could even call it a stable home, since they would be on the move so often. Jeanette needed a dad who wouldn’t disappear for days at a time, and a mom that was emotionally stable, but because she didn’t have that, she grew up in an environment where she would get teased or harassed for it. Jeanette suffered so much, that even at one point, she tried convincing her mother to leave her father because of the trouble he had caused the family already. A child should be able to depend on their parents for food and to be there for them when they need it, and when that part of a child’s security is taken away, it leaves them lost and on their own, free and confused about what to do next.
Our choices influence how we live and how people see us, whatever decision we make impacts not only us, but our family as well. To start off, in the movie Forrest Gump directed by Robert Zemeckis, Forrest the main character is in love with his best friend, but when he goes to marry her, she puts him down. When Forrest asks Jenny to marry him and that he would make a good husband and she responds with “you would, Forrest” and then continues to say you don’t want to marry me. – Here Forrest is hurt that the love of his life does not want to be with him, but she is only hurting him because she is afraid of commitment and afraid to let him down. She loved him, but knows she cannot commit to something she
Our circumstances do not determine our lives. Instead, our lives are determined by our choices. That is not to say that our lives are not impacted by the country in which we were born, the family which we were born to, or the tragedies which touched our lives. We are given a choice of how we respond to those things, and the power of choice means that the lessons and value of our lives is not determined by outside influences, but instead it is determined by our reaction to those influences.
As the author said, sometimes the fate can be changed by choice you make. It encourages the reader that it is always possible to change and fix destinies before it is too late. One important quote that the author wrote is, “This book is meant to show us how... our destinies can be determined by a single stumble down the wrong path , or a tentative step down the right one." (Moore xiv).
“We are our choices,” French Philosopher Jean Paul Sartre once said. Everything that happens throughout life is due to a decision made by an individual. That being said, all choices made by an individual have different possible consequences. These consequences will have a cause and an effect. Wes Moore, the author of The Other Wes Moore, explores this idea throughout his entire book. Wes Moore makes a point to show us that a character’s environment, education, and life goals are what guided them to make the choice that determined their fate. In the letter to myself, I used this quote, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place; it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me or nobody is going to hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit, it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward” (Rocky Balboa). This quote relates to Jean Paul Sarte’s quote because it tells us that we are our choices, and the choices we make are what will determine whether or not you will have successes or failures in life. The quote by Rocky Balboa relates to another quote from Wes Moore, “I sat back, allowing Wes's words to sink in. Then I
To what degree can an individual’s choices and actions influence the direction of his or her life?
“Choosing a Map for Life,” by M. Scott Peck, “The Allegory of the Cave,” by Plato, The Truman Show and “Salvation” by Langston Hughes describe the true reality in our world. They make us think about wherever that is true or false. Also, in order to find the truth, we have to get out, discover the world around and revise it.
It is found to be true, that the life you are born into is usually accompanied by a particular future. For example, the rich white kid who lives across the street will go to a fancy college, get a high paying job, and marry someone beautiful to ensure the process continues with his children. The person who is living two houses down however, is struggling to pay rent and put food on the table, they know that their kids futures don’t look nearly as properuss. Like all theories though, this is not set in stone. In Maya Angelou's book I know Why The Caged Bird Sings, we the readers are shown that circumstance does not always dictate future success, rather it’s the drive and passion of an individual that does.
Walter is upset about what Mama has done. She chose to fulfill her dream of a owning a home over anyone else’s dream.