Teacher Versus Parent : Parenting Gone Wrong !

In Ripley’s book and in some interviews, she talks about how there was a drastic change in the mid 1990’s and early 2000’s. Due to an economic boom, an overall low level of unemployment with a high level of happiness, parents began focusing on kids and their wellbeing. Over time when a child wasn’t learning, it was the teachers fault not the child’s, while parents didn’t want their children having hours of tedious homework every night. This led to less homework and less responsibility on the child’s part. What parents need to realize is school needs to be taken seriously, and if America is going to improve, they need to be supportive of their child encouraging them to take on the challenge of

The Essential Conversation: what parents and teachers can learn from each other, written by Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot, focuses in on the “essential” discussion that occurs between parents and teachers when it comes to a child’s education and life while looking further into the hidden meanings behind this exchange. Lawrence-Lightfoot describes how often times the dialogue that occurs between parents and teachers has hidden undertones such as anxiety along with parental ghosts from the past along with several other trajectories that may impact how effectiveness of parent and teacher discussion/collaboration. The theme of Lawrence-Lightfoot’s book can best be summed up in a quote she shared about parent-teacher conferences; “Beneath the polite surface

Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.

In this case there is only one teacher and about 30 students. Parents also have to worry about the safety of their child in a public school. Parents have no accountability for their child's actions. Not even voluntarily. Too often a child will get into trouble for something at school with a teacher, get seriously injured, or be getting into a fight with another peer, and the only thing the parents want to know is, "Where the teacher was and what were they doing?"

Julie Lythcott-Haims explains to us all what a perfect child is; straight A student, fabulous test scores, gets homework done without parents asking them to do it… She has the right idea, the right mindset of a parent, every parent wants their child to succeed in life. The way that parents are parenting their children is messing them up. They don’t have a chance to become themselves, they are too focused on whether they did good on that test that they were stressing about for a week, they are too worried about getting the best grade to be able to get accepted into the biggest name colleges around. The parents become too consumed with hovering over their children making sure that they are doing flawlessly in school, the parents are directing their every single move they make. The children then began to think that their parents love comes from the good grades. Then they start making this checklist; Good grades, what they want to be when they grow up, get accepted into good colleges, great SAT scores, the right GPA, the jock of the sports team.

Next, When students fail in school, teachers don’t bother to care nor to help because it was the student's decision to fail, although having parents jump in to the students problems; no matter what they will always support because the parents want the best out of him/her student. Also, parents look out for their child in the education challenges that gets to them. For example, Karther, Diane E. Lowden, Frances Y states,”Despite their own low school achievement, many parents value education, believing it to be a pathway to success for their children”(41). Parents are good reason why student tend to succeed in school after getting in the way of struggling by failing a class. One good reason that students will tend to focus in school and get a good passing grade is getting told by parents at home to do homework if not value electronics gets taken away. Teachers have limited control of students lives, so

Bruni quotes the President of the National Center on Education, Marc Tucker, “ Our students have an inflated sense of their academic prowess.They don’t expect to spend much time studying, but they confidently expect good grades and marketable degrees”(par.25). From a young age we need to teach these children you succeed from hard work. Many parents have been exempting their children from test and are expecting them to learn? In order for kids to be able to learn what they need to, parents need to allow them to deal with the difficult times.

It is instilled in most parents to defend their young with that being said, parents should listen to both sides of the story before assuming that the teacher was wrong in their actions. Parents+ Teachers= A successful student. Another problem with parents not teaming up with teachers is the fear of being called a “bad parent”.

Let’s get it straight: schools are failing because of the people who work in them, not because of parents like you. The truth is that one factor - teacher effectiveness - has the greatest impact on student performance” This quote couldn’t have been said better. During one of our class periods we watched a video on Dr. Steve Perry and his capital prep magnet school. Afterwards, we discussed the ways in which he interacted with his students and the effects of having an uninvolved principle versus an involved principle. My peers recalled previous principles of theirs and it correlated to what he’s saying in the above quote. Those principles who actually showed interest in students and attempted to connect with them had schools with a lower dropout

Many individuals expect that parents or guardians feel their children are acknowledged, protected and secured while being taken care by their teachers and it would be impossible for their children to wind up clearly illogically included with his or her own teachers until the point that a case uncover a sixth grade teacher named Mary K. Letourneau have an association with her 12 year old student named Vili Fualaau. Mary Kay Letourneau's case transformed into a parent's most exceedingly dreadful bad dream where guardians feel shaky of their youngsters in school. Wrong connections between the teacher and a student have ended up being a champion among the most surely understood self evident aptitude issues in the present society, in any case, this case has some immense segments that take it to the exceptional. How could something like this can happen?

72). For some student, although this type of relationship may help them excel through school, not having that at home or in their life at all. Lastly is “not much can be accomplished by changing the behavior of kids who aren’t taught to act right at home” (Englehart, 2012, p. 72). Everyone knows that with kids most of the time the parents are the most important teacher in their life and the one who is in it more than anyone else. It is important to note that just because a teacher may think a student is behaving badly doesn’t mean that they think it is that bad of behavior. When dealing with children they reflect their home life, so when they get away with something at home or get to do something at home it doesn’t make it a correct behavior. This does not mean that the child was raised poorly, it just shows that every parent had his or her own parenting style and that is okay. It is up to the teacher to show the student that there is a certain way you should act in settings to a degree. Also that the student must show respect when dealing with individuals who are trying to help them in their

In an article published by The Daily Caller entitled “Parents and students are to blame for failing schools” (10 December, 2010), JM Arcano denounces parents and students for their role in America’s failing education system. He justifies this condemnation by highlighting many parents’ weaknesses when it comes to preparing their children for school, such as not providing the necessary foundation required by formal education, and by addressing that despite the typically scapegoated politicians and teachers, securing a proper education ultimately lies with the parents and their children’s determination, as politicians’ best efforts (NO Child Left Behind, Head Start, Race to the Top) cannot fully satisfy students’ real needs. Arcano’s purpose is

You hear children of all ages complaining about having to go back to school after summer break, or not wanting to complete their homework. The problem is that these children do not understand how incredibly lucky they are to be able to receive an education and to receive all of the knowledge teachers are trying to give them with the daily lesson. Many children in the countries

Elizabeth Kolbert’s article describes the reality of spoiled children; they do not learn how to cope with anything or assume any responsibilities, as parents are the ones who let the children rule the household. When children are not in the hands of their parents or caretakers, they are in the hands of teachers. Teachers have to establish the authority in the classroom; if they do not, children will assume their authority as they may do over their parents. In addition, the students outnumber the teacher and can develop their authority accordingly.

Written eighty years ago, these same ideals of parental involvement in education ring true today and are the basis for educational goals in involving parents in their child’s education.