How many times have you read or been told that in order to keep yourself accountable to your goals, that you should announce them to the people around you?
This is something that we see in many books and articles and we see people following this information as they post their goals on social media. However, how many times do we actually see them accomplish these goals?
New studies are actually showing that announcing your goals is one of the worst things that you can do if you really want to achieve them.
Why?
The reason is because of naysayers. Those people who do not want to see you succeed for whatever reason.
I spoke briefly about these people in the previous chapter. They are the people who do not want to believe in you, they do not
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That scares them.
How to Deal with Naysayers
The fact is that you are not going to change the people around you. There is no way for you to make them believe in you.
However, you can change yourself and how you deal with the negativity that they bring into your life.
The first thing that you need to remember is that you more to yourself than you do to the naysayers. What is it that you owe these people, which is forcing you to prove them right?
Really think about what I am saying. These people do not pay your bills, they do not raise your children and they are not in control of anything in your life. Remaining in a situation where you are unhappy just to make them happy seems a little silly.
Ask yourself, what could they lose by you finding happiness and reaching your goals.
These people might even try to convince you that you are fine just the way that you are in order to stop you from making the changes that you want to make. You see, they are stealthy, most of them won’t make it obvious that they are trying to hold you back, but instead will try to convince you that they care about you, just as you are.
It is important for you to remember that these people need for you to fail. You see, if you fail, they can continue to tell themselves that there is no point in trying to get healthy because if you weren’t successful they won’t be either.
It is just another way for them to come up with an excuse, a reason that they shouldn’t worry about their
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