The Importance Of Forgiving People

Forgiveness is what holds and brings relationships together. If you stay angry for long, your heart stubbornly hardens. But if you choose to forgive, you will be filled with the grace of God. We are all sinners and should never carry a

Life has ups and downs, it may stab you in the back, but it’s a choice to forgive and forget about it. Forgiveness is something that helps people move on. For every person, the word forgiveness has a different meaning, for me it means leaving behind actions from my past. Personally, I like to think that forgiveness is a way to start over whether in a friendship or in life. If the opportunity presented itself to me to explain the word, forgiveness, to someone I would simply reply that it is the idea of setting yourself free from all the hate one has been holding.

Forgiveness is very important throughout life. If people don't forgive, they are going to be stuck in the past always remembering about the mistake that person did. Forgiving someone can make yourself feel better because you know you forgave that person and there's no negativity between you and that person.

You have to question whether you are forgiving the person because they are sorry and you are capable of moving forward or you are forgiving them because you are still left with some feeling of attachment and that’s what is holding you back. For example, in the memoir, Jennette continued to forgive her parents particularly because they were her parents and her blood. That got her nowhere. She was left in an endless circle of forgiving yet receiving the same mannerism back. However, once Jeannette decided enough was enough, she moved to New York City, away from her parents, began accomplishing her goals and overall Jeannette became so much more liberated. This example goes to show my point exactly. Forgiving and forgetting will leave you with too many toxic people in your life. You must know when to set an endpoint and cut people out of your life because it will benefit

The challenges are over lapped on top of each other, which is tougher to forgive someone that is so greatly connected to you, but learning that this person will always love you is a thought we should all keep in our minds. In the novel The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls is faced with the daunting challenge of having to forgive her father. Jeannette’s relationship with her father, Rex Walls, is not the finest. As Jeannette grows up she starts to lose faith in her father because of his alcoholism is affecting the family emotional and financially, because most of the time he spends his money on booze. It was hard for Jeannette to realize that she had no love for her father, but still forgive him for his mistakes and find a way to welcome him to her heart. Jeannette forgives her father when she tries to learn how to swim and her father dropped her into the water when she almost drowned. She forgives him and thinks of his purpose of inspiring her to learn. Jeannette thought to herself “I figured he must be right, there was no other way to explain it”. At the end of the story when Jeannette and she father meet for the last time she forgives him for “all the hell raising and destruction and chaos he created in her life”. She says “I could not imagine what my life would have be like- without him in it. As awful as he could be, I always knew he loved me in a way no one else ever had”. Therefore, you

Elizabeth and I both have trouble forgiving. Elizabeth's husband, John committed adultery. This hurt her a lot. As John tried to say sorry and make up for it Elizabeth could not forget about ir and forgive him. I was the same way over a couple of things.

Forgiveness is a voluntary process and only time can heal all wounds. Scratch that- time won’t heal all wounds and forgiving someone is totally and completely up to you. When stating that forgiveness is “voluntary,” it simply means that one is forgiving someone at their own free will. The question is “why? why must we forgive someone after doing something so awful?” The answer might be complex. In the book “Picking Cotton” by Jennifer Thompson-Cannino, Ronald Cotton and Erin Torneo, and in the book “Beauty for Ashes” written by Joyce Meyer, forgiveness is portrayed as a big role. Each person goes through their own struggles and eventually has to forgive someone or be forgiven by someone.

We forgive for our own good, not for the people who have hurt us. We should never be held prisoner by the people who hurt us. That is what happens when we choose to not forgive and choose to hold grudges. Being unforgivable soon turns into bitterness. That bitterness will eat at your heart and soul. Being able to forgive does not by any means imply that we are weak. It is actually showing ourselves and others how strong we are. Do not wait to forgive those who have hurt you. If you wait to forgive until you feel the time is right, it will never happen. Simply because there is no “right time.” Remember, forgiving is not easy and never will it be. Yes, it is easy to say “I forgive you.” The hard part of it all is to genuinely mean it. If you become so wrapped up in holding a grudge, all you see it hurt and anger. You are missing what is important. Such as the present and all the joyful happiness that comes along life. The Holocaust was one of the worst things that has ever happened over time. Yet, some people have managed to forgive the horrible crimes that they endured. In The Fault in Our Stars, Hazel at first had a hard time forgiving Peter Van Hoten for being so rude to her and Augustus. He was her favorite author and he completely let her down by being so rude to her. She was very angry but didn’t hold a grudge against him for

Forgiving is not always the answer. For example, Professor James K. McNulty found that “partners who forgave their partner easily were almost twice as likely to be mistreated soon after” (qtd. In Bedrick). Forgiveness is not the right answer if forgiving is just going to get that person hurt again.

Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and waiting for someone else to die. I have heard that saying a million times and now I get it. The past couple of years of my brothers and my relationship has been pretty rough. He went to boarding school when I was in fifth grade and since he left, our relationship gradually deteriorated to virtually nothing because I did not want anything to do with him. It got to the point where I did not talk to him unless I absolutely had to and I chose to ignore the fact that he even existed. In the past year, all of that disfunction started to bother me. I was angry at him and did not even care about having a relationship so I ignored that feeling of guilt for a long time.

Forgiving somebody once can make forgiving easier the next time. If the betrayal is expected, it will not surprise the betrayed as much, and therefore lessen the

“Get over it! Don’t allow bitterness, resentment, and animosity to hold you back. God sees every wrong that has been done unto us. Likewise, He sees every wrong we have done unto others. Stop reliving the negative. We must forgive, in order that we are forgiven. Although we can’t change the past, we can position ourselves for a brighter future. It may be challenging to do, but the beauty it will give your heart is a remarkable feeling of comfort. Forgive and allow God to restore your serenity and flood your life with unspeakable joy.” - Debra S. Clark

Forgiveness is a hard thing to give because forgiveness of another human being involves having you to forgive yourself. It seems a lot easier to withhold forgiveness and remain a victim. The forgiveness that I have given away or I have received has shaped who I am today, therefore becoming a part of me.

Some of the hurt feelings are so deeply rooted in our hearts to an extend you feel forgiveness is not an option. There is hope when you

Sitting on my bed as I put lotion on, legs swinging, head swaying, as I listen to the sounds coming from the boom box. He walks in and rubs my hair, I looked up and smiled with my mind at peace, not knowing that my life will be changed forever. Paul Boese once said, “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it enlarges the future.” It took me some time to understand Mr. Boese; when I became a mature adult, I realized he was saying a lot with just a few words. Forgiveness helps your trust, attitude, and furthermore your entire outlook on life. I wish I could take back the day it all first started but I have moved on while still forgiving.