The Importance Of Romantic Love

After reading the chapter “Romantic Communication in Intimate Relationships: The Romantic Construal Model”, I was left with a lot of new knowledge. The Romantic Construal Model, which identifies how people judge romantic acts via personalization, specialness and conveyed value, is something that I had never heard of before and enjoyed learning about, but like with any new concept I was left with lots of questions as well as relations to other things I have previously learned. For this thought paper my question that I am going to address is why are certain types of communication more valuable to romantic intimate relationships than others?

The biggest mistake individuals build once it involves finding love is: They believe a relationship goes to complete them.

The triangular theory of love suggests that love can be interpreted in terms of three components which together can be viewed as forming the vertices of a triangle. The three components are firstly intimacy the top vertex of the triangle, secondly passion the left vertex of the triangle, and lastly commitment the right vertex of the triangle (Robert J. Steinberg n.d.). The first component in the triangular theory of love is intimacy. What is intimacy? How does it affect a relationship? Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, about being able to let your guard down, and let him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about being able to accept and share in your partner's feelings, about being there when he/she wants to let their

According to “A Triangular Theory of Love,” the intimacy component of love is the “emotional investment of love” it is “feelings of liking, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness in loving relationships” (Sternberg, 1985; Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2016). In other terms, this is the feeling experienced toward, and or, with another person, in which, you are emotionally invested in the relationship. Examples would include caring and emotionally investing oneself into the other person and the relationship. Couples with a intense intimate relationship adore each other’s companionship, frequently sharing personal information about how the person is feeling or doing. Lastly, passion is the emotion feeling of being significant and appreciated in the relationship. Additionally, it is having, accepting, and sharing feelings for the other person. It is selflessness, for example, enduring pain when an individual hurts their spouse’s feelings, or sharing joy with a spouse during exhilarating times, it is caring about the other person’s feelings. In addition, this component of love includes, the “enduring feeling of warmth in a loving relationship” (Sternberg, 1985). In healthy relationships, couples ought to be able to converse freely during arguments or about personal issues. The individual should be felt cared for and craved by their significant other. Furthermore, according to Social Psychology, intimacy is “feeling free to talk about anything, supportive, and understanding”

As a young Greek student in the late 300s BCE I would have liked how Plato said “Let your lover change you”. He was inferring that the person you need to get together with should have very good qualities which you yourself lack. I think that this is a very good idea because it can help you become somewhat like they are which can help us as individuals grow together. I feel like this can help a relationship not get to a peak, there will always be room to build together in which you won’t ever be bored of your significant other.

1862 England (Victorian Era) was somewhat of an uptight society, especially compared to today. The majority of people, especially those in the upper class, were expected to be utmostly prim and proper and follow societal norms at all times. This included love, or what love was defined as during the period. George Meredith, in his poem aptly titled “Modern Love”, sets a scene where a husband and wife are sleeping side by side, both reflecting sorrowfully on their melancholy marriage. Meredith argues in this poem that the institution of modern love is inherently flawed, by exposing to the reader that while the husband and wife still care for each other, they want to leave each other because they are both scared of “modern love”. By doing so, Meredith is able to justify his overarching message that applies to all: love is a feeling that cannot be artificially replicated, and attempting to do so is only a detriment.

All relationships have their ups and downs, but what happens when you fall into a place where it seems like your platonic, romantic, and every other kind of relationship all got jammed together at the bottom? The play Taming of the Shrew and the movie 10 Things I Hate About You both show us forced takes on love and how it works to influence the dynamics between family members like Katherine and Bianca or romantic partners much like Petruchio and Katherine. On most occasions, not meeting each other on the same page or even trying to understand one another leads to the mess that is this kind of hard love.

I still remember the turning point for me, very clearly. Obviously not the details of the moment, but the feeling that

One boundless power in our universe is the power of love, which rips down barriers and creates a world where everything is in harmony. Love’s immense strength can be portrayed throughout literature. In Shakespeare's play, Romeo and Juliet, and John Green’s book, Fault in Our Stars, the theme that love overpowers everything is conveyed throughout the pages. In Shakespeare’s play, two-star crossed lovers fall in love despite the quarrel of their families. In John Green’s book, two cancer-stricken teenagers fall in love despite their limitations. The theme of love overpowering everything is evident in both stories through the external conflicts that failed to prevent their love, the lovers going great lengths to see each other, and deaths of the other lover.

"The History of Love" by Nicole Krauss follows three main characters' journey of life and love. As the story progresses the three characters' lives intertwine, helping to progress the narrative. Throughout the story Krauss introduces various themes in order to create and bring depth to the story. One of the notable themes in this novel is how a consuming love can lead to loneliness in one's life. Krauss explores both love and loneliness in her novel and creates a story that

In a relationship, when you act in a negative way, your significant other may not appreciate your actions and threaten to end the relationship if you do not change. For example, if you are taking drugs, your boyfriend or girlfriend would want you to stop for the better. Your significant other’s actions have such a powerful impact on your life where you would do anything just to save the relationship. Although, by being in a relationship, feelings such as confidence and sympathy

The scientists discovered that when people are in a romantic relationship, the trend to interpret ambiguous situations slowly declines over time. While the level of cognitive was playing a critical role, partners were supported by each other. Finn (2014) explained that when the personality of a partner indirectly changed, feeling and experience would be positively gained since there is a change in the structures of thought and perception of probably negative situations simultaneously. In other words, instead of immediately having a pessimistic way on things, we can tackle our life confidently by love.

Throughout the world, there are numerous ways to express and show love to the ones we care about. However, what does love truly mean? There are numerous forms of love, but how can you define romantic love? People tend to agree and disagree about the definition of this type of love, and cannot come to a concise conclusion of what it means. Erich Fromm states that mature love includes: care, responsibility, respect, and knowledge. As I have interviewed people of different ages and marital status, I found that everyone who I had interviewed had a similar idea to what romantic love is. Nevertheless, those who have been married for over twenty years seemed to have a deeper knowledge of what love is than those who are young and single. Although

Many couples want a successful relationship that is also satisfying. Partners who are satisfied with their interactions tend to be satisfied with other non-romantic relationships (Emmers-Sommer, 514). As a response to ongoing interaction between partners, loving attitudes are formed and are shaped by personality types, and the past and existing relationship interactions (Meeks, Hendrick and Hendrick, ‘98).

I love books because my books love me back . In moments of distress literature guides me. When I am heavy hearted, I turn to my favorite novels, they reassure me that even in the worst situation good fate always wins . When I am lonely, I reacquaint myself with the safe and familiar characters that I have grew to love. When I am happy, I smile because I have lived the lives of warriors, enchantresses, and even the commonday person. Although the emotional connection between literature and myself is imperishable, there was a time in my life when that bond was nonexistent. However, for one to understand the significant impact stories have had on my life, one must know my life. Thus this story begins with my childhood. A conventional upbringing of sorts but of course my childhood doesn't begin with me. It begins with my parents. My parents met each other at high school when they were fourteen years old . Call it destiny, or mere luck, this one cue meet would define their lives for the next twenty two years. My parents fell quickly and passionately in love. Their devotion for one another as an imminent as their fallout, however, we are not there yet. We are at the bittersweet moments of young love. The moments that make one believe in eternity although these moments themselves cease to last just as long. My parents own version of forever welcomed a young little girl named Nicte Impala Perez on March 18th 1998. In that moment, my parents believed that the three of us could defeat