The Opening Dialogue Between Nene And Nnaemeka

Marriage is an important part of life of many modern societies. The institution of marriage was formed many centuries ago. While some of its aspects vary based on specific country or community, but the core is often the same – by contracting a marriage, both sides undertake specific commitments. Specifically, they promise to care about children that already exist or will appear in the family; or to be faithful to the partner. There is a serious problem with the second issue. Adultery is an event that was often mentioned by popular literature sources including the Bible. The poetry is not an exception. James Dickey and Anne Sexton focused on the topic in their poems “Adultery” and “For My Lover, Returning to His Wife” respectively. Authors described the theme from different points of view. Dickey highlights the considerable age of the practice and treats it as an inevitable evil. The adultery existed, exist and will continue to exist in the community. Sexton looks at the problem from the female point of view; her poem is written from the

I know what every colored woman in this country is doing.” … “Dying. Just like me. But the difference is they dying like a stump. Me, I’m going down like one of those redwoods. I sure did live in this world.” “Really? What have you got to show for it?” “Show? To who? Girl, I got my mind. And what goes on in it. Which is to say, I got me.” “Lonely, ain’t it?” “Yes. But my lonely is mine. Now your lonely is somebody else’s. Made by somebody else and handed to you. Ain’t that something? A secondhand lonely.” (Morrison,...). This is yet another example of how Nel doesn’t have an identity to call her own. This highlights the fact that Nel follows the crowd. Adding on, in Chapter 11 Nel visits Sula’s grandmother and Morrison verbalizes “Tell me how you killed that little boy.” … “The one you threw in the water. I got oranges. How did you get him to go in the water?” “I didn’t throw no little boy in the river. That was Sula.” “You. Sula. What’s the difference? You was there. You watched, didn’t you? Me, I never would’ve watched.” … “Why are you trying to make out like I did it?” Eva stopped ironing and looked at Nel. For the first time her eyes looked sane. “You think I’m guilty?” Nel was whispering. … “You ain’t answered me yet.” “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” “Just alike. Both of you. Never was no difference between you. Want

As a beginning of this film, a myth is told by the Nyinba people of Nepal: a story of fearsome spirits thought to kill children and the weak. Their crime was adulterous passionate love and it was this that had condemned them to live eternally between life and death. In this film, we learn about and explore marriages in tribal societies. We can clearly identify the differences that challenge both side’s ideas and sensibilities about marriage bonds.

In the beginning of the story Nea saw the world differently from how her mother and her sister see it. Nea didn't know much of the world but the one she knows of where she had grown up in. During the story Nea tries to understand why Sourdi made the choices Nea thought it was wrong. For example in May-Lee Chai story Nea tries to save Sourdi from being harassed, she thought she was doing the right thing by trying to stab the man that was bothering Sourdi, but instead Sourdi and her mother got mad at Nea for trying to save her. The

Back in the eighteenth century, marriage was seen as a business contract without considering love as the main reason for any relationship. According to Ingrid H. Tague, an assistant

This chapter revolves around the topic of marriage. John introduces us about marriage briefly and begins with a story. John met a man named Fernando, a man in which lost his wife recently, walking down the street with beer on his back. Now when one reads this one can assume that Fernando is going somewhere to “drink away” his problems. Drink away the pain that has been left for him after his wife's death. However Fernando had beer with the intent of finding another woman. Generally, when one have lost his wife/husband in our society, that individual would take time to mourn over the loss and to gather himself. Meaning to heal that pain it requires nothing but time. In the case of Nuyooteco people, one does not look at marriage solely as romance,

    In the time frame that this story is set, many major life decisions things are made taking into account one’s duty to family - including the selection of a husband or wife.  It is possible that each of these couples may not have been in love,  when their vows were stated.  They have a duty to society; they must not marry outside of their social class.  They have a duty to their family;

Mr. George, an ex-army trooper, got a letter from a Captain Hawdon that Tulkinghorn got by blackmail. The handwriting is Nemo's. Bucket gets rid of Jo because he ran his mouth a about his time with the veiled woman. Jo gets sick and is taken care of briefly by Jenny and Liz and they give him to Esther. He realizes Esther looks so much like the veiled woman, but thinks it’s his just his fever. Jarndyce takes Jo in, but the next morning he is gone and nowhere to be found.

Nene – fiancée and later the wife of Naemeka; she is from the Ibibio tribe. She has been educated at the university and is a school teacher. She is a modern young Nigerian woman who wants to be accepted by her husband’s father.

I don’t love her” (Achebe). Nnaemeka does however feel sorry that his father is affected by his decision. The narrator says, “Nnaemeka was deeply affected by his father’s grief” (Achebe). Although in modern culture people are allowed to marry whom they choose and love, in Nnaemeka’s culture that is not allowed. Absalom grieves over doing wrong and Nnaemeka does not feel wrong about his actions; therefore Absalom deserves forgiveness over

Therefore, the Ruan girl Nance should understand that the marriage which she wants may not be allowed by her father. In addition, although she was well prepared for her appearance during Samuel’s sermon, while she heard other people’s chats, she knew that the social status between her and Samuel are unmatched. Then, after the sermon, she pushes herself to forget Samuel. This behavior is logic.

In the story Marriage a private affair, Nene and Nnameka are planning to get married. Nnameka is faced with a difficult task by having to choose between his father who represents traditions, family values, honor, deprivation of his free will and his personality and Nene who represents love, trust, and complete freedom. By choosing Nene, Nnameka gets called a bad son and even “sick”. Is it wrong for a man to choose who he gets to spend the rest of his life with? Is it wrong for a man to have a say in whose face he gets to wake up next to every day?

It does not appear that Nigerian culture values survivors of domestic assault, as Nneka’s experiences remain secretive. Additionally, Nneka is forced to undergo sexist traditions of mourning, including shaving her head. Her luscious hair symbolizes her identity in the story, and the regrowth of it represents the prosperous, Okpala-free life she plans on creating. The text supports this idea, as Nneka states, “I shall regrow my hair. Nurture it and delight in its growth” (Unigwe 80). Nneka strives to overcome sexism in her society and allow her identity as an independent woman to flourish, two themes that are critical to the plotline of Orlando.

On his way home, Nnaemeka is thinking about how he is going to confront his father. The fact that he cares so much about his father’s reaction tells us that he has great respect for his father. We even see that he at one point feels kind of bad for his father, who has put an effort into finding a girl for him. This respect is also reflected in the conversation between Nnaemeka and his father. Nnaemeka finds it hard to tell his father about the situation with Nene, especially because of his father’s lack of understanding of which we see several examples through the text. A very good example is on page 2, line 14, when Nnaemeka wants to talk with his father about “the marriage question” and his father replies “Which marriage question?”. In this quote we see that in the father’s opinion Nnaemeka has no other option than to marry Ugoye, nothing needs to be discussed. Nnaemeka on the other hand, finds it impossible to marry someone that he does not love, but when he tells his father that he does not love Ugoye, he simply answers, “Nobody said you did. Why should you?”(p.2 l.19) at this point his father makes it clear that

There were many women, but they looked on from the fringe like outsiders" (Achebe 87). With the festivals, held in the public places, men presided and took the seats of honor in front. Women were forced to stand at the edges and look on from there because they simply weren't as important. It was the men who held the courts of justice and decided on punishment. Also, throughout the book, Achebe emphasizes the women's role in childbearing and their fault if the children are not born healthy. "Nneka has had four previous pregnancies and childbirths. But each time she had borne twins, and they had been immediately thrown away. Her husband and his family were already becoming highly critical of such a woman and were not unduly perturbed when they found she had fled to join the Christians. It was a good riddance" (Achebe 151). Because Nneka could no longer fulfill her role as a mother in Ibo society, she was no longer respected. She was not valued for her intelligence or her personality. She was valued by whether or not she could produce healthy children. Because she couldn't, she no longer had a place in her society.