This is an chapter by chapter summary of the book Becoming Attached, did it for extra credit

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Chapter 1: Mother-Love: Worst-Case Scenarios

The human need to have our mother near is the theory that is expressed in chapter one. Chapter one goes through a time line of how we, as humans, came across this theory. The author tends to talk about and describe how as babies the basic need to have mother around is just as important as having food, water, and clean diapers. The author gives examples of children who were adopted after infancy and children whom had to spend significant amounts of time away from their mothers during their infant years had suffered from infections and "hospitalism", and also severe depression and lonliness. Researchers such as Levy, Bender, Bakwin, Goldfarb, and Spitz had all published papers but very few in the
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I tend to think that maybe he had some hidden resentment towards his parents especially for sending him off to boarding school at such a young age. He is even quoted as saying he "wouldn't send a dog off to boarding school at that age."

Bowlby was later introduced to the idea that a parent's unresolved conflicts as a child were responsible for how a parent treated their children. The book gives a good example of a father or wrestled with the problem of masturbation all his life and how when his eight-year old son did it he would put his son under a "cold tap". Bowlby was looked down upon by his analytic superiors because it was not mainstream.

Another important idea in this chapter has to do with the Oedipus complex. Freud had many patients whom were hysterical and he blamed this on the molestation from parents, but later retracted this idea saying that it could have been just a fantasy that the patient believed. Could it be that this could be a biological disorder in the brain that blocks them from ever overcoming the Oedipus complex?

Chapter 3: Bowlby and Klein: Fantasy vs. Reality

This chapter discusses the views of Melanie Klein and how they differ from Bowlby's. Klein believed that the child had a love-hate relationship with its mother, but more so with its mother's breast. That the baby would have an on-going struggle with loving the very thing that gave it life and at the same time hating it and wanting to destroy it. She believed that the child would