Crawford (2012) described many difference characteristics in mate selection which may potentially lead to marriage. She first describes marriage as being institutionalized because the laws (and certain religions) tells you who you can and cannot marry, when you can marry, and the responsibilities to each other while married. Yet people are infatuated with the ideology of love and romance. People choose their partners as individuals and expect to live their marriages according to their own needs and wishes (Crawford, 2012). Something that can explain why people choose to get married can be the marriage gradient. The marriage gradient states that women have the tendency to “marry up” and men tend to “marry down” (Crawford, 2012). This came
The simplest and most basic foundation of a sociological civilization or group begins at the core center of sociology; which is marriage and the inner-fabric creation of a family. It is said that matches are made in heaven, however finding and defining your “soul mate” differs from one social group to the next. The social institution of marriage changes and adapts consistently through time, religious practice, and national beliefs. Many people believe they lead happy and satisfying lives without a marital partner, as others highly value and desire a life-long marital partner as the pinnacle achievement of their life.
Another theory is the Filter Model proposed by Kerchoff and Davis; they say that relationships develop through three ‘filters’. It starts with the ‘field of availables’ which are people available for a relationship where we then filter out different partners for different reasons, so it narrows down to a ‘field of desirables’ who are the people we consider as a potential partner. The first filter involves the social model where we choose people without being aware by where they live, work, have been educated or their social class. With individual characteristics not being important at this point. Then there is similarity of attitudes and values, where a partner’s beliefs and ideas come into effect. This is where communication is easier and the relationship can progress, however if beliefs and views are very different then the relationship may not move from its current position. The final filter is the emotional needs, which is whether the people fit as a couple and can meet each other’s needs.
Dating back to the early 1900’s and all the way through to the present, romantic relationships have been viewed differently. From strict unwritten dating regulations to not having regulations at all, recent generations have become more liberated in making their own decisions. The progressing times have made us become a more accepting society and have caused a decrease in the strong practice of religion and class. Even though differences such as religion and class in relationships were more than an issue they were not always a complete deterrence.
Everyone wants a partner who takes care and can do anything for him or her. Many times we see that people marry a different person in respect to their culture, race, religion, age, etc., and people wonder that why they marry or are in a relationship with different people. This has been explained in an article “Mixed relationship offers diversity “by Holly Nall. In the article Nall relates the diversity by her personal experience about her relationship. She also raised some points about the benefits of being in a relationship with different people. For example, one can learn about their culture, religion, etc. She presents her point of view mainly in pathos, but also some part of logos and ethos. This is merely significant as Nall wanted her readers to think deeply about society and marriages.
The five factors that predict interpersonal relationships are: proximity, familiarity, similarity, physical appearance, and reciprocity. Proximity refers to the geographical location of persons. People are more likely to initiate, engage, or maintain relationships if someone’s geographical location is near or convenient to the person they are to pursue. Relationships, whether romantic or platonic, are not as likely to be initiated if the proximity does not allow individuals to cross paths or maintain a certain level of communication. As well, familiarity plays an important role in the fostering of relationships. People are said to have an increased attraction and fondness for individuals that they see more often than those they do not. In lay terms, similarity can be summed up by saying that people enjoy the presence of those like (or similar) to them. Individuals are more often drawn to and feel less intimidated by others that share their culture and belief systems; thus, are more likely to form relationships with them. Next, is physical attractiveness; which can be defined in two different ways. First off, people tend to believe that beautiful things equal good things and are more likely to seek out relationships with individuals they find beautiful. However, people are also likely to form relationships with people they believe to be on
health, people are likely to pair up with partners of averagely the same level of
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When it comes to relationships the end goal for you and your significant other is to get married. The goal of marriage is a very elusive, it is almost like the top of Mount Everest and you need that special someone to complete the journey. Finding that significant other no easy task, so my WRC 1013 class took on the challenge of finding out what traits each gender looks for in their perfect mate. After we made a list of the most important traits we put them to the test, and everyone in our class surveyed five people and collected our results to see what traits people on campus think are important. Once we came to a conclusion on traits are important, we read about Ted Huston’s study on marriage. Combined with the research my class did and the
The most important of factors in this practice are the preferences of those selecting mates. Mate preferences have a scientific importance for several reasons. Mate preferences for instance determine whoever is chosen or excluded. This therefore influences the current direction of sexual selection. Mate preferences also determine which members of the opposite sex are high or low in value. In turn, this influences various variables ranging from social status and desirability of the selected mate. The mate preferences of one sex also conversely influence retention techniques effective on members of the other gender. Such tactics substantiate the wants of the person, one is attempting to retain or attract. Another importance of mate preferences is the fact that some of them might be adaptations that might have psychologically developed over time. Such preferences represent crucial solutions to fundamental mating challenges such as selecting a fertile mate or one able and willing to invest in an offspring. The preferences of one’s mate might also reveal crucial cultural values that when interrogated over a certain period of time document the evolution of various cultural values (Chang, 2010). As such, mate preference is the first step in the process of mate selection which aptly determines one’s choice of a mate. As such, it is impossible to understand mate selection in a certain population without understanding patterns in mate preferences. Mate preferences are especially important in Asian cultures where they are traditionally passed on from one generation to the other. As one grows older, the preferred mates by parents are passed on. As such, one eventually chooses a mate who is more or less agreeable to the entire family. As such, it is imperative to approach and understand the process of mate selection as an interactive process that is subject to disparate factors and circumstances (Chang,
People around the world have different views on what they are looking for in a spouse. It mostly depends on where and how they grew up. In the Indian culture, they usually have arranged marriages. Their parents put up ads in newspapers to show the criteria of what they are looking for in a spouse for their child. Some examples of the criteria Indians use are: age and height, family background, social class, skin color, how well their homemaking skills are, where they were educated, if they were taught english, how high of a degree they have, and their income. In the United States people often choose their spouses by meeting new people, matchmaking websites, or getting introduced to friends of friends. It is unusual for other people to make the decision for them. When choosing a spouse, Americans consider age, height, how family oriented the person is, if they share similar values and interest, religion, education, how attractive we think they are, and if they are trustworthy. Due to online dating the proximity of the person could be another factor.
In this paper, I will be writing a personal journal entry in response to the textbook, “Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity (9th ed.)” written by Spencer Rathus, Jeffery Nevid, and Lois Fichner-Rathus (2014). They discuss attraction and an attraction-similarity hypothesis. Rathus et al. define the meaning as, “…people tend to develop romantic relationships with people who are similar to themselves in physical attractiveness and other traits” (p. 193). With so many different physical features, shapes, heights, and weight of all people, the hypothesis makes sense and in general I have witnessed most couples to also fit this hypothesis. However, the text further discusses that physical attractiveness is more important to the male when selecting a female partner. I have also witnessed this trend with couples and the female being more physically attractive in the relationship. Going deeper attraction can also be based on similar interests, personalities, intelligence, education,
Throughout the world, there are people who have come to believe in soulmates. These individuals consider that there is one sole person on the planet that is meant to be their happily ever after. This group trusts that, as soon as one sees their potential partner, one’ll fall in love instantly. On the other hand, there exists another group of people that will roll their eyes at the sound of the word “soulmates” or the phrase “love at first sight”. This group has a distinct mindset; they do not regard relationships as something that happens by magic. Undoubtedly, they affirm that relationships require effort and time to truly develop. These two types of mindsets, also known as implicit theories of relationships, are remarkably common themes in
We seek relationships for many different reasons. There are romatic relationships and friendships we seek and form, to name a few. The factors on why we form relationships are appearance, similarity, complementarity, recipricocal attraction, competence, disclosure, proximity, and rewards. We say appearance doesn't matter, but it does, especially important in the early stages of relationships. The more the phsyical attractive a person is the more that person will be desirable. Similarity is something we look for in a relationship. Research shows we like people who are similar to ourselves. I agree, but I think when it comes to romatic relationships similarity is not always good, because if the person is too similar to the their partner; then
These percentages haunt people who engage in modern dating because it is such a casual part of life it seems now. The different rates can also be explained by studies of cultural habits that start with simply how one sex treats the other (Meltzer 2011:150). Socioeconomic status plays a part in how and why people choose to marry because it could possibly be for survival purposes (Meltzer 2011). The way that modern day adults and teen date is completely different from how they once dated. This can be positive or negative as many things are less taboo in today’s world and is possibly a contributor to why people divorce (Meltzer 2011:148).