While many may think that adoption is wrong, like you are giving up on a child or a banding your responsibility that is not always the case. Because you see in my case it was a blessing for everyone involved. There are many couples out there that cannot have children due to medical reasons and want them. If you find the right family for your bundle of joy you both will live a happy healthy life. While still being a part of each other’s life. How you may be thinking? Continue to read this some sad, but very happy story and you too will see how Julia’s adoption was one of the biggest blessings in my life. It was late February in 1998 when I found out I was expecting another child. I was 16 years old. It should have been a happy day it was my daughter’s 1st birthday party and everyone was there. The house was full of family and friends and smelled of chill and cake. Please don’t get me wrong, it was a happy day for the most part until I found out I was pregnant. Scared and not knowing what to do, I kept this what most would call exciting news to myself. You see I was dating a man and he was not a very nice person he was mentally and physically abusive to me most of our relationship and he was the soon to be father. A month or so went by after I told him and we were both somewhat excited him more than I. I was more scared then anything. He managed to get himself into some legal trouble and was sent away for a long time. Where did that leave me? I was scared to death
Adoption can be a wonderful and joyous situation for a child and parent. I personally feel like the ideal of adoption is the birth mother or father, basically giving their child a better chance at life. “About 10% of couples in the United States are affected by infertility. Both men and women can be infertile. According to the Centers for Disease Control, 1/3 of the time the diagnosis is due to female infertility, 1/3 of the time it is linked to male infertility, and the remaining cases of infertility are due to a combination of factors from both partners. For approximately 20% of couples, the cause cannot be determined”(webmd.com). Adoption gives these families a chance of having a family that includes children. “Compared to long-term
There are many reasons people feel the want or need to adopt. Infertility is one of the many reasons. People have reported that, when asked what they felt when they could not have children, they felt useless, disappointed and even heartsick. Adoption is an option to couples who cannot have children or would prefer to adopt. Couples and families that do adopt face many questions and emotions, as they are forming a new bond between someone they may or may not know.
When you unexpectedly became pregnant, it likely took a lot of tough soul-searching and contemplation before you finally decided that it would be in your baby's best interest to place it for adoption. It takes a very selfless person to put a child's best interest before their own, and you likely know you are making the best decision. If you know who the father of your child is, then you may be contemplating not telling him for fear that he will try to make you keep the baby. The father may be an ex-boyfriend or one of several potential past partners. However, if you don't at least attempt to notify the father, it can pose problems later for you, the baby, and the adoptive parents. Read on to find out why you must try to notify the paternal father and what to do if he wants to keep the child.
Leanna, you had some good points and it was understandable. Adoption is a long process and can takes months before the adoptive parents can get the child. My aunt did an unrelated adoption to my cousin’s best friend. Her mother died and she was a teenager, so too young to take care of herself. Since she was older enough to make her on decision she was staying with my aunt before the adoption was process. The adoption agency is responsible for that child and on how his or her future might in up. You do not want to give a child to the wrong people. Not everybody qualify to become an adoptive parents. It is more to it than that, there are good people who want kids, but really do not have the financial support for the child. Independent adoption
Previously, I thought that adoption was easy. This course has taught me that it is not as simple as it seems, and there are many different issues that need to be considered. Adoption is an amazing gift for couples who are unable to have children. There are many problems that couples face when they cannot conceive. It is heart-wrenching for couples who need to endure years of trying and hoping, only to see their efforts fail or end in miscarriages. Thankfully, there is a way for these childless couples to become parents through adoption. “There are approximately 1.5 million adoptees under the age of 18 years in the United States, accounting for just over 2% of the population” (Nickman et al., 2005). Though we may take fertility for granted,
Children who are in adoption homes don't get all the care, love, and life lessons that we do, so by adopting you can provide them with that whether you are a single parent or a married couple. There are about 2.5 million kids that are homeless in the United States at this point, according to the study from the National Center on Family Homelessness. That's about 1 in 30 children who are homeless. Just by giving them one parent who can love and care for them, increases their rate of survival. Children who are adopted are also known to have very low moods, and usually are diagnosed with depression; just by adding one tiny speck of hope and support in their lives. means a whole lot. Children are enormous blessings, and a child's only choice is to be
Well, when people put their children up for adoption in most cases is an act of selflessness because they know that if the child stays with them that they won't be able to live up to the full and successful life that they are meant to have. There are other cases when people put their child up for adoption because they have been raped and can't deal with raising a child that will remind them of that moment, or they just can't handle the child because they are a teen who got pregnant or someone who has a mental disability who can`t take care of a child by thereself and they know that the child will be better with someone
Adoption has multiple benefits that come along with adopting a child. When adopting a child that child who has not had any love or parental support will gain parents, love, someone who cares, and the feeling of want. Adopting a child will bring one more kid away from an unhealthy and unsafe environment. Parents who adopt will have someone who cares about them for the rest of their lives and the parents will know that there has been a good thing done by adopting an innocent child. Adopting is an amazing thing and will make the parents happy and the child as well. If a couple does not want to adopt but the couple wants to get involved fostering a child until that child is adopted is a great way to get involved. There are several ways to get involved and help when it comes to child that need help and adopting and fostering
Imagine growing up not knowing who your parents are, or if they’re even alive. Adoptees can start to feel like they’re not good enough for their birth parents. Adoptees deserve to have access to their birth records because if they don't, it can cause them a lot of pain, make them feel rejected by their birth parents, and could even make them feel shame or guilt about being adopted.
The process can be very stressful for the awaiting child and the adopting family. It involves a great deal of paperwork, as well as the assistance of lawyers, social workers, and judges to finalize the process. Sometimes a couple can have a lot invested into the process only to be denied. Then they have to start the process all over again or give up, but to these people the need to
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The adoption of a child is “the legal arrangement between the foster parents and the biological parents where the rights to care for the child are transferred to the foster parent”(Andriola), who eventually becomes the adoptive parent. There are many reasons as to why a child ends up for adoption. Often when parents are unable to provide basics needs for a child such as food and or shelter. Other cases are when a child's parents are no longer living or are not in good health. The adoption of a child most often takes place at a young age, meaning that they usually do not know that they are adopted. It is all up to whether or not the adoptive parents chose to inform the child of this information. However, there are many discrepancies as to whether
Have you ever changed your mind about a life altering decision? This is something many young couples and mothers are facing after the adoption of their children. So, what if they change their minds by law what are their options? This topic is possibly the worst fear that adoptive parents can face. There is no law nationally that pertains to giving back parental rights to a mother, or couple after giving up them up for adoption, instead it is decided on a state law to state law basis. When adoption is decided it is key for the mother to be giving up her parental rights voluntarily. In many states there is a waiting period for a mother to change her mind, and regain the parental rights. For example, according to Indiana Code 31-19-2-10 the mother has five days to file a petition after the adoption has been filed. When a mother gives up their child for adoption they are warned through rigorous amounts of paperwork that they only have a certain amount of time to retain the child. An issue that is often brought up during this topic is the disruption it could have on a small child’s wellbeing if the court were to rule in the favor of the birth parent. In most cases the ruling is in favor of the adoptive parents due to the best interests of the child. An example of this is in the case Bidwell V. McSorely “where the care and custody of a child were concerned, the paramount issue was the best interests of the child.” Bidwell V. McSorely. 194 Va. 135, 72 S.E.2d 245 (1952) The stable
Adoption is a wonderful and rewarding way to grow a family. When you open your heart and house to a child through adoption, you make an everlasting commitment. It is an important decision that requires thought and discussion among the entire family. Adopting a child is without a doubt a life changing experience that requires patience and dedication. This experience allows families to change a child’s life who one day may have thought that they would never be loved. Parents who adopt from infertility have already felt what loss and disappointment feels like due to not being able to bear a child. Many times these same parents have experienced prior miscarriages or even unsuccessful fertility clinics. For them, the opportunity to adopt is a
Adopting children is common all around the world. It has been a normal thing to see for a while. What many do not know is that a single person can take ownership of someone in their youth. It has been allowed for a while, yet many people who I have asked are not knowledgeable on the subject. People who plan to adopt or have kids in the future can benefit from this. It is an awesome way to have a child at any stage of life. I know that many people are looking to have children but cannot because of one reason or another. The problem is, some people say that one parent isn't enough to raise a child. With more issues happening in the world, people tend to worry more about how each child will be when they grow up. Equally, I get where people are coming from if they believe that.