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A Reflection On My Life

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I 'll be honest, I 've had some trouble coming up with words for this one. Between the two saved drafts of my best attempt to scope a coherent thought - that sat open on my laptop screen for several days, available at any moment for my emotional outpouring - I started to feel balance again. In retrospect, like any proper moment of clarity I guess, I used those empty email boxes as a token of escape - a space to distance the thoughts swimming around my head into the somewhere else of Internet purgatory. I didn 't have trouble because I felt anger or rejection that your note didn 't align with my ask, but because I concluded I still want to keep the door open to you and I 'm hesitant, in my own way, about how to navigate those feelings and actions that have transpired in having you as the object of my affection but not.

I 've thought a lot about the way a romantic relationship fits into my life and to what degree it matters. It 's an ever evolving notion, much in the way that human desires, expectations, and priorities are vague and often the product of a time and place. I used to have this idea that romantic love wasn 't required for my personal development, and I prided myself in its absence, that I had somehow broken free from cultural ideals that threatened the autonomy of my lifestyle. Which was sometimes good and sometimes condescending given that I used it as a way to embolden my own sense of rightness. I don 't presume I was ever wrong in thinking I needed a partner

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