The strong, opinionated, ‘my-way’ aspect of the authoritarian parenting style has been passed down to the family members, where it is a fight for who is right. In contrast, some members of the family are lazier, will not do daily tasks for themselves, and do not pick up the slack. The Olson textbook (2014) discusses Eric Erickson’s stages of aging and one stage is where an able-bodied person does not wish to be mobile and uses age as an excuse. Since her forties, my Grandmother has not cooked and was not disciplining her children. This passive parenting provides an example of disorderliness and laziness, which Sister and Youngest Brother have exhibited, and yields neglected chores and an untidy home. Typically, Sister is left alone in her room to play on her computer and draw while Youngest Brother is consumed in his devices. Neither will help on their own with chores or cooking so Mom and I are making up for their uncooperativeness. As indicated on my genogram, the stars of the family are typically the oldest daughter, who runs the household, cares for the siblings, and nurses their elderly parents. These three members of the family all exhibit this lazy lifestyle and passive aggressiveness in their communication methods. Thus, strict discipline and unchanging rules are established to help balance the lack of responsibility and more …show more content…
My faith in Christ and college experiences have taught me the freedom found in Christ and wider perspectives than the boundaries I am held to within my family system. I have changed my view from needing my parents’ permission to now asking advice as I am maturing; however, I must still consider my actions that my parents believe reflect how they raised me. I can demonstrate humility and God’s teachings by putting my desires aside sometimes and respecting my parents’
According to psychologist Diana Baumrind, there are four different parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, uninvolved, and authoritative. (p. 339) Authoritarian parenting is a strict form of parenting that demands obedience and respect, but offers little support. Children of authoritarian parents often do not have a healthy relationship with their parents due to the lack of communication. Permissive parents are known as the “cool” parents among adolescents. This parenting style is relaxed and comes with hardly any rules. Permissive parents have a very warm relationship with their child; however, this style is counterproductive in child rearing because they act as a friend instead of a parent who sets boundaries. Uninvolved parenting is the most detrimental to a child’s psychological health. Uninvolved parents are indifferent to their child’s activities, emotional state, and overall well-being. They are neglectful and even reject their children from being a part
Children do not come with guidelines or instructions. What they do come with is a crucial set of physical and emotional needs that need to be met. To raise children properly, parents duties are not limited to just food, shelter and protection. Parents are largely responsible for their children’s success in life. Parents are required to teach and educate children. They have to shape knowledge and character into their children to prepare them to face the real world. To be successful with this, parents must provide self esteem needs, teach moral and values and provide discipline that is both effective and appropriate. As the generations have changed, many parenting styles have evolved, as well.
The parenting style in the home will result in differences in the children’s behavior. For example, an authoritarian parent is controlling, punitive and strict. Their rules are not flexible and do not tolerate expressions of disagreement. These
Moving is hard. Growing up in the same place, in the same house, with the same people for you whole life and then having to be torn away to move to a new city is a hard thing for anyone, especially children. Riley Andersen, a twelve-year-old girl from Minnesota, goes through a big move when her father gets a new job. Riley and her family have to move to San Francisco, California, moving away from her community, her friends, hockey team, and everything else she has ever known. Her and her two married parents experience stress, unhappiness, and how Community shapes children. Community is a place for a person that involves a neighborhood and the area that surrounds them. Children develop by creating close bonds with people in their community, through things like school or a sports team. (CITE BOOK) The children also develop based on the quality of the neighborhood surrounding them. If the community is a good, wealthy community, a child will most likely partake in sports and good activities; however, if the community is poor,
B. tend to develop a heavily planned networking group that allows them to get in touch with the best tutors, contacts, and acquaintances
The parenting style that I believe most influenced my development is the authoritarian parenting style. The book uses a phrase that I can relate to very well, “Because I say so.” I grew up with two loving parents and I would be lying if I said I did not have a good childhood; however, my parents expected my sister and I to do exactly what they told us to do without question. For example, on a saturday my dad would wake up and say “today we are going biking,” and we would go biking and I would hate every minute of it. I would always ask why we had to go or I would tell him that I had already made other plans, but he would just tell me to stop asking questions because we were going regardless. This is just one of so many instances where my parents
Tyler who’s now 5 was told to pick up his toys before dinner, he has not done so and is throwing a tantrum because he said it too much work.
Most parents would agree that when they first became parents, there wasn’t a book available to them instructing them on the type of parent they wanted to be to their children. I can guess they would say they took their lead from the parenting style of their parents. Were their parents authoritarian or permissive? Did they agree with the parenting style of their parents? Do they believe they owe it to their parents to follow their lead in parenting style? How each child of these distinct parenting styles gauges the effectiveness of the parenting on their lives will lead them in their direction. To help make the decision on the parenting style that works best for any parent, you need to first understand the definition of each parenting style, examine the different attitudes to each parenting approach and explore the long term consequences for children of such parents.
We hope to collect a convenience sample of at least 50 students at the University of Wisconsin- Eau Claire, during the 2016 spring semester. To achieve this we will distribute our survey through the SONA system, in relationship with the Eau Claire campus. Researchers will also share the survey on social media pages that have connections with the university. Together all responses will make up the final convenience sample.
Picture yourself in a gas station and across from you stands a man and his son. The son is yelling and kicking on the ground. Everyone in the gas station is observing the son’s awful behavior and that the dad’s frustration level is rising. How can the little boy be taught that this type of behavior is not tolerated? Many parents would be compelled to take their kid home and use strict punishment to discipline their behavior.
Another concept that relates to Jose experience of immigrating to the United States, is parenting styles. Parenting styles refers to ways in which parents raise their children. This means parents’ level of rules, expectations, demands, and the style of discipline that the parent’s develop to impose their expectations. According to Canary and Canary (2013), there are three types of parenting styles. First, authoritative parenting, it involves warmth, low negativity, monitoring, and reasonable control. Secondly, disengaged parenting, it involves moderate negativity, low monitoring, low control, and low positivity. Thirdly, authoritarian parenting, it involves high levels of conflict, monitoring, control attempts, and little positively (p.67). Parenting styles relates to Jose experience because his parents raise Jose in an
Authoritarian is only one of three parenting styles that Baumrind details. The other two styles include authoritative and permissive. These two variations in parenting styles were seen in the way my relatives and friends’ parents approached parenting. I observed how the parents of my close friend handled parenting. They maintained control over aspects in my friend’s life like school and chores but allowed the freedom to make decisions in areas of social activities. The most striking difference between my parents and my friend’s is the use of reasoning and the expression of warmth. Her parents provided justification behind their commands and or punishments while maintaining a sense of love and affection. The bond and love that is evident between my friend and her parents is not as strong in the relationship between my parents and me. The style that her parents exhibit is known as authoritative because of their focus on some parental control, use of reasoning and warmth. While on the other hand, my cousins raised their children in a completely different manor using a permissive parenting style. While they provide obvious love and affection towards their children, they fail to exert control and regulations. They did not have any real sense of rules in their household. Their children tend to act and do whatever they wanted with little to no repercussions.
Punishment and Parenting play key roles into ways a child develops into an upcoming adult. In many cases they go hand in hand. For example corporal punishment can be included in two out of the four parenting styles which are authoritarian and authoritative. But what this paper focuses on are the effects of inadequate punishments and their correlation with a certain parenting styles that many mistake as reasonable and justifiable but are really unethical ways of trying to reinforce a goal behavior and may have terrible long term outcomes on the child.
In the early 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrid conducted a research, analyzing child-parent behavior, seeking to identify parenting styles. The Baumrid study and other further studies identified four main styles of parenting (Miller, 2010): the authoritative parenting style was characterized by fair rules and consequences; The Authoritarian parenting style was characterized by strict rules and harsh punishment; the permissive parenting style was characterized by minimal rules with little or no consequences; the uninvolved parenting style was characterized by no rules, and parent presence was almost non-existent. In this paper, I’m going to look at the authoritarian style of parenting in an attempt to draw out its characteristics and its immediate and later impacts on children impact.
The concept of different types of parenting styles has been influenced by Baum rind’s (1971) classification of parents into authoritarian, permissive and authoritive styles which has a great impact on children’s maturity, communication styles, achievement at school and other characteristics (Darling & Steinberg, 1993). It also has a great impact on children’s religious views, tolerance and involvement. Conservative and liberal parents have a drastic difference in their parenting. The definition of Conservative is “tending or disposed to maintain existing views, conditions, or institutions” (Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary, 2016) .A very recent research found that conservative parents put more emphasis on teaching that their children are